Are the Sister Wives Mormon?

Absolutely.

While they are not “mainstream” Mormons, as the Brown family refers to members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Christ of Latter-day Saints based in Salt Lake City, they are very much Mormon.

Meri, Robyn, Christine, Janelle, and Kody Brown

The thing that has intrigued me about the Brown family as I have observed them over the years is how mainstream Mormons react to them. The Browns, and other polygamists, make mainstream Mormons uncomfortable. This is partially because most Mormons want to get away from polygamy. They do not like it when people ask if they are involved with it.

Mormons and Polygamy

“How many wives do you have?” is a question that frustrates Mormons. We (mainstream Mormons) have not practiced it for a century. Stop asking us about it! Actually, I do not mind if you ask.

Polygamy is associated with Mormonism for good reason. It was not practice that was only practiced by a fringe element of Mormonism. It was practiced by the two major figures in Mormon history, Joseph Smith and Brigham Young. It was practiced by many of the late 19th century Mormons that we still revere and quote. It was practiced by my ancestors.

Contemporary polygamy reminds us of an aspect of Mormon history that we are perplexed by and…well…feel icky about. After all, the arrangement that Kody, Meri, Christine, Janelle, and Robyn have in a cul-de-sac in the northwest corner of the Las Vegas valley is not all that different than the arrangement that Brigham Young has with his wives in the heart of Salt Lake City in the late 19th century.

Okay, Brigham Young had a lot more wives than Kody Brown does.

When I recently interviewed Meri, Janelle, Christine, Robyn, and Kody, I asked them if they considered themselves to be Mormon. Christine told me that they did considered themselves to be Mormon. However, she was also quick to emphasize, as they often do on the show, that they do not consider themselves to be associated with the LDS Church or mainstream Mormonism. Nor do they wish to be.

But they are still Mormon. They use Mormon scriptures, including the Book of Mormon, Christine said.

They share with mainstream Mormonism values about things like modest dress and dating, Robyn added. Chastity and modesty is something that Robyn, in particular, has emphasized on the show. Her approach has often sounded like she was presenting as an LDS standards night (a yearly meeting held in mainstream Mormon congregations which drives home Church standards about chastity, dating, and modesty).

Of course, when Christine, Meri, and Janelle tasted the beer while visiting San Francisco in the January 19 episode, I could relate to Robyn who did not take a sip while also looking very uncomfortable. After all, few things are more Mormon than feeling uncomfortable in the presence of beer. Even as a rather unorthodox Mormon myself, I have never had a drop of alcohol.

Kody’s Mission

On a recent episode which aired on January 5, the Browns were visited by Brett and Brett’s family. Kody and Brett served as missionary companions back when they where both full-time missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Yes, the mainstream Mormon Church.

Joseph Smith

Polygamy came into play for both Kody and Brett while young missionaries. For Kody, his father took a second wife and his family left the mainstream Mormon church while he was on his mission. For Brett, it was while on his mission that he first seriously became aware of the early practice of Mormon polygamy.

Brett shared on the episode that polygamy was among a number of issues about Mormonism that he discovered while on his mission. These issues, he tells us, led him to leave Mormonism and organized religion all together.

Kody took a different direction. While he followed his family out of mainstream Mormonism and into fundamentalist Mormonism, he still revered Joseph Smith and believed in the Book of Mormon. While Brett and Kody have remained closed friends, Kody mentioned on the episode that the two did not converse for a time after an intense conversation between the two about Joseph Smith.

I talked with the Browns prior to watching that episode, but I mentioned to Janelle, Meri, Kristine, Robyn, and Kody at the time, that one was much more likely to here them mention Joseph Smith during their television appearances than say…somebody like Mitt Romney.

Identity and Exclusion

Why are mainstream Mormons uncomfortable with the Browns referring to themselves as Mormons?

“They want the validation that comes from being the only true religion,” Kody told me. He quickly regretted saying it, after all he is hoping for a widespread audience, and told me he should not have said it in such strong terms.

However, Kody was on to something. Variations on Mormonism cause complications for exclusive claims to truth and authority. And Kody was recognizing, accurately, that this is a matter of power and control.

Last fall, we had an interfaith roundtable here at Patheos on the question “Are Mormons Christians?” Feminist theologian and religious studies professor Caryn Riswold asked, in her response, “Who gets to decide who’s Christian and who’s not? Who stands to benefit if Mormons are excluded?”

This can easily be restated in the following way: “Who gets to decide who’s Mormon and who’s not? Who stands to benefit it polygamists are excluded?”

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and, more generally, mainstream Mormonism is very image conscious. Look at the “I am a Mormon” advertising campaign which seeks to portray Mormons as diverse, modern, and hip. Also, the public relations machine of the LDS Church is an amazingly well executed operations…and not by accident.

Mainstream Mormonism is regularly making a case for how Mormonism is defined, whether it wants to or not. I think this is part of why the presidential campaign of Mitt Romney matter so much to many Mormons. However, it does not get exclusive power to define who is not a Mormon. The LDS Church does have the power to define who is not a member of the church and that is a powerful cultural power, but it is not absolute.

Of course, even mainstream Mormonism and the LDS Church seem to have a difficult time deciding whether it wants to embraced the term “Mormon.” I think the “I am a Mormon” campaign is the most we have ever celebrated the term.

Mormon theologian and scholar of early Christianity Taylor Petrey also contributed to the above mention roundtable on “Are Mormons Christain?”

