This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanization Note: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is... Read more
A few weeks ago, John from the blog John’s Ramblings asking if I would do an interview for his site, and I agreed to. The post went up yesterday, so if you’re interested, check it out! I answer questions about feminism, reproductive justice, growing up fundamentalism, and more. What do you mean when you say you are working your way from fundamentalism to freedom (without losing my mind)? Growing up fundamentalist shapes your mind in a specific way. You’re taught lies... Read more
This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault, victim blaming, and dehumanization Note: this research mainly focused on female rape, so I am not sure if the same trends toward rape myth acceptance would apply in cases of male rape. If anyone wants to see if research has been done on that subject and report back, feel free. Though it is... Read more
Trigger Warning for Discussion of Racism/Racial Slurs A few weeks ago, during a slow day at work, I listened to two of my coworkers strike up a conversation about “the n word.” One of my coworkers was opposed to anyone using the word. He told my other coworker that he knows other black people disagree, but he would rather not hear anyone–including black people–say it. My other coworker responded that this word was “just a word,” and “I just don’t... Read more
If you haven’t read my other two posts on sexual ethics, I suggest you do so to get the full context. The first post can be found here, and the second here. As a reminder, I’ve been talking about a few basic guidelines that can help people form a holistic sexual ethic. I’m doing this to combat the idea that purity-culture and/or wait-til-marriage Christians have a monopoly on ethical sex, and the idea that waiting until marriage is in itself... Read more
Martin Luther King Jr. (paraphrasing Theodore Parker) once said, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” I want to believe that’s true. I have to believe that’s true. But after this week, I’m beginning to think that Dr. King’s arc looks more like a roller-coaster. Of course, Dr. King certainly knows better than I ever will that justice doesn’t just happen, and that no matter how many strides you make forward, someone’s always going to be... Read more
The other day, I talked about how I’ve noticed over the past few months many Christians talking about “sexual ethics.” I mentioned that, even Christians trying to move away from shaming and purity culture often fall into this dichotomy of “marital sex as ethical” vs. “premarital sex as dangerous, objectifying, and trying to avoid consequences.” I think sexual ethics are important. I also think they look a little different from person to person. And Idefinitelythink that views which dichotomize marital... Read more
I know I told you the other day that I would be too busy to post much this week. Well, that’s true. I’m pretty busy. But when your choices are “write a paper for health class” and “write about SEX” which are you going to choose (unfortunately, my paper for health class is not about sex)? Really, though. I’ve been seeing conversations about sex circling throughout the blogging world, and I want to add my own thoughts. This isn’t a... Read more
Hi, readers. This is just an update to let you know that, although I have not been blogging as often as I usually do, I am alive and well. I’ve been finishing up a few summer classes the past couple of weeks, and should be done next Wednesday. Until then, however, I’ll be super busy! When I do have free time, I’ll probably be resting my brain by playing Zelda or reading books about rapid dogs. Once school is out... Read more
Would Father’s Day be different . . . If Christianity wasn’t preaching that, not only are they allowed to hit their children, but they must hit their children in order to be good fathers? If complementarianism wasn’t telling dads that it’s a woman’s job to raise children, and that caring, nurturing men are “emasculated?” If society wasn’t still pumping out the tired, old idea that masculinity equals power, and that men who do not have complete control over their families are not real... Read more
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