breathing deep

I stand at my laptop in its corner on the kitchen counter, stew bubbling, children playing, clock ticking. I stand here and I read the prayers of friends and strangers alike who love my family enough to spend their time whispering to Him on our behalf. Tears stream and I am blown away by this love and His grace.

I look around and I type out words and layers of my heart peel back, bare on the screen. Yes, this is life, Yes, this is real, Yes this is happening.

Monday morning the gate rattled and there stood Jane and her birth mom Nancy. Evicted from their home, Jane’s leg wound still festering, and in desperate need of a shower and some love.

So we opened the gate, and my heart, a little wider.

And it hurts from the moment I wake up until the moment my head hits the pillow. And this that I once wanted – my daughter back – it’s not what I want anymore and this is not how I wanted it. Now it comes with a grouchy grown woman who doesn’t know Him and doesn’t care to love us back or take responsibility for anything. Now it comes with my four year old, confused and traumatized who calls two women Mommy and only half obeys and does things that she didn’t learn in my home and wears the wounds of the last six months on her sleeves.

But in the hard, I see the healing. In the mess of it all, I see the redemption.

One step forward. Two steps back. And He doesn’t let go. He doesn’t let go.

I spent the whole weekend trying to come up with a solution. Begging God to show me what to do. Should they live here? Should they live near by? Should I keep Jane? Should I try harder to make sure her birth mom is taking care of her and has the means to do so?

The answer is, I don’t know.

There are the obvious arguments: She has a living birthmother! Of course she should stay with her! Or. Her birthmother is obviously not caring for her, she is still bonded to you, take her, that is what is best.

The thing is, this is real life and so there is this huge gray area in the middle and that is where we are living. In the gray area. That is adoption though. Big, beautiful, scary, confusing, unnatural, redemptive, tragic, wonderful gray.

I found myself diving back into 1 Kings 17, a story I felt so strongly led to just days after Jane was taken from our home in November. Over and over this widow reminds me of whom I want to be, and the end result of provision reminds me of who my God is.

Elijah asks her to make Him some bread but the old woman does not think she has enough. Regardless, she takes the little she has and obeys. She is faithful with the little that she has already been given. And, as she remains faithful in the things she has been asked, He is faithful to provide more, exactly enough, exactly when it is needed.

I do not need to know the answer. There may very well not be one right now.

However, I do know what to do about it. Obey. Do what I know to do. Love like Jesus. Invite in the stranger, accept the outcast, live the Gospel. Be faithful with the little that is entrusted to me and watch Him be faithful in the big picture. He always provides, exactly enough, exactly when it is needed. He asks me to take this next step and I protest, “but I don’t have enough!” Not enough grace, not enough love, not enough strength, not enough time. And the widow reminds me to be faithful anyway. Of course I do not have enough. But I have Jesus and He, He is always enough.

I am faithful with little. He is faithful with much.

So we breathe in. We put one foot in front of the other. We love each other well and we laugh until we cry and sometimes we just cry but He holds us then too.

Holds us even now and knows best even now and loves these dear ones even more than I do, even now.

He who promised is faithful. Not necessarily faithful in what I want or see fit, but faithful in His promises. And He has promised to prosper and not to harm, He has promised a hope and a future. For Jane, for Nancy, for Patricia, Grace, Sumini, Joyce, Scovia, Sarah, Tibita, Hellen, Mary, Zuula, Agnes, Margaret, Prossy and even me. He has promised to give good.

So we try our best to obey, to do what we already know to do - love like Jesus, open up our home and share what He has so graciously given us, preach the Gospel with our lives, breathe Him deep this moment. We do what we can do and then we let Him take over because oh, how His power is made perfect in my weakness!

Bottom line is, I don’t really like Nancy. But I can’t help but love her, and out of love I deeply desire to spend eternity with her. And in light of eternity, nothing else matters.

So I give Jesus the trauma and the confusion and the rolling eyes and the pinching and the things that Jane says that I didn’t teach her and I smile big and I laugh hard at the gift of one more day. I give Him Nancy’s heart and Jane’s too and I thank Him for 14 pairs of flip flops again and watermelon juice on eager chins and her toothbrush back in the cup on my sink and hurt that draws us closer and a home where strangers become family.

I can trust God. I look at my life and I see the miracles and because of what I know, I can trust Him for what I don’t know. Because of what I have seen, I can trust Him when I can’t see.

And when I don’t know what else to be, I am thankful. Thankful for you and your prayers that carry us and His love, through you all, that never runs out. We covet your prayers. We SO appreciate them. He must become greater, we must become less.

