Jesus said, “Take up your cross and follow me!” He didn’t say take up everyone’s. This is the danger every care-giver faces, including pastors. They either take up other people’s crosses, or some people are very pleased to burden you with their own. Many care-givers can’t resist the temptation to take on other people’s problems. In 1977 I read a line in a book by Easum and Bandy called, Growing Spiritual Redwoods: We found that thriving churches shun codependent relationships.... Read more