Rob Bell marries David Hayward

Rob Bell marries David Hayward April 1, 2013
rob bell and david hayward wedding cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward
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In a bold move over the weekend, theologian and writer Rob Bell marries cartoonist David Hayward, also known as the nakedpastor. Bell came out a few weeks ago in support of same sex marriage just after the publication of his latest book What We Talk About When We Talk About God. Friends and family surmise that this surprise wedding is Bell’s determination to stand behind his word. Bell has been heard to say, “I want to walk the talk!” No one expected he would go this far!

Hayward, also known for his cartoons in support of same sex marriage and LGBT issues, has been frequently asked if he was gay.

When we asked them for a comment, Hayward said, “This was a match made in heaven. Bell’s the thousand words and I’m the picture!” Bell exclaimed, “Love wins!”

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  • Gary

    LOL – Well that would certainly grab some headlines wouldn’t it?

    Would be a blast to watch all the fundies scramble to get the attack underway. 😉

  • Just to funny. Great way to start the day David. May you and Bell be truly happy.
    How is your wife with the whole mixed marriage thing? LOL

  • Pat Pope

    LOL! So, what happens to your wives?

  • Mark

    You guys make a lovely couple

  • they will cook and clean house for us

  • Carol

    Ahhh, the human imagination knows no bounds!

    “Reality is the cage of those who lack imagination.” –JBS Haldane, English Geneticist

  • David Kerr

    Remind me of today’s date.

  • Emily

    Wow. How original. We’ll pay lip service to equal rights and all that, but actually being gay?? What a ridiculous and funny idea! Hahaha. Oh, and thanks for the wives comment, too. Wouldn’t want any gender norms disturbed by those pesky queers! Even if they are just a joke.

  • EO

    Your April Fool’s stunt is offensive to the Queer Christian community. Stop. Just Stop. Don’t claim to be ally. A suggestion: use the ritual of April Fool’s day to make a mockery of something closer to home for you: white male Christian privilege.

  • EO: I’m not a member of the Queer Christian community. But I invite you to take some time to browse through my blog. Type in “gay” or “LGBT” in my search box for my blog and you will see, I hope, that I am an ally. And you will also notice that I already critique white male Christian privilege that is often manifested in church leadership.

  • Gary

    EO – Perhaps you should make an effort to get to know someone and their work before making such a statement. You could not possibly have missed the mark any more so than you did with David.

  • roseyaire

    Maybe your wives could marry each other too, and you two could do the cooking and cleaning for them.

  • sue

    LIKE! Very good… Nothing offensive here.

  • Great headline! Made me lol for real.

    Alas humor is a lost and failing art for many to the point that one day healing may no longer be offered to the blind for fear of offending the sight impaired.

  • No harm was intended by this on the gay Christian community, I am sure, or on gays in general. Fundamentalist Christians opposed to gay marriage, on the other hand… =;-)

    Good job! Say NO to Fundy… oh wait… that’s where I’m from. Um… say NO to… uh…. FundAYmentalism!

  • Caryn LeMur

    Well done! I laughed over this one automatically. A fun joke; and a fascinating moment to ponder,as well.

    EO: David is doing what all comedians do – taking a point, and stretching it until we laugh… and then David goes one better – by then allowing us to ponder why we find it funny or offensive or odd or….?. As a male-to-female transsexual that walks with Christ, I am quite use to many levels of humor about my wife and I… and this was a splendid joke, in my opinion.

    May I offer that the recently wounded cannot laugh until the scar stops bleeding? Then sometimes, we laugh in order to complete the healing process. May our Lord help you to see that all marriages are sacred and upheld by Him, for even the second through fifth relationship of the Samaritan woman was called a ‘marriage’ by Christ. If God held all Joshua (and generations that followed) to his vows concerning the Gibeonites, even though Joshua was deliberately deceived, how much more will God hold two men to their vows of marriage wherein there is no deliberate deception? So, they are honored by God; they are secure in their vows. Let the wound stop bleeding; and laugh; gay marriage is honored by the Father in heaven. We are secure.

    Much love in Christ always and unconditionally; Caryn

  • So it is not a real marriage between a same sex couple, chill. It is still a marriage. it is a marriage of Ideology, support, and action. It is also a great show of support.

  • This story is so bs. I know for a FACT that he married John MacArthur.

