“A Prayer Before Making Love”

Admit it: prayer may not be the first thing that pops into your mind when the mood strikes.  But — proving once again that there is a prayer for everything — the wife of a deacon (!) has just the right words for the occasion, thanks to a book called “Prayer Book for Spouses.”

Let us pray:

Father, send your Holy Spirit into our hearts.

Place within us love that truly gives, tenderness that truly unites, self-offering that tells the truth and does not deceive, forgiveness that truly receives, loving physical union that welcomes.

Open our hearts to you, to each other and to the goodness of your will.

Cover our poverty in the richness of your mercy and forgiveness.

Clothe us in our true dignity and take to yourself our shared aspirations, for your glory, for ever and ever.

Mary, our Mother, intercede for us.


Of course, there’s also the great prayer from the Old Testament of Tobit and Sarah (shown above):

“Blessed are you, O God of our ancestors;

blessed be your name forever and ever!


Let the heavens and all your creation bless you forever.

You made Adam, and you made his wife Eve

to be his helper and support;

and from these two the human race has come.

You said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone;

let us make him a helper like himself.

Now, not with lust,

but with fidelity I take this kinswoman as my wife.

Send down your mercy on me and on her,

and grant that we may grow old together.

Bless us with children.”


  1. Deacon Norb says:

    Amen!! Amen !! Amen !!

  2. Joe Mc. Faul says:

    Prayer before making love?

    That’s like saying a decade of the Rosary before saying the Rosary.

    Making love is a prayer in itself.

  3. How lovely! And you made me smile.

  4. And people think Catholics are boring? Great prayer.

  5. Considering the fate of Sarah’s previous husbands I’m sure Tobit prayed pretty hard.

  6. MidwestGirl says:

    My husband and I actually prayed the prayer of Tobit together before we consummated our marriage for the first time, just about a year ago.

    We’re expecting our first child in late July. :)

  7. Perhaps a quicker prayer might be more practical. ;)

  8. pagansister says:

    Somehow prayer isn’t exactly on my mind before that event! :o)

  9. IntoTheWest says:

    I once heard a homily after the story of Tobit and Sarah was part of the day’s readings, and the priest began with “Imagine how nervous Sarah must have been on her wedding night….” and I had to force myself not to laugh out loud. Sarah? Dude! Have you READ the whole story? Sarah’s not the one who should be worried…

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