TRIGGER WARNING: Rape (thanks to Ryan Stauffer for bringing this to my attention) Recently, The Good Men Project–who think of themselves as “a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century”–tweeted a story that I blame for the fact that I skipped lunch today. It literally made me lose my appetite. I’ve had problems with The Good Men Project in the past (this post by Amy Mitchell lays out just of few of my reasons why).... Read more
When I first started dating my now-fiance, I had just recently begun calling myself a feminist. I had just recently begun to look at the way the world around me privileged men and say, “Hey! This isn’t right.” Thanks to my new found worldview, I saw Abe as having privilege over me. I expected him to be aware of that privilege, and I expected him to be extremely careful not to use that privilege in ways that might hurt me. I... Read more
{trigger warning for rape} This is a follow up to my recent blog post, “Complimentarianism’s ugly relationship with rape” I recently wrote a blog post in which I proposed that complementarianism benefits from rape culture. This post got me called a slanderer, a totalitarian communist propagandist, and even got me compared to a rapist lurking in the dark corners of the internet waiting to attack innocent men like Douglas Wilson and call them rape advocates against their will. This follow-up post... Read more
[Trigger warning: rape apologism] [Update: I’ve changed some mentions of “evangelical leaders” to “complementarian leaders” to clarify that I am referring specifically to complementarians in this post. I have a habit of using the two interchangeably because of my experiences in evangelicalism, but there is a growing number of awesome feminist evangelicals out there who don’t deserve to be lumped in with complementarians] Over the past few months, I’ve called out evangelical Christian leaders and bloggers like Douglas Wilson, Jared Wilson,... Read more
Here’s an interesting quote I found while reading the book Feminist Research Practice, by Sharlene Nagy Hesse-Biber and Patricia Lina Leavy (emphasis mine): In many societies…knowledge is produced and controlled by the ruling class. The prevailing interpretation of reality will reflect the interests and values of the ruling class. Because of its commitment to maintaining power, the ruling class seeks to conceal the ways in which it dominates and exploits the rest of the population. The interpretation of reality the... Read more
Hi friends! I’m over at Love, Joy, Feminism today talking about purity rings. My cousin gave me a purity ring for Christmas in 2005. She also gave them to several other young women in our Independent Fundamental Baptist youth group. I don’t think any of us fully realized what we were saying to the world by wearing them—“I have never had a penis in my vagina!”—but we wore them with pride. When another girl would get too involved with a... Read more
This piece at John Shore’s blog just awakened all kinds of emotions for me: In surviving the worst survivors of IFB have become the best. The writings that I’ve read from former IFBs are some of the strongest testimonies to the strength and decency of the human spirit that I’ve ever come across. I appreciate being asked to offer you guys a word of support, but you should be offering support to me and anyone else lucky enough to hear what you... Read more
[Trigger warning for rape apologism and Mark Driscoll quotes] Growing up, the book of Esther was always my favorite because it featured two very brave women. First, there was Vashti. I’ve loved Vashti ever since a grade school teacher came to class dressed up as Vashti and told us the story about how she had been exiled by the king because she asserted herself and refused to dance for the king’s drunken friends. She was a brave woman who claimed her... Read more
Before I start this blog post, some definitions for anyone not familiar with trans* issues! According to wikipedia, “transgender is the state of one’s gender identity (self-identification as woman, man, neither or both) not matching one’s assigned sex (identification by others as male, female or intersex based on physical/genetic sex).” A transgender person is someone who doesn’t believe the gender they were assigned at birth accurately describes them. Gender identity is different than sexual orientation. Some trans* people are gay. Some are... Read more
The following is a book review of Rosalie de Rosset’s book, Unseduced and Unshaken: The Place of Dignity in a Young Woman’s Choices. I’ve been given a copy of the book to give to one of my readers, so if you’re interested in a free book, leave a comment! When I first began reading Unseduced and Unshaken (which one of my twitter followers joked sounded like what you’d get when you played a James Bond film backwards), though there were a... Read more
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