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  • Leah

    PURE awesome!. <3 <3 <3 110% support.

  • Leah

    And I hope some cores are rocked.

  • Sara Hayward

    Hahaha, everybody calm down. You know what? I TOTALLY fell for it! *gasp* “WHAT??!!”

  • T gordon

    WOW, why am I the only one saying that this was in poor taste? No matter how you feel about the subject, I don’t believe either side would look upon it as an April Fool joke…

  • Gary

    Really T gordon?

    If you even bothered to read the comments you would realize your statement is very much in error. Do you not believe we can laugh at ourselves? Gee whizz…what’s got your panties in such a knot?

  • Pat Pope


  • I love April Fools and have bent over laughing at some of the jokes this year, but on this one I chuckled and then went back to pondering the question, what is sacred? Comedians dance all over this, and theologians worry under it. Thoughts?

  • Kris

    Very handsome couple ;P LOL!

  • Wait. What?

  • katie kuehl

    not funny, in the middle of a war zone you decide to slap God in the face with your humor.
    Check your actions man of God if they cause others pain you are walking in disobedience..Ezekiel 34

  • katie: um… is this slapping God in the face? curious.

  • Gary

    Wow – Just Wow. A couple of these posters provide a very stark reminder of the absolute bullshit I left behind when I left the church.

  • Congratulations to you both. I send you peace, love and light for your Life together.

    Love Wins was a fantastic book and I often quote it when speaking to friends who are convinced that hell exists.



  • joy

    The whole time I was reading this I was thinking that Bell married Hayward and someone else. Being a Pastor and all and able to marry people. It wasn’t until I was reading how everyone was so offended about it that I realized it was a joke. ha ha ha. Lighten up people!

  • ruben

    wow, I’m glad this was an april fools joke! whew

  • Katie, nobody is “slapping God in the face” unless it is done out of hate. Speaking of which, that post did seem quite negative…

    Meanwhile, over in Europe, we seem to be somewhat more flexible with homosexuals in the church, at least in the “traditional” European churches that focused on the practicality and contexts of the written documents contained within the Bible. There are still some kinks to be worked out with all churches, of course, but at least it’s more of a progress than what I am reading and seeing back in North America. It’s so sad that so many North American churches are still acting in hostility towards the “other” being a part of their religious community. Jesus was all about incorporating the other into the community, so we ought to be doing the same.

  • Gayle Dixon

    …..and here I thought you were married to Adam Hamilton! Who knew!!!!?

  • Gun Nordström

    The former fundamentalist got this insight: By fighting Bell, I was in hell!

    So Katie, are’nt we always creating our own psykic stress and pains?

  • Carol

    Many contemporary people of faith define hell as a psychological state–separation from God, self and others, rather than a space-time place.

    Makes sense, since the fullness of Eternity lies beyond our space-time continuum. We get hints of that in the biblical text that reveals in Revelations 13:8 that “the Lamb was slain from the creation of the world.”

    Some of the messages from the OT prophets also seem to confound past, present and future. I guess that’s what happens when Eternity breaks into time in the Divine epiphanies.

  • when you take your eyes off the Cross of Jesus, you do stupid things, like marrying the person who is the same gender as you. But this is not surprising, Rob Bells had his eyes off the Cross for a long time.

  • If your faith is so weak as to not be able to tolerate those with different perspectives, may I suggest that you re-examine what your faith actually teaches about loving others?

  • You are indeed an ally! Ignore the naysayers and keep up the good work.

  • brad culver

    I’m disappointed i didn’t get an invitation to the blessed event.. all the best guys… great fun… bless ya Dave deep peace

  • Truth Guest

    This is an abomination.

  • Truth Guest

    The Sin and Doom of Ungodly People – Book of Jude

    Dear friends, although I was very eager to write to you about the salvation we share, I felt compelled to write and urge you to contend for the faith that was once for all entrusted to God’s holy people. For certain individuals whose condemnation was written about long ago have secretly slipped in among you. They are ungodly people, who pervert the grace of our God into a license for immorality and deny Jesus Christ our only Sovereign and Lord.

    Though you already know all this, I want to remind you that the Lord at one time delivered his people out of Egypt, but later destroyed those who did not believe. And the angels who did not keep their positions of authority but abandoned their proper dwelling—these he has kept in darkness, bound with everlasting chains for judgment on the great Day. In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire.

