Archives for November 2011

I’m Back

I got to be with my dad from midnight on Wednesday until Sunday morning.I expect to be writing more about this at some indefinite-future time, but for now the details are this:Thanks to everybody’s donations, I got to be there with him for 3 days and a little bit more, and I was with him when he died. He knew I was there, responded to my voice, and seemed to be comforted by my touching and talking.I told him what a good man he was, and what a hole there would be in the world when he l … [Read more...]


I haven't been near a computer for a couple of days. Also haven't had much sleep. I'm typing this on my Droid.I'm sitting in a hospital room right now, next to my dad. He's sedated with morphine, but sometimes drifts up to consciousness that can range from muzzy to vivid. He's refused food and water since several days before I got here, so he's no longer able to talk."I love you, Old Man. I was so lucky to have you in my life. Lucky to live in a world that had you in it. I'm here with you. … [Read more...]

Update on the Dad Thing

I took the donate button out of my Appeal post after getting enough to make the trip. The generosity of the FTB community has been overwhelming — thank you all for the kind words, well wishes, and donations! Special thanks to Greta Christina and PZ Myers for telling their readership about this post.I have a flight to Los Angeles at 5:30 a.m. I'll drive from there to the Eastern Sierra, where my Dad lives. I don't know how many days I'll be there. I'll keep you all informed as much as I can wh … [Read more...]

Everybody Stop Sending Money

I'm posting this from my phone (I'm at the bakery where I work), so it will be short, but people have donated enough to get me there.I'm a bit shocked at the number of hits the "appeal" post is getting, and I'm touched, wounded, blown away by the generosity.Thank you all soooo much.I'll keep you posted. … [Read more...]

An Appeal

Um.My Dad appears to be dying. And I’m pretty much broke.He lives in a little town in California; I live in a little town in upstate New York.I haven’t been in very close contact with him the last few years, but it hasn’t been all my doing. The rough-barked cowboy bastard had his phone switched off a year or so back, and his lifelong habit is to never return letters or calls, so most of our contact has been one-way, through the mail. I set him up an email account about a year back, and wrot … [Read more...]

Charley & Me — Part 1

Touchy-feely time.I’m actually a little nervous about what I’m about to write. It’s not one of those “guy” subjects a man gladly talks about. It’s not a neutral subject either, like the weather, or geology, or politics. No, it’s definitely one of those girly-girly, Oprah and Dr. Phil subjects.Yep, I’m gonna talk about my feelings.I have it figured you should never lie to yourself. You can tell all the lies you want to other people (I’m not condoning it, I’m just using it as a rhetorical cou … [Read more...]