Raising Self-Reliant Tweens And Teens

For Tweens
Tweens thrive on emerging independence. “Encourage them to develop before and after school routines that have a balance of work and play,” said Dr. Angela Grace, registered psychologist. Here is just a partial list of what tweens are capable of doing.

Tweens can…

Do their own laundry
Mow the grass with a push lawn mower
Hang pictures with hammer and nails
Plan meals with grocery lists
Visit friends longer distances from home
Order your meal at a restaurant
Start a personal service business (like dog walking, babysitting, plant watering, lawn mowing, etc.
Use basic drills and hand tools to fix or build things
Cook a full mean for the entire family
Wash the family car
Stay home alone.

For Teens
Teens can sometimes feel put-upon when it comes to chores because they are older and more capable of doing many of the household tasks. “Teens need to know that their contributions are valued,” Dr. Grace said. “A ‘thank you!’ goes a long way. Combine creating routines, inviting input, problem solving, freedom to choose, and cheerful reinforcement to reinforce the skills to becoming a self-reliant adult.” Here are just some of the things teens can do.

Young Teens (13 to 15) can…