    Enoch, the seventh from Adam, prophesied about them: “See, the Lord is coming with thousands upon thousands of his holy ones to judge everyone, and to convict all of them of all the ungodly acts they have committed in their ungodliness, and of all the defiant words ungodly sinners have spoken against him.”

  • Guest

    Not funny.

  • Guest

    This is an insult to God’s Holiness and the Church.

  • Truth Guest

    Not funny.

  • Guest

    Different perspectives, yes. Sexual degradation perversion and filth such as LGBT–NO!!!!

  • Truth Guest

    This is a very sick joke.

  • Ya, ya we heard you the first time.

  • Pat68

    We got your point, Truth. Move along and troll elsewhere. But I guess, with the weakness of your argument, you feel the need to keep repeating it.

  • Carol

    Yes, it is!

  • Edward Costanza

    God loves homosexuals. Jesus died to pay the price for all sin – homosexuality included. He did not, however, die in our place for ours sin so that we could be free to walk in them. That outlook is Bell’s tragic misconception. Jesus was the brightness and express image of God the Father. Old testament scripture shows us that God the Father hated homosexuality so much He destroyed two entire cities because of it. Homosexuals and so called “progressive” Christians who have strayed from truth misconstrue that since sin is paid for, God no longer regards homosexuality as sin. But Homosexuality calls God a liar. It contends that two men who use each other’s anus’ for sexual gratification are in love and may therefore live in the covenant relationship God ordained between a man and a woman. Such foolishness is rank nonsense. Forgiving and condoning sin are two radically different things. – radical as the difference between life and death. Bell and progressive Christians clearly have it wrong.

  • Shawn Spjut

    Interesting that in the letter to Rome, where Paul discusses God giving mankind over to a reprobate mind, the original text of 1:28-32 lists the things that qualify us for ‘death’ – and sexual orientation isn’t one of them. But envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness, whisperers, back bitters, gossips, unforgiving, unmerciful, disobedient to parents – these are. So which is worse, LGBTH, or refusing to love and show mercy to all? Which is more deserving of death, a man who uses another man’s anus for sexual gratification, or one who calls him a ‘whore monger and a reprobate’?

    Somewhere along history Christian’s decided it was okay to assign a credit value to ‘sin’ But wasn’t part of Paul’s whole point, all – Jew, Gentle, LGBTH, eunuch or celibate – have fallen short of righteousness and the glory of God?

    And why is it that Jesus, who was the Word of God incarnate – walking talking, flesh and blood Scripture Himself, never equated love and the value of a human being with what kind of ‘sin’ they did? Not once did he tell people to get straight (sorry) and then you can be my friend.

    Our theology and doctrines, no matter how they are interpreted or by whom, do not make any of us righteous – the resurrection of Christ does. We didn’t not reconcile ourselves to God – Jesus Christ did.

    And the only person qualified to judge anyone is Jesus – and he refused to. So how do we justify doing what the Son of God Himself didn’t do?

  • Edward Costanza


    As I mentioned in my first response, and I’ll emphasize slightly here – Jesus died to take away all our sin, everyone’s sin. He did not however

  • Edward Costanza


    As I mentioned in my first response to Bell’s having come out of the closet, the purpose of Jesus’ death on the cross was to put away sin – not to grant license to sin. Your response to mine is misleading. In your first paragraph, you imply that I, or people who decry homosexuality, don’t love or show mercy to them. Nothing could be further from the truth. I love homosexuals as much as I love anyone else – maybe more because I sorrow for the burdens they carry because of their sin.
    I’m sure I’d love you too as much as any other person, Shawn, If I ever met you but I have to tell the truth as I understand it. Homosexuality is a teaching of devils. It calls God a liar. It says “Yeah sure, God…! You made man and woman to unite, or better yet reunite, as one – but we’ve decided that two men can do the same thing by using each others’ anus for sexual gratification and now we’ve redefined your truth to suit us.” God took a portion of the man’s side and formed a woman. Therefor, marriage is a reunion. A man can never reunite with another man and a woman can never reunite with another woman. It just doesn’t add up, Shawn. You may sign whatever kind of paper you wish in support of your pretention, but God simply will not recognize or legitimize it, ever. Meanwhile you assail the church and insist on tainting our children with the lie of homosexuality, being taught in our schools upon your insistence. Surely you must know that God will not hold you guiltless? It’s interesting that the bible addresses fornication as an unacceptable practice but you wish to believe that same sex is OK. Stop it Shawn. You’re going the wrong way and God won’t be pleased with your selfish twisting of His truth. Homosexuals pervert the gospel of truth because they want to be allowed to feel good about their sin. They know that Jesus is Lord but they are unwilling to work through the weakness that leads to their sin, so they seek to simply redefine sin not to include homosexuality. Sorry man… not buying it. Jesus loves you. So do I, but I refuse to tolerate any lie being promoted as truth. I’ll be praying for you, Shawn.

