# VII Command So You won’t Screw Up Your Kids

VII: Never forget: You are going to grow a carbon copy of what you hate most about yourself– unless you change what you do and are.

There are no excuses.

There is no point saying, “Well, I have a temper, that’s just the way I am. My Dad/Mom was a bad example.”

No excuses.

Loving a child means forcing yourself to change.

(to be continued in this space tomorrow…)

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About Frank Schaeffer

Frank Schaeffer is an American author, film director, screenwriter and public speaker. He is the son of the late theologian and author Francis Schaeffer. He became a Hollywood film director and author, writing several internationally acclaimed novels including And God Said, "Billy!" as well as the Calvin Becker Trilogy depicting life in a fundamentalist mission home-- Portofino, Zermatt, and Saving Grandma.

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    Frank, It’s a bit more complicated than that. You, yourself, have written what an asshole and, even, bully you were, but your own children grew up to become not only pretty decent adults but also to forgive and to love you. You must have shown your children a lot of love mixed in with the poor behavior and, even, sin for which you’re not giving yourself credit in hindsight. And that’s really about the best any human can do, isn’t it? Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for efforts at self-improvement, but no human is ever finished with that job in this life, are they?

    I’m not sure that you’ve actually got a book here, but let’s finish up the series and then see if it’s possible to more fully flesh it out.

    And I hope you found some humor in my comments and video clips yesterday. You seemed to me like you could use a good laugh, Bro. I hope I provided some for you!