The following song was an incredible help to me during the worst of my conflict with my mother after leaving fundamentalism. I think it’s especially pertinent for adult children of fundamentalists, as we were raised with such stark distinctions between believers (our brothers and sisters) and the enemy (“the world”). Most of us have also experienced the jarring realization that our families don’t see us anymore, just the “worldly” caricatures we know so well. I’ve posted the lyrics to the whole song below the jump, since I really can’t single out any of them – the whole thing is too perfect.
If you listened to Who I Am, you’ll recognize Mandi Perkins, who is Of Verona‘s lead vocalist. (Language warning: one f-bomb.)
Of Verona:
The Enemy

We’ve become strangers
Walking a strange line
In time, out of step, out of line
It happened in stages
I was changing
I was changing without you
And I’m falling away
I’m falling away now
And I’m sorry, darling
But I’ve broken it down
And I need to see this through
And how did I become the enemy?
Thought this was everything you wanted from me
Have I become what you feared
Should I disappear this time
How did I become the enemy?
‘Cause I was your angel
Talking a good game
The same one you taught me to play
You kept me in cages
With gilded spaces
Too small for me to stay
Now I’m falling away
Falling away now
And I’m sorry darling
But I’ve broken it down
And I need to see this through
So how did I become the enemy?
Thought this was everything you wanted from me
Have I become what you feared
Should I disappear this time
How did I become the enemy?
How did I break you down
I let you in and you f**ked me around
I tried my best, you should know
You should have let me go
So how did I become the enemy?
Thought this was everything you wanted from me
And how did I become the enemy?
Thought this was everything you wanted from me
Have I become what you feared
Should I disappear this time
This time, this time
How did I become the enemy?
This time, this time
How did I become the enemy?