Two Siblings Learn About the Baby: One Is a Story of Joy, One of Loss

This morning, I happened to read two very different stories about siblings who had just learned of a brother or sister.

Claire Culwell and her baby

THE FIRST ARTICLE, posted on, is the story of Claire Culwell, a survivor of abortion.  Claire’s mother became pregnant at the age of 13 and decided to have an abortion; but she didn’t know that she was pregnant with twins.  One child, a boy, was aborted at twenty weeks; but the abortionist failed to abort a twin girl still in the womb.  When the error was realized, it was too late to have an abortion; and Claire’s mother went on to give birth to her and gave her up for adoption.

Claire has faced lifelong medical issues as a result of the attempted abortion; but she wrote a moving letter to the abortionist, telling him of her struggles and expressing her forgiveness for what he had done.  She invites him to reconsider his murderous path and utilize his medical skills in another way, one which does not destroy innocent lives.

Here is Claire’s letter, as it appeared on the website of former abortion clinic worker Abby Johnson:

Dear Dr. Patel,

I am writing with a heavy heart. I recently discovered you in the news due to the violations your abortion clinic has made. I found that I have a closer connection to you than I thought.

In 1988, my 13-year-old birth mother placed herself in your care to perform her abortion…her 20-week abortion. She was assured that the abortion would fix her problem and that her life would return to normal but it didn’t.

When she returned to see you, she was informed that the abortion had been successful, in part, but she was still pregnant as she had actually been pregnant with twins but had been misinformed. She was also told that during the abortion the amniotic sac had been ruptured, thus leaking fluid for weeks. This proposed many complications for my birth mother. Due to the botched abortion, I was born 2.5 months premature with many lifelong complications.

As I read your medical practice history, I found my testimony consistent with many of your other former patients. My birth mother was 13. She was young and naïve; she would be easy to manipulate and lie to. She didn’t know any better. Due to the abortion that was botched, my birth mother has suffered 26 years of hardship and regret. I can only imagine the things that may have happened that she feels like she can’t speak about…things that other women are confessing that you did to them while in your care.

However, she was not the only one affected by the failed abortion. My life, my family’s life, and my children’s lives would all eventually be effected by one “mistake” or one “botched abortion” that was performed so long ago. Not only was I born 2.5 months premature but I was born with complications including dislocated hips, club feet, and was on life support in the hospital. I went through multiple casts on my feet, a harness on my hips to prepare for surgery and body casts in order to correct what the abortion had done to my body. In fact, I still have hip and foot complications today due to the abortion. The unfortunate part is that I am not alone. Hundreds of other survivors of abortions are speaking up letting the world know that we ARE children, we DO deserve a chance at life and that abortion is, clearly, NOT SAFE.

I spent 21 years of my life wondering if I had a sibling that was missing. I felt it in my heart. My birth mother confirmed my questions when she told me about her abortion when I met her. Realizing that you have lived your entire life without your twin is a harsh reality.  However, the hardest part for me is realizing that you took my daddy’s only son from him. His life would have been even more full and joyful had he had his son who would carry on his family name and do the things he loves with him—hunt and fish. Because of the selfishness that abortion has brought to us today, our family will remain incomplete and I mourn the amazing adventures my daddy is missing with my brother.

In February of 2013, another miracle happened… My daughter was born! I can’t help but think about how she wouldn’t be here if the abortion had been successful on my life. She has only been here for a short time but she has touched so many lives with her fun-loving personality. I can’t help but wonder how many children are missing because their mothers were misinformed by you and told that the best decision, or even the only decision, was abortion.

Dr. Patel, I write to not only shed light on the reality of the severe aftermath that can happen when abortions are performed but to also express my forgiveness to you for what happened. I have lived a full life and been well loved in my 26 years of life despite my circumstances. I was adopted into an incredible home that gave more grace and forgiveness than I ever could have asked for. In the same way I have been forgiven by God for many things, I choose to forgive you. I forgive you for performing the abortion in 1988 and for the enormous impact it has had on my birth mother and me.

I also pray for you. I pray that you are able to see past the medicine, the money and your usual way of life… and that you will remember my face (and my daughter’s who would not be here had the abortion been successful) as you go to perform abortions. I pray that as you remember my face that you will be moved in such a way to walk away from the abortion practice and use your gifts outside of the industry. I assure you that many of us, myself included, would help you leave the industry and be encouragers and supporters to you. I would welcome you with open arms because I fully believe your life and what you do with your life is just as valuable as every single unborn child that I advocate for. I will continue to pray for you and your past and current patients.


Claire Culwell

THE SECOND ARTICLE was about a young brother and sister who learn that their mother is going to have a baby.

First the parents give hints:  an ultrasound photo hidden in an Easter egg.  Finally, they come right out and say, “Mommy has a baby in her tummy!”  

Brother Ethan is happy, to be sure; but big sister Kaitlyn squeals with delight, “I can’t thank you enough!!”

Their excitement and joy is contagious.  This is worth watching!

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  • Rebecca Fuentes

    My eight-month old son just giggled and giggled at that video. It reminds me of listening to my oldest daughter in the back seat, explaining life to her brother, “and when mommy has another boy or another girl or twins would be nice . . .” Mommy gets a little tired sometimes, but it’s good to be reminded that the kids would be nothing but delighted with another baby or two (or more).

  • Bee10

    Lovely response to the joyous news. Not only small children enjoy a new baby. When my nineteen year old nephew was told by his younger siblings their parents were having another baby (number ten) he said, “Is it true? Are you having another baby?” When he got a positive response his reply was, “It’s about time, everybody else has got one!” (All the other married couples in our family had had a baby the previous year.) His new baby sister was born two days after his twentieth birthday.

  • Doudtful

    Interesting…the mother was 13 when she was pregnant but she goes on to say,
    “… the hardest part for me is realizing that you took my daddy’s only son from him. His life would have been even more full and joyful had he had his son who would carry on his family name and do the things he loves with him—hunt and fish.”
    Huh??!! Makes me suspicious.

    • Marie

      I think Claire was probably referring to her adoptive father, since Claire’s birth mother would probably have given Claire’s adoptive parents both babies if both had still been alive.