Along with the new iPhone 5s, Apple released another iPhone, the 5c that will feature plastic backings, which makes them a lot more affordable and accessible to a broader audience. As cool as that is for some of us, a lot of parents who’ve been playing the “we can’t afford it” card with their kids in order to keep them at bay, will be out one more excuse to put off buying their youngsters a smart-phone.
So what are parents supposed to do? Do you get the kid an iPhone? You’re kind of apprehensive because it’s been such an adult thing, but, I mean, all of their friends have them. They feel excluded. Also, the colors are pretty. It’s kind of the way the world works now, and you know, you had a Gameboy when you were a kid and you turned out fine. Plus, they’ve got to have a phone so you can get a hold of them. I mean, why not? What’s really standing in your way?
Three Reasons To Wait
Before you give in to your child’s pleas, the zeitgeist, and Apple’s competitive pricing, let me just give you three reasons to slow down on that purchase:
1. Delayed Gratification—Your kid needs to learn how to wait. You need to be okay saying “no” to things like this. It’s not an arbitrary thing, but it’s alright for your child to realize that some things are good, but they’re good later. That’s true of parenting in general, but particularly the case with tech like smartphones. Smartphones like iPhones are like instant gratification training tools. The fact that Google will tell them whatever they want in an instant on these things has an effect on the way they perceive reality. It trains them to believe that life should be instantly responsive to their whims and demands. This is not good for a 9-year-old’s soul.
2. Social Pressure—Your kid lives with immense social pressure in almost every area of their life. When they’re at school, or sports, or church, or whatever, there are a million eyes watching them, demanding that they conform to whatever expectations their peers have to compete, be popular, etc. Giving your kid an iPhone just gives them one more way to compete and one more reason they can never relax. In the past, the home was a haven from these pressures, but when you have a Facebook or Instagram app with you every waking moment until you go to bed, you’re under scrutiny 24/7. Do your kid a favor and give them a break, even if they don’t realize they need it.
Are You An Expert?
One final question: “Are you an expert?” That’s what my friend Katie asks parents whenever they talk to her about technology for their students. Or, to paraphrase, “Do you know what Snapchat is, and the 351 terrible uses it could be put to?” In essence, unless you’re an expert in knowing how a piece of technology works, your child will figure it out faster than you and leave you in the dust. While that’s fine, and even healthy later on, when your children are young, and under your care, it’s just not an option for there to be a limitless online world at their fingertips that you are unprepared to guide them in. You are charged by Jesus to bring them up in the “discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4, ESV). In a digital world like ours, part of that means training them in the responsible use of technology.
To sum up then. Should you get your kid an iPhone? It can probably wait. And when you do, make sure you know what you’re handing your kid. You wouldn’t hand them the keys to a car if you hadn’t made sure they know how to drive safely—treat technology the same way.