Wisdom Wednesday… Love and Reason

Have you found a reason to embrace a loving relationship?

Reflecting on love and its valuable tenets. Love seems to be an end result, a measurement of emotional progress for a person, place or thing. Where we develop an aspiring and sincere appreciation for another. Many try to begin new romances, on the stipulation of love alone. Note: I may lose my train of thought while trying to make a point, pls bare with me, thank you.

I have been married twice and divorced twice and still have the desire to remarry. I am looking for a true reason that will capture my attention, resting my mind at ease. Like when a songwriter finds a chorus, that transforms his/her composition into a song. Obtaining harmony, totally out weighs a simple composition’s melody; otherwise it’s singing versus humming! This Emcee, is seeking the hook before crossing over the bridge.

America has an epidemic of divorces, single parents and people of many different insecurities causing mischief. Why posts statistics, our communities are clear examples. Even the married are seeking sustainability or some type honest break, in furthering a good relationship. Subsequently, these same couples pressure their unmarried fellows. Unknowingly, they are instigating an unnecessary pressure; on single status family members, friends and/or a divorcee.

“Most single people think that: marriage = happiness, but that’s not necessarily the case. You can be happy whether you’re single or married. If your only aim in life is to worship and please The Creator, He will make you content with your present situation, no matter how difficult it may be. But no doubt, being married to someone with good Deen (Way of Life) is better than being single. But people of good Deen and character are very rare. Don’t rush into anything, otherwise you may have to live with the consequences for the rest of your life.” {Abu Muwahhid}

Please refer this only as simple advice, and not as a religious new rule. Let’s not make something lawful – unlawful and something unlawful – lawful. Unnecessary pressure can cause a person into becoming a two-time divorcee. In this search for earthly happiness, persue what is right, upon having patience.

Life is not miserable, without a counterpart or being unmarried does not take away from one’s character. “If a person’s intention, is focused on being a righteous person, then May the Creator strengthen him/her with security, ease and comfort.” In beginning a new relationship, let’s discuss indifferences and then build the necesary tenets for sustainability around the indifferences, tenets that will sustain the relation throughout stages and misunderstandings.

Wisdom Wednesday are thoughts for social conversation and the sharing of honest opinions, ideals, and Wisdom. All of us have a value worth sharing; it may motivate another to stop, continue and/ or begin a certain process in our personal or social development.