Food for thought for us dads

Thought I'd share a touching and thought-provoking anecdote about Sh. Hakim al-Tirmidhi from an article I just read in connection with my Sisyphean thesis.

    His family life seems to have been happy, based on sincerity, respect, and lovel.  Farid al-Din al-Attar relates that his children, asked how they knew if he were angry, replied that he used to treat them, on such occasions, with an affection which was even stronger than usual, but at the same time refrained from food and drink. Moreover, he shed tears and cried out in supplication: 'O Lord, have I aroused Thy anger that thou hast permitted me to become angry? O my Lord, I repent. Guide them back to the right way.' This is how they knew that he was angry with them. Therefore they repented, and asked his forgiveness, until he forsook his grief.

Dr. Muhammad Ibraheem Al-Geyoushi, "Al-Hakim al-Tirmidhi: His works and thoughts", Islamic Quarterly, vol XIV, issue 4, 1971, p172.

Another fascinating and beautiful tidbit: Tirmidhi would only drink well water out of concern that river water had come from a place where sin had occured.

He's also highly unusual (unique ?) in the annals of Sufism for writing of not only his own, but his wife's spiritual visions.

A fascinating figure.

Back to the regular scheduled programming.

  • Borderline Aspie and Proud of It

    This reminds me of how Martin Lings is reputed to have refused to write Arabic with his left hand because it was a ‘holy language’. The question is, do I admire this kind of thing? – and the answer is, no. IMHO, Islam should be realisable by all, not just a tiny minority of ‘over-achievers’.

  • svend

    Salaams, Yakoub
    Well, assuming this anecdote to be true, so long as the practice isn’t imposed on others I have no problem with it. There are different ways of expressing respect and they will assume different forms in different people and in different cultural circumstances.
    I agree that Islam should be realizable by all, but I don’t think that means there is no room for those who choose to challenge themselves to get closer to an ideal. Also, I don’t see any inherit conflict between an ideal like this and there being reasonable basic expectations of believers.
    Finally, I think that such moral and spiritual icons serve ironically practical purpose in society. The absence of spiritual heroes and saints to inspire us to greater things is one of the great tragedies of modernity, IMO.

  • musicalchef

    That’s so beautiful!
    I doubt most people have that kind of self-control, though!

  • musicalchef

    That’s so beautiful!
    I doubt most people have that kind of self-control, though!