  • Edward Costanza

    V-e-r-r-r-r-y impressive and intellectual response, naked! For all your impressive resume’ you break down pretty quickly. That’s OK. I already know where you’re at. Consider this, readers: Homosexual men smell each other’s feces while they’re having an orgasm. I’m sure it’s all very uplifting. Homosexuals and their naïve supporters will simply label this repugnant expository fact of homosexuality as hate speech and try not to look too hard at it, angry that someone spoke it’s disgusting truth aloud. No – homosexuality is a mental, emotional and spiritual disorder. The problem with people like our nakedpastor is that they like it and that’s that. OK, now you can dis me. P.S., Long as I’m around, I’m not going to allow you to teach my children the lie of homosexuality unopposed.

  • Edward Costanza

    Truth Guest – I wish I had said that. Thank you. Homosexuals who rebelliously insist upon their sin will intentionally ignore or twist this decisive truth about the question, but that tells it like it is with abundant, refreshing and summary clarity. Thanks again.

  • Alterego

    “Old testament scripture shows us that God the Father hated homosexuality so much He destroyed two entire cities because of it.”

    And yet, *you* are the one who clearly “has it wrong” Edward, according to the Bible:

    “Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy.”
    -Ezekiel 16:49

    You’re welcome. 🙂

  • EstaAnn Ammerman

    Okay, I thought I lost my mind for a moment. I read through it and I couldn’t find the joke. I’m saying what is David trying to say to us here. I know it’s not true and I know I read it twice and was just about to go ask in TLS what is up with this April 1, 2013 blog…. oh, great. That’s me. Still falling for April fool’s jokes at Halloween. You are in trouble next year!

  • Edward Costanza

    Help me understand, alter… God, through Paul, rebukes the Corinthian church for not adressing the issue of a man fornicating with his step mother, but He’s OK with men using each others’ anus for sexual gratification. Weigh the entire counsel of the bible and it will become crystal clear very quickly that He still hates homosexuality. Thank God he forgives all sin, loving sinners like me despite my sins, but let’s not call a lie truth. You cherry picked one passage in an attempt to support your point, ignoring the many other passages clarifying your error. Stop it already…

  • Caryn LeMur

    Ed: Well, this post caught my attention. You finally admit you are a sinner. I had thought you came from a different philosophy.

    So, tell us. What sins do you continue within? Which sins do you truly struggle with? Which ones have you selected to not struggle against at this time?

    Sharing your real self with us might allow several of us to hear you better.

    For example, I am a transsexual. I was a male-presenting transsexual for years; and now am a female-presenting transsexual. To me, I should have stayed within the state that Christ called me… however, I simply collapsed and could not. So, after many years of struggle, I had peace with God about transitioning [Is 57], and now live fully as a woman that follows Jesus.

    Granted, ‘extreme A means nothing; extreme B means nothing; what matter is your faith expressing itself through love” [Gal]. But, being honest, for a time ‘being transsexual and working against it’ did matter to me.

    Fair enough? I’ve been disclosing. Now, it is your turn.

