# VI Commandment Re Your Kids

VI: Never make the mistake I made by expecting that somehow a child will learn to be polite by yelling at them!

Snapping, “Say thank you!” or “Say please!” teaches nothing. Saying please and thank you to your child and showing them consistent respect is what they will imitate.

(to be continued in this space tomorrow…)

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Frank Schaeffer is an American author, film director, screenwriter and public speaker. He is the son of the late theologian and author Francis Schaeffer. He became a Hollywood film director and author, writing several internationally acclaimed novels including And God Said, "Billy!" as well as the Calvin Becker Trilogy depicting life in a fundamentalist mission home-- Portofino, Zermatt, and Saving Grandma.

  • http://Patheos threeten2yuma

    “Thank you . . . if you please, that is!”

    WTF. That’s it, Frank? You promise us one Commandment a day for the next twelve days, and then you go off to church with Genie . . . then you start missing Christopher Hitchens . . . then you just about forget today entirely, quick find a keyboard somewhere, and bang out a sentence or two on saying “please” and “thank you!”

    You need discipline, Man. Discipline! That’s the only thing that’s gonna get this job done. And I know just the guy to instill some in you!


  • http://Patheos threeten2yuma

    Frank, I already caught hell from Karen for writing “WTF” yesterday. Damn! I knew I shouldn’t have shown her my comment, even though I thought it was so clever! Well, I’m sure as hell not gonna show her this one, that’s for damned sure, what with the cussin’ and all. And sorry, Pal, but my dear wife doesn’t read your blogs, so she won’t see this on her own either, unless I show it to her, which I won’t do. Now Karen did read Crazy for God and Portofino, but that’s about it, I’m afraid. She did laugh at several parts in Portofino too, but I couldn’t interest her in reading Zermatt or Saving Grandma, and considering her sensibilities, it’s just as well I couldn’t, because you really get off color in those two, now don’t you, but God how I love your fearless bravery in pretty accurately describing all aspects of human nature!

    Anyway, what gives, Friend? Did we do something wrong that’s got you taking a hiatus from telling us all how to raise our children? Don’t lose your nerve now, Frank! That’s not like you. You’re only human, I know. So I know that you may yet fail us. But we do love you so. We’re brothers, Man. Did we fail you? Can we yet provide you some proper motivation?