When You Just Can’t Make a Good Thing Happen

Here is a talk from the San Rafael Meditation group with Rick Hanson. It is titled When You Just Can’t Make a Good Thing Happen. More information on the San Rafael Mediation group can be found here. The post When You Just Can’t Make a Good Thing Happen appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson. … [Read More...]

Aspiration: An Interview with Dan Siegel

“Life is always unfolding, you’re always in an emerging process… only junk can really make you feel stagnat or chaotic, and the beautiful thing about being a human being is you have a choice. With awareness, you can use liberate yourself and free yourself to your original aspirations. You can have a set of values, and dreams, and qualities of living that are your guideposts.” -Daniel J. Siegel In this interview clip from my Foundations of Well-Being program, learn from … [Read More...]

Take in the Good

Do Positive Experiences “Stick to Your Ribs?” The Practice Take in the good. Why? Scientists believe that your brain has a built-in “negativity bias.” In other words, as we evolved over millions of years, dodging sticks and chasing carrots, it was a lot more important to notice, react to, and remember sticks than it was for carrots. That’s because – in the tough environments in which our ancestors lived – if they missed out on a carrot, they usually had a shot at another one later on. But if they … [Read More...]

QUIZ: Do You Know When to Stop?

Whether driving a car or going through life altogether, we need to be able to speed up skillfully . . . as well as slow down and even stop. How is it going with whatever you want to decrease or stop in your own life? Perhaps related to food, drugs and alcohol, media. And can you stop in ways that are firm but kind, rather than mean and shaming to yourself? Find out how skillfully you’re able to put on the brakes, or nudging yourself in a kind way, rather than a self-critical one, with this … [Read More...]

Compassion and Equanimity

Here is a talk from the San Rafael Meditation group with Rick Hanson. It is titled Compassion and Equanimity. More information on the San Rafael Mediation group can be found here. The post Compassion and Equanimity appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson. … [Read More...]

The Caring Quilt Creative Activity

Check out this great creative activity that will deepen and internalize your sense of being cared about – an important inner resource for resilience, happiness, and satisfying relationships, and a key part of the Foundations of Well-Being. This 12-minute video guides you through an experiential activity in which you can explore different ways to feel included, seen, appreciated, liked, or loved – in other words, feel cared about. Deepening and internalizing the sense that you are cared a … [Read More...]

Let Things Change

What’s changing? The Practice: Let Things Change Why? The fifth of my personal Top 5 practices (all tied for first place) is open out, by which I mean relaxing into a growing sense of connection, even oneness, with all things. (The other four are be mindful, love, take in the good, and go green.) “Opening out” can sound kind of airy-fairy or flakey, but I mean it in very down-to-earth ways; check out the previous JOTs about it. Here, I’m focusing on relaxing and opening … [Read More...]

Put No One Out of Your Heart

What is an open heart? The Practice: Put no one out of your heart. Why? We all know people who are, ah, . . . challenging. It could be a critical parent, a bossy supervisor, a relative who has you walking on eggshells, a nice but flaky friend, a co-worker who just doesn’t like you, a partner who won’t keep his or her agreements, or a politician you dislike. Right now I’m thinking of a neighbor who refused to pay his share of a fence between us. As Jean-Paul Sartre put it: … [Read More...]

QUIZ: Are You a Self-Starter?

One of the secrets to a happy and productive life is to know how to help yourself come to want things that are good for you and others . . . that you don’t initially want that much. Find out how good you are at motivating yourself, or nudging yourself in a kind way, rather than a self-critical one, with this short quiz from my Foundations of Well-Being program: https://fwb.rickhanson.net/quizzes/are-you-a-self-starterThe post QUIZ: Are You a Self-Starter? appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson. … [Read More...]

Accept Dependence

What makes your life? The Practice: Accept dependence. Why? Want to try a little experiment? Stop breathing. Really. For a few seconds, maybe a few dozen seconds, and see how it feels. For me, this experiment is an intimate way to experience a deep truth, that we live dependently, relying on 10,000 things for physical survival, happiness, love, and success. For example, within half a minute of no air, most people are uncomfortable, after one minute, they’re panicking, and after four … [Read More...]


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