Today, as I think everyone is the entire world must know, is called “Black Friday,” as in the busiest shopping day of the year. That’s awful name for it–I saw somewhere that it should be named “Greed Friday” but that really doesn’t make sense. People are not being greedy today–they are actually being generous as most shop to purchase gifts for others. Well, some of them are. I just read that about 50% of what is bought today will be... Read more
Note: this is an excerpt from An Ordinary Death: Where Grief and Relief Hold Hands, available from Amazon.com. I spent an hour in bed this morning, looking out the window from the bedroom, watching the trees and plants dance from the increasing north wind. I also spent that hour thinking of my mother, on this her favorite of holidays, and on my first Thanksgiving without her. I am thankful. Thankful for the years, thankful for her being gone now, thankful... Read more
1. Six hours in the garden doesn’t even begin to make up for three months of neglect. Won’t even touch what all has to be done. Going to church twice a year probably is just about as effective. We need a major tune-up here and regular attention. 2. Flowers really want to reproduce. Since I just let things go, all the annuals went to seed and I decided to save seed instead of buying it next spring for the simple... Read more
If the kingdom of heaven were a democracy, and if, we those created in the Imago Dei, could have a vote about who is going to be in charge, would we indeed vote the God we read about in the Bible, that we observe in the cosmos, and that we experience, or think we experience, in daily life, in prayer and in pain, back into leadership again? After all, how many of us are getting what we really think we... Read more
In a New York Times article today about the naming of new cardinals in the Roman Catholic Church, the author wrote: “Dressed in heavy golden vestments, Benedict called on the new cardinals to devote themselves entirely to humble service to the church, whose force, he said, is “not the logic of supremacy, of power according to human criteria, but the logic of bowing down to wash feet, the logic of service, the logic of the cross which is at the base... Read more
It is now upon us. The yearly craziness absorbs the nation. We fight off the growing darkness of shorter days with glitter and lights and frenzied activity. We shake off gloom with parties, food, drink. Sated with sugar and calorie-laden eggnog, we lose control of spending and credit cards flame out with overuse. It really is a lot of fun. Purchasing just the right gift, turning bland spaces into fantasies of light and music, sharing laughter and work in kitchens... Read more
In a recent online advice column, the questioner wrote, “I’m a habitual liar, and it’s threatening to ruin my relationship with my husband.” She goes on to say that she is newly pregnant and that for some reason, her husband is in doubt about the parentage of the child. Let’s re-word the question: “I’m a habitual liar and can’t understand why my husband doesn’t trust me.” So, can this marriage be saved? (Oh ye women of a certain age–do you... Read more
My laughter spilled over when I read this quote while putting off the writing of this article by reading another article on the pervasiveness of the tendency to procrastinate: “Victor Hugo would write naked and tell his valet to hide his clothes so that he’d be unable to go outside when he was supposed to be writing.” Victor Hugo, a 19th century writer, penned one of the greatest pieces of literature ever: Les Miserables. Multiple film versions of that long... Read more
A great question just came my way: “What if we had to campaign to get into heaven?” So, what would we have to do in order to win God’s “yes” vote that would fling open the doors to the equivalent of God’s oval office? Let’s start with a campaign manager. Someone to make us look good while seeing how awful we can make others look. This way by comparison God will have to vote for us, especially sense elected spots... Read more
Today, I offer you an advice column with a question coming from a friend in ministry in Southeast Asia. Question: We have a great woman at our church but her husband, formerly a church leader, has turned away from God over a leadership concern. They have two kids and she is trying to teach them the ways of God but encounters resistance from her husband 24/7. How can we help? Answer: He may have been wounded by church people. Whatever... Read more
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