Stop Blaming the Woman at the Well

Stop Blaming the Woman at the Well 2026-03-05T10:39:21-04:00

Stop Blaming the Woman at the Well
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Jesus also begins with his own vulnerability. Jesus does not approach the woman as a benefactor dispensing charity from heaven. He begins instead by asking for help. In doing so, he affirms the woman’s dignity, agency, and humanity. He positions himself as one who needs, and so disrupts those boundaries that had established hierarchies that privilege the powerful and silence the marginalized. This, too, speaks to our justice work today. Too often, charity and justice work do not risk mutuality or genuine solidarity but end up reproducing the very inequalities they seek to undo.

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This is Part 2 of the series Justice Lessons at the Well

(Read this series from its beginning here.)

Our story then moves beyond a drink of water. Jesus offers the woman “living water,” a metaphor for life that restores, sustains, and liberates. Jesus offers this freely, without condemnation or dehumanization. He communicates that he knows and understands the woman’s social location. She has been rejected over and over in her patriarchal society and even now is not being valued. The man she is in a relationship with won’t even take her as her husband. These statements mean much more in a patriarchal context where women are not in control of their standing than they do in an egalitarian context. Jesus is offering the woman something more than her current situation can offer.

As our story unfolds, we encounter a society where women had little to no agency over their marriage, divorce, or social standing. Too many Christian interpretations frame this woman’s marital history of five husbands and living with a man “not her husband” as a moral failure on her part. It plausibly reflects more structural vulnerability than personal sin. In the ancient world, women were commonly married off for economic or political reasons, divorced at a husband’s discretion, and left dependent on male protection for survival. Repeated marriages could easily signal abandonment, widowhood, or exploitation.

Jesus’ interaction with this woman is therefore radical. Again, he speaks publicly with a woman, a Samaritan, and someone marked by social stigma. These were three intersecting forms of marginalization. Rather than shaming the woman at the well, though, Jesus names her reality honestly and entrusts her with revelation that honors her value. He offers her “living water,” not as a reward for moral reform, but as a gift that bypasses the patriarchal systems that have failed her. Access to the abundant life (justice) is no longer mediated through husbands, temples, or respectability, but offered directly to her in her full humanity and agency.

The woman’s response further subverts patriarchal norms. She questions Jesus’ theology, engages him as an equal conversational partner, and ultimately becomes the first herald of the gospel in John by bringing her community to encounter Jesus themselves. Her voice, which would have been dismissed or silenced too often in her society, becomes the vehicle for change in John’s gospel.

This story challenges readings that individualize blame while ignoring oppressive systems that create the harm in first place. Instead of asking “What did she do wrong?”, our story asks us to consider “What structures left her with so few choices?” Jesus models a justice that restores dignity to this woman, encourages listening before judging, and centers her as someone harmed by social arrangements she did not create. The Samaritan woman reminds us that liberation begins when marginalized people are seen not as problems to fix, but as partners in truth-telling and change.

Next, the dialogue between Jesus and the Samaritan woman turns on a deeply contested question. We’ll pick up there in Part 3.

 

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About Herb Montgomery
Herb Montgomery, director of Renewed Heart Ministries, is an author and adult religious educator helping Christians explore the intersection of their faith with love, compassion, action, and societal justice. You can read more about the author here.

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