Here is his concluding paragraph:

If our definitions are always provisional, historically situated, and subject to change, what considerations should we make in determining the boundaries of Christianity? One consideration must be the ethical. As countless scholars have pointed out, the process of drawing boundaries can be fraught ethically. Is it just to exclude a group who claim the title of Christians? In answering this question it is useful to consider how defining some people as “outsiders,” as lacking a claim to some standard of authenticity, is the fundamental ideology behind so many of the ugly prejudices in this world. The Christianity police are often guilty of police brutality more than protection of their constituents. Defining Mormonism out of Christianity sets, and follows, a troubling precedent.

Again, replace the above references to Christianity with Mormonism and replace the references to Mormonism with Mormon polygamists.

To exclude a group which believes in the Book of Mormon as scripture and which reveres both Joseph Smith and Brigham Young as prophets of God from Mormonism says more about the group trying to exclude them than it does the polygamists. As Petrey argues about Mormons and Christianity, excluding polygamists from the construct of Mormonism is an example of identity police brutality which sets a troubling precedent.

The Larger Mormon Family

The recent entry on the LDS Church website about the practice of polygamy in early Utah shows a greater willingness by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints itself to more fully acknowledge and recognize the polygamous roots of mainstream Mormonism.

As mainstream Mormonism becomes more comfortable with its place in the world, I hope it can more easily view our cousins that still practice polygamy as family rather than foes. They are part of the Mormon family and treating them as heretics is not very mature, let alone ethical. I think the same applies to the Community of Christ and other restoration churches with roots in the movement started by Joseph Smith.

While mainstream Mormonism will always be the largest cultural force when it comes to defining and expressing Mormonism, there is room for the entire family.

When I spoke with the Browns, I mentioned that my family should have them over for Family Home Evening since my family now also lives in Las Vegas. Family Home Evening is a Mormon tradition which involves gathering as a family for lessons and games (usually) on Monday nights.

“Are you LDS or are you messing with us?” Kody asked me.

I am LDS and the offer still stands.

NOTE: Be sure to check out my earlier article on the Sister Wives and how they are changing the public perception of Mormon polygamy. Also, check out my interview with one of their attorneys about their court victory and my other posts about polygamy.

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  • Sarah O Taylor

    @Sandy Curtis – help! Before i read your post I want to understand who “us” is, I can glean some from your post but never want to assume. I really like to listen, read and learn and there seem to be people of different faiths here.

    Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to write something that is sacred to us on the internet and not worry about being yelled at? :( I *promise* not to. That is such a useless way to spend our short time on earth. I love a quote from Mother Teresa “If you spend too much time judging people, you have less time to love them”. So I am here to learn and be kind and … yeah i guess that’s it :) I was watching Sister Wives on TV (not sure what channel, not a huge TV watcher but found it interesting and had questions, ended up here!)

    I fully believe that happened in your life. Why would we ever limit what God can do? He can love me, that is something that i’m occasionally told is not easy :)

    • trytoseeitmyway

      Sarah, I really like your question, “Why would we ever want to limit what God can do?” Because of course there is no limit, except for the limits we impose on ourselves.

      Some Christians focus on God’s power, through the Atonement of His Son, to save us from sin and death. That’s an awesome power, and it is by God’s grace alone that we are saved in that way. (This is a Mormon perspective, if you were wondering.) But many of those same Christians think that God’s desire to bless His children stops there, or they imagine that it is terrible to think that our spirits could grow and develop even after this life. But if He is truly (as we believe) our Father, then of course He wants everything possible for His children. Never to enable them in misbehavior (we know of some earthly parents who do that, don’t we?) but in response to the love and devotion and obedience we express in return.

      “Sister Wives” would not be a very good source for learning more about our beliefs. ;-) The best thing to do is to speak to missionaries. If you’re not sure how to find them, visit http://www.mormon.org.

  • Sarah O Taylor

    It makes me sad any time someone uses prooftexting (picking a random verse out of the Bible to yell “I am right and you are wrong!”) or even the name of God to sort of bulldoze over another person, especially one they do not know or know the first thing about. :/ Again, it just never helps, not that I have seen.
    God never hit me on the head and said “Get in line or I will yell at you and make you feel small”…i spent a lot of years being a Good Person, following all the rules, and still never feeling like i was good enough. I was well into my 30s before i started learning about how HUGE is the love of God, and so much about grace and forgiveness. Sorry, i hope that wasn’t a hijack, i just think that as a person who professes to love and be loved by Jesus, it is SO incredibly important to love others. To not belittle them. To love like God does, even a fraction of that.

  • Sarah O Taylor

    I can’t help it. David, what do you think you are … what are you trying to do? Because all I see is arguing the same thing over and over. I think it has been read by everyone who was here and you made your point.
    Trolling also takes the discussion off-track, I hope i will find it got back on as i continue to read.

  • headonstraight

    The polygamous fundamentalist Mormons are the sector of Mormonism that actually adheres to the teachings of Mormonism’s founder, Joseph Smith, concerning marriage. Smith boldly and unequivocally proclaimed that plural marriage was a “new and everlasting covenant.” He made that claim as part of a lengthy recitation of marching orders allegedly given by God Himself. The “mainstream” Mormon Church forbids its members to practice that “new and everlasting covenant,” under penalty of excommunication if they do so. Thus it is THEY, and not the polygamous Mormons who have departed from the faith as concerns the “new and everlasting covenant” allegedly enunciated by God and promulgated by an alleged “Prophet, Seer and Revelator”, the late charlatan, Joseph Smith, Jr.

  • headonstraight

    You also believe that God had physical sexual intercourse with Mary and thus begat Jesus in the same way that children are begotten by mortals. THAT blasphemous concept is uniquely Mormon and egregiously heretical!


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