The very first post on Gods and Radicals was “Respectability Politics: Act Like The System So That The System Will Listen?” by Jason Pitzl-Waters. As I was reading, this line leaped out at me:
“The politics of respectability, a term coined by Evelyn Brooks Higginbotham, is a tactic of performing compatibility, one of self-policing by oppressed and marginalized communities to gain advancement and acceptance within whatever the dominant culture or system may be.”
I thought to myself, I’ve done that. Not so much as a Pagan, but as a Southerner from Appalachia. I am very conscious of the fact that as soon as I open my mouth, if I talk like where I’m from, people will start assuming things about me. It happens even here in Atlanta but more so when I go anywhere else in the United States. And inevitably, if I stop being self-conscious of people’s stereotypes about those who speak my dialect of English for a minute or two, somebody will remind me….usually by telling me I don’t have an accent like it’s a huge compliment.
The truth is I do have an accent, but I have flattened it considerably in exactly the same adaptive response Jason refers to in his article. I have dropped many dialect words from my vocabulary as well. I did this for years and barely realized it until I got a job working for an electrical parts distributor and therefore started talking on the phone to electricians all over the Southeast. Not only did my accent come back, but I realized that I thought and felt differently. The Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis applies to variants within a language too.
My reaction to this realization was an immense sadness. I had lost part of myself. To other people’s stupidity, no less.
I rebel. I reject the stupidity and all of its underpinnings. There’s more to this than people saying rudely oblivious things to me, of course…but I think it is best if you hear what I have to say, in my voice. To that end, I made a recording of a post I wrote about the Elk River disaster in West Virginia last year, “Poison in the Heart of the World.”
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