The All-Powerful Mother

“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.”
― Haim G. GinottTeacher and Child: A Book for Parents and Teachers

The above quote struck me right between the eyes when a good friend sent it to me a couple of weeks ago. As the mother, I have great power over the climate in my household, and I simply cannot afford to allow myself the luxury of wallowing in self-pity, frustration, resentment, or hurt feelings, or my family will suffer greatly as a result. The quote really says it all, so I won’t say more here. What are your thoughts?

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  • AWOL_Mommy

    “If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.” So interesting. What a theory! As applicable as this is to raising children, I am also contemplating what it could mean for the way my husband and I correct and hone one another. Thanks for Monday morning food for thought.

  • Jennifer

    I agree whole-heartedly that how you act and react can dictate how people perceive you and how they treat you. It sets the tone for the day AND can change things greatly. As mothers (and women) we are natural born fixers. We want to fix what we think needs mending. We should in some respects be guides to those we love and even more so to the ones who are really broken. It interesting because I was just having this conversation yesterday. We are not meant to be in charge of someone’s happiness or any other emotion for that matter. God intended us to all have our own journeys. To pull someone from the muck is one thing, but sometimes we need to be in the muck in order to learn and grow. Being each other’s cheerleaders is what we really need. Being there when someone falls. Really BEING there. Imagine what we could accomplish being united as Christian/Catholic women rather than passing judgments? Walk a mile in someone’s shoes…you never know a person’s struggles. Thank you for this post. What an awesome way to start the week. I truly enjoy reading these from your group. Thank you 🙂

  • Queen B

    What a beautiful, convicting reminder of the power and influence God has given our souls, both for good and evil. I am praying I will live my life differently today! Thanks, Kat!