How I’m becoming a better Mom in 30 days

How I’m becoming a better Mom in 30 days January 13, 2017

Do you long to have a better relationship with your kids? I have transformed how I'm parenting by taking the 30 day Kindness Challenge!

I’m a failure as a mother.

Oh, I wish I could smile and laugh and tell you that being a mom is the easiest, most rewarding thing I’ve ever done, all while having perfect hair, the cutest outfit and my lipstick just so, but I can’t lie.

Sometimes it’s tough.

Sometimes I am overflowing with love for my boys that suddenly transforms to instant rage within a few seconds without any warning. Remember my Mommy Dearest moment – minus the lashings?

Friends, I need to become a better mom.

Do you ever feel like that? (Please tell me you do.)

30 days to becoming a better mom - how taking the Kindness Challenge is changing my relationship with my children

The truth is that I know I’m not alone in this. I’m pulling the veil away on this supermom-I-love-every-drop-of-this-parenting-thing charade. We are fooled by articles, social media, and TV shows that tell us being a parent is easy. And when we don’t reach those proposed standards, shame and disappointment set in. I more often worry about saving money for my boys’ therapy sessions instead of saving for college.

When I was invited to join in on the 30 Day Kindness Challenge, I felt as if someone had thrown me a life preserver. It was serendipitous.

The Kindness Challenge has been proven to improve your relationships by doing just these three things every day for a month.

  1. POSITIVITY: Say nothing negative about your person – either to them or about them to someone else.
  2. PRAISE: Every day, find one positive thing that you can truly praise or affirm about your person and tell them, and tell someone else.
  3. KINDNESS: Each day during the challenge, do a small act of kindness or generosity for them.

Isn’t that so easy? My husband and I are both pledging to work on our relationships with our sons.

30 days to becoming a better mom - take the 30 day Kindness Challenge to change how you interact in your relationships.

I know that by choosing our children as our focus, the challenge will be trying to navigate the fine line between discipline and kindness. Ashamedly, I must admit that I lose my patience far too often and being kind to my most precious treasures escapes me in the heat of the moment.

When I should be soft, I snap.

When I need to give a hug, I offer criticism instead.

When they need me to listen to them, I split my focus because it doesn’t seem important to me, but I know that little Lego creation means the world to them.


I have a long way to go and loads of improving to do, and I’m so excited to begin becoming better. I’m starting my challenge on January 16th and I would be so honored if you would join me! My challenge will end on Valentine’s day – which is a special day in our home, marking the day the boys dedicated their lives to Christ. I’ll be blogging about how my 30 Day Kindness Challenge is going.

Do you have a relationship you are desperately wanting to improve? You can choose anyone you wish. It can be your spouse, a parent or in-law, a co-worker, or even a friend.

If you sign up to participate, you will get one email each day with ideas on how to be kind that day. Won’t you join us? I would love to hear from all of you on your progress! Sign up here – you can pick the date you want to start.  Let’s make 2017 a year of kindness!

This program is based on the book The Kindness Challenge: Thirty Days to Improve Any Relationship.  If you would like your own copy, click here:

Do you long to have a better relationship with your kids? I have transformed how I'm parenting by taking the 30 day Kindness Challenge!

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  • Oh, yes, I remember those days. Even still the devil tries to trip me up by bringing up my failures as a mother day after day. One bright thought is they both said they don’t remember the difficult days or my reactions to them. Which is hope for you, too. While we strive to do the best we can, God sees our hearts and knows our desire to be the best momma possible. I’ll be praying for you for the next 30 days and the other mommas who will be working alongside you.

  • I love the idea of a kindness challenge!! I know sometimes I forget to do the “little” kindnesses that would mean so much to my family, friends, and even strangers I meet throughout my day. Looking forward to following your progress!!

  • Hi Jen. Just wanted to say you are not alone. All mom’s feel they could do or could have done things better. That’s a lot of pressure we moms put on ourselves, every single day. When my kids were small, we had good days and good moments and other times . . .ah, not so much. I too am looking forward to following your progress! Thanks for sharing with us at Brag About It.

  • Thank you so much Pamela! It’s so easy to get stuck in the frustration rut. It’s only been a few days and I’m amazed at the changes I’m noticing in my heart.

  • I’m amazed at the difference just a few days makes! I can already see my frustrations dissipate!

  • I’m blown away at how these few little changes are already making a huge impact and it’s only been a few days into the challenge! It is so comforting knowing that I’m not alone in this.

  • Sandra Garth

    We have 5 adult children and it was no walk in the park. Of course the good times outweigh the ones when I wanted to tear my hair out and ship them off someplace far far away. Looking back I definitely see how an little extra kindness would have gone a long way.

  • What a great post Jen. I think the perfect mom doesn’t exist and we all loose our patience at some point. As you said, the key for me is positivity, praise and kindness, I try really my best every day on those, which doesn’t mean I succeed but at least I’m happy I’m improving.
    Thanks for sharing it with us at Sweet Inspiration so others can benefit too. Enjoy the rest of the week.

  • I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to hear that I’m not alone with the parenting frustration! Thank you so much for being honest and sharing that with me! I so appreciate your encouraging words!

  • Thank you so much Pili! Your encouragement was just what I needed! I agree that the perfect mom doesn’t exist – and I’m glad to know I’m not alone in this parenting struggle!