  • Lindsay

    Katie, YES! He who promised IS faithful. And, YES! He has great plans for your life, your daughters' lives, and yes, even the ones that are hard to like. And, YES you and your family are in my prayers right now. Much love from Montana to Uganda. :)

  • CathyMA

    well this is a hard one! It does seem like Nancy does not know Him, but she does know where to go when she has nothing else– to you. And you know HIm. Right now maybe that's close enough. Right now keep reminding Jane how good she is and how much you love her, so that maybe one day she will make it back to your door on her own with or without Nancy, who knows?

  • Audrey @ The Brown Brigade

    Wow, what an amazing post. I am in awe of what God is doing. I am praying that His will be done through you and your sweet family. I would really love to meet and minister to you when I am in Uganda, hopefully this summer.

  • Jarka

    I'm praying. thinking about you all the time and being inspired by your love for your girls and for Him everyday. Thank you for sharing your story, it means so much to me.take careJarka

  • Cassie Binkley

    Your heart is beautiful and it pours out so eloquently onto the page. "And when I don’t know what else to be, I am thankful." Every time I read your blog, when I get to the last line, I close my wet eyes and say a prayer for you and your children. I appreciate you sharing your heart and your faith. God holds you tightly in his hand. <3

  • Cassie Binkley

    Your heart is beautiful and it pours out so eloquently onto the page. "And when I don’t know what else to be, I am thankful." Every time I read your blog, when I get to the last line, I close my wet eyes and say a prayer for you and your children. I appreciate you sharing your heart and your faith. God holds you tightly in his hand. <3

  • Southern Gal

    Praying for wisdom, that you will know what to say and do in each situation. Showing love and grace is so hard sometimes, but it's what we are called to do. You are wise, Katie. May He give you guidance and peace with all the decisions to be made.

  • Sally

    I am amazed at The Glory He receives from you and your life. I am so thankful. I am praying for you and for Jane and for Nancy. Thank you for allowing so many of us to be apart of this journey with you in prayer

  • Danielle

    Beautiful. Ugly. Simple. Complex. These are all words that fit your post. I'm so thankful for your obedience and how it stretches me and so many others living oceans away. I'm so thankful you know you are loved and prayed for by "strangers" who feel they know you. It will continue….

  • Anonymous

    Your words are so true and they challenge me to live that life for Jesus in my corner of the world.May the love and grace of our good God fill your heart and your home.We love you and pray without ceasing!Kathy & Jerry McKinneyNashville, TN

  • Colleen

    You are daily in my prayers, dear Katie. Thank you for loving like Jesus.Colleen in upstate NY

  • Cathrine

    Oh How I'm praying so very hard for you.

  • CathyMA

    one more thing. I have prayed for Jane's leg to heal (from your other post). I think if you get her to a hospital for some IV antibiotics she can be done with this infection? it also might improve her mood because some crankiness might be the result of her not feeling too well. (I have a 5 yr old too).

  • Katy {and Kahler}

    oh, my heart breaks with yours. im praying the Lord would work in mighty ways- that He would calm your heart and protect His sweet child.

  • erica

    Absolutely beautiful. Thanks for sharing your heart. We are praying for you.I ran across your blog a year and a half ago. The post I read that day spoke right to my heart; convicted me, encouraged me. My family is now in the process of adopting a child or 2 from Ethiopia, and I just wanted you to know that your post that day features prominently in our adoption story. God is so good. Thank you for your faithfulness; may God bless you richly. :)

  • The Byrd’s Nest

    This must be so difficult for you, the girls and for Jane. I know you don't know me and I have been reading your blog for quite some times now. Please please know that I am praying for you. I cannot imagine the pain of letting my child go with someone who doesn't take care of them….but God is with her. He never leaves Jane's side. I am praying for her protection and for all of you to have peace in your hearts. I am praying for God to surround you with people to love on you because I know your heart must be broken. Praying for a miracle.

  • Hayley.

    Just read this last night and I wanted to share it with you. "Be encouraged. God sees your tears. Cry them, wipe them, feel them, but don't let them stop you. Its possible to cry and walk." – Kelly MinterPraying for you and your family. Always encouraged by your dependency on His sufficiency.

  • Jenny

    God Bless you Katie. I know He will for the amazing work you do in His name. I'm praying for your heart, because I know it's wonderful to have Jane home, but I also know it's hard that her birthmother is there too and doesn't help and isn't grateful. Praying for Nancy, for Jane, for you, and for your precious girls. <3

  • Annie

    You are my teacher. Thank you. God bless you and your family.

  • K

    When I read your post, tears roll down my face and with each tear, a prayer. I know God loves you and sustains you through this trial and every day.