    Much love in Christ always and unconditionally; Caryn

  • Edward Costanza

    First, I want to thank you for responding to my comments. You show yourself to be a person with some courage and I always admire that. Next, I want to apologize if I came across as someone who thinks himself to be without sin or who is just somehow better than other people. We are all better in some way or another than each other but superior? … without sin? No. Not me. One other thing… I’m going to have to ask you to forgive me in advance – I don’t recognize you as Caryn. I don’t know your birth name, or I’d refer to you by it. That would probably just make you uncomfortable but the reason I won’t recognize you as Caryn is because I believe your decision to physically transgender is ultimately the result of various imbalanced influences in your life – and I personally don’t see supporting those causes as a healthy thing to do. I feel no malice toward you; that’s just my outlook on the controversy. That is a lot said. If you can get past that, we can have what I hope will be a very honest and forthright conversation on the subjects of homo/bi/transexuallity. I think we could probably learn a lot from each other.
    Like every Christian, I struggle against sin – all sin. Being specific and enumerating would serve no useful purpose I can see, so I won’t. We are all prone to sin and should try to live lives that reflect Jesus, doing Him honor in good faith, serving others in love and thereby shining His light to lead others to Him. The single greatest benefit and the central point of Jesus’ crucifix is that when we fall short of Jesus’ own perfection, our sins are covered anyway. That’s a good thing; isn’t it? We both know that benefit as something called grace. It’s unreasonable favor that is wholly undeserved. Here is where people like myself generally part ways with most people in circles you may associate in: People like me struggle with sin, succeeding against it, at least in some measure for spaces in time, then failing again and ultimately casting ourselves upon God’s grace, which is really good – reassuring, restorative, revitalizing. From what I can gather from things I’ve read on sites like the one that brought us to this discourse, people like yourself have cast off the battle. You’ve chosen rather to engage your sin and instead, call it righteousness. Then for conscience sake, you try to validate it by wrangling the words AND Spirit of God’s truth as recorded in the bible to say that sin is simply no longer sin and that people who still think it is simply don’t understand certain complexities of the bible. As an example, one author says that it’s OK for man to lie with man as long as he doesn’t do it “as with a woman”, claiming that the sin isn’t the act of homosex, but rather that one man made another to be subservient like a woman. That, of course, is a broad leap from the clear fact of that Leviticus passage. Only someone arching to believe that, straining with only one eye open, fearful that he or she will see the reality with clarity they won’t be able to deny, someone who is frantic to cling to what they desperately want to believe is true, would lower themselves to accept so plainly implausible a suggestion.
    I’m not here to make your life miserable, brother. I’m not here to point out your sin. I have enough of my own sins to account for. I’m not qualified to judge you or anyone else and I’m not qualified to condemn. I hope my own recognition and honest acknowledgement of that fact puts you at some ease. I’m not here to condemn anyone. That’s just not me. In short, brother – you’ve gone the wrong way. There are some strong voices out there. Strong voices in our heads too, at times. You’ve yielded to the wrong ones. That said, there’s still hope… lot’s of hope. Undoubtedly, Jesus still loves us all more than either of us could ever fathom but the only way you, me, we’re going to be able to live fulfilled and victorious lives is by accepting God’s truths as they truly are in the bible and by leaning on His grace for empowerment to walk in them in our personal relationships with him. Take it all for whatever it’s worth and get back to me if you so choose. If not, I understand and I wish you well.

    Ed Costanza

  • Caryn LeMur

    Ed: you wrote, “Being specific and enumerating [my own on-going sins] would serve no useful purpose I can see, so I won’t. ”

    However, hiding does serve a useful purpose: it keeps others from dealing to you the same that you have attempted to deal to me. Hiding your specific sins allows you to continue to preach to others, without anyone preaching to you. You have chosen a safe path in your journey.
    I shall leave you then, within your safety.

    Blessings to you on your journey; much love in Christ always and unconditionally; Caryn

  • Edward Costanza

    C. Le Mur… Your response is as crafty as the empty reassurances you read on this web site. Again, the difference between us, whether I choose to publicize my sins or not, is that I acknowledge my sins in repentance. You choose to justify yours so that you may cleave to them and worse still, you try to deceive others into accepting what is false as truth, for, convincing others re enforces your security about you errant choice. I too wish you well, loving you in Christ enough to not let you off the hook. The day you seek Him honestly with your whole heart, you will find Him and all the loving truth about your choice to cling to your sin that He is.

  • Edward,

    Nice God, Bad God, or No God… It seems that Caryn believes in the Nice God. I take it from your comments that you don’t believe in the No God. I wonder what that leaves for you?

  • Religion Suckz

    Love Wins & I love it! lol

  • Yovita WT

    In other words you want to say…your wives will be a housekeepers for you both right..??

  • wouldn’t that be nice?