Call Mrs. Piggle Wiggle!

My 8 year old son recently told me I needed to be more like Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle, who just understands children. In a certain sense I agree, I could be more patient and understanding at times, but with the huge caveat that I don’t have a cupboard full of magic potions to cure many childhood bad habits.

We have been going through a “Heedless Breaker” stage (if you are familiar with the Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle stories), and, while I am all for natural consequences, the bill for all the things broken recently is huge and not limited to 2 iPads, a chair, numerous plates and cups, broken eye glasses and a flipped over grocery cart and many, many more things.

It doesn’t seem to matter how many times ask this boy to SLOW DOWN.  I have tried everything from essential oils and calm child teas and gum chewing. I know these are genuine accidents, but we teach that you are responsible for the consequences of your actions, even if they are accidents. I am not even sure how to have him go about earning the money to replace these items, which is hundreds of dollars.

I just want to call Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle and have her tell me what to do! Is the natural consequence to broken dishes to eat off paper plates? To stand for an amount of time if you break a chair? Do I need to be more kind and understanding?

The one good note last week was when the optometrist told us that no one had EVER broken that particular pair of unbreakable glasses, so she thought they must have been defective and replaced them for free despite my protests that they just hadn’t been tested on this particular child.

Since I can’t get some magic slowing down powder from Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle, does anyone have any suggestions?

 

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  • Queen B

    I love this, and I love Mrs. Piggle Wiggle. I wish I were more like her myself. Unfortunately, real life rarely has such quick-fixes. We have to bear with each other, especially our children, in a far deeper way. Hang in there, Tex. I probably can’t fully appreciate your circumstances, but in recent days I have been meditating on Christ’s infinite patience with my flaws, yet allowing me to suffer some of their consequences so that I learn. If we need to let our children suffer the consequences of their actions (for their own sake), we can at least soften the blow with our kindness and patience. Love to you.

  • http://www.buildingcathedrals.com/ Kellie

    LOL! Seems all kids like to destroy things, some more so than others. We have had so many things broken around here, from both genders!!!! it just seems par for the course. I’d save the punishments for disobedience and let the genuine accidents slide…because otherwise there are just too many things broken to count. We just dealt with a broken Kindle here. The toddler dropped it off a dresser, and it broke even though my 10 year old had it in the cover. We contacted amazon, and they actually replaced it for free! I am able to take the toddler smashing something much more in stride than when my older kids are reckless and destroy stuff. And I do try to look at each destroyed item as a teaching moment. Some lessons are not just that you have to replace it, but perhaps that you cannot use that particular thing for a while because of being reckless, or that you have to help pay for it by slave labor around the house, etc., etc. I had a child make a very poor choice and damage a hymnal at Mass with a pencil. I made that child take the hymnal to the Priest, and apologize. He just about died from embarrassment. Serious parenting win there :-) Sometimes you have to get creative!


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