  • Rachel

    You are such an amazing light, and I thank God for your life and your blog it is continually convicting me to be less of me and more of Jesus. Thank you again for sharing more Jesus with everyone

  • Handwoven Dreams

    Precious Katie. Your transparency and faith in our God is, as always, so fresh, so inspiring. Thanking God for you, RIGHT NOW, praying for God to continue to pour his peace, strength and grace into your mind, spirit and bones. Thank You, Katie, for inspiring us all.

  • Nancy

    It is a privilege just to read the cries of your heart. To see what it's like when someone's will is so turned over to His. Thank you for sharing, sister, and believe we will keep praying!

  • Joanna

    Katie, still praying often for all of you. Your sister in Christ,Joanna

  • Amy D

    Wow. This is one I will have to remember. I will also have to remember the story of the widow, because I often say "I'm sorry, I don't have enough". I forget that there is One who does have enough. Your faithfulness is beautiful.

  • John & Misty Schluchter

    Katie, thank you for taking the time to type up those words! Jesus uses you to refine me every time i read your blog. I'm praying for you, your girls, and your ministry to have great Kingdom impact!

  • kim

    Katie,I have been reading your blog for a very long time, and your faithful heart has never seized to amaze you. You are right, I am sure that God is trying to use you in some special way right now, to teach you something that only He knows… and trust is all we have.Praying for you!

  • phogue

    What a great picture of love and obedience you are, Katie. Our family will continue to keep all of you in our prayers. Thanks for reminding us that we don't need all of the answers, God knows and He provides and that is enough.

  • Jenna

    God humbled me with your words this morning. I know you don't know me Katie, but I am praying for you this morning.

  • elizthm

    Praying for you and that next breath

  • Katie

    Katie,your wisdom always amazes me! Thanking God for you and for the way that you shine for Jesus! Much love.

  • Anonymous

    I have been following your blog for a few months now. I will be praying for you as you travel on this journey God has directed you on.

  • momof2under3

    God bless, Katie. I will be praying for Nancy's salvation. Through a relationship with Christ, she will grow to be someone easy to love. In the meantime, I will be praying grace and peace over you. Obviously, not there on a day to day basis but allowing them both to come home testifies to your willingness to follow God in all things. Only blessings can come from that. Whether they be in the form of good or bad events. Take heart in that little toothbrush and enjoy your little one while you are blessed to have her. Our family will pray that Nancy will be transformed because of the time that she spends in your home. Again God bless! LT

  • Anonymous

    Katie, my family is praying for you and your family as we do often. Just wanted you to know-we love you and are thankful that you are sharing your lives with us from what seems like the other side of the world. Thank you for loving deeply.The Boudreaux's

  • Christy

    Katie – sending prayers for encouragement and direction for you and your girls!!

  • Andrew

    Katie, I stand with you. I love you. Keep letting your heart break, girl He will keep refilling. You are wonderful.THANK you. P.S. I am SO coming to see you. In April.

  • enichols85

    Hi Katie. I don't know you. I stumbled across your blog the other day and was intrigued and inspired. I too am a missionary, just in a different part of this African land. Please know you're in my prayers. I've told everyone I can about you and what an inspiring person you are and have asked them to also join in prayer for you and your family. Keep up the good work. -Elisabeth

  • heather k

    What a beautiful love!And preaching to my heart about SO many things!! :)Many prayers for you and your girls Katie!

  • Kelli

    Praying Katie!

  • ThyHandHathProvided

    Oh, Katie…praying for strength, patience and that supernatural love that only comes from God. May it wash over you in such abundance that you cannot help but share it freely.

  • Jill

    I pray for Nancy's salvation and hope that was His design in bringing Jane back into your home, for the salvation of Nancy. I pray for your strength to do the impossible, Luke 18:27

  • Laura

    Speechless…thankful…blessed and challenged by your words…praying for you and your family

  • Sari

    Katie,I have been reading your blog for quite some time now.. I love how you love Him. I am not sharing this to lift you up, but Him. I can't imagine the pain that is there when she came home, but I can also imagine the great joy. I will lift you and your girls and Nancy up. I believe that God is pursuing Nancy's heart…maybe actively through bringing her into your home. It is really amazing. Again, to Him be the glory, you inspire me to love Him and trust in His promises. I have such small battles and I have found that I easily give up and easily give in, but your faith encourages me. Sister, He is sweet :) and I know you know that!Love,Sari

  • Julie Hoagland

    Breathtaking, beautifully written…..praying for you!

  • Jessica

    I'm so thankful for your honesty, your heart-that hurts and cries out for things to be made right. Even in the midst of the hurting you hold onto Jesus and that's so encouraging to me. Praying for you, your girls and Nancy. Praying for hope to hold onto all that He has promised.

  • Kendra

    I don't even know what to say–your posts always hit my heart. I am always praying for you and your girls and now I will pray for Nancy too. What a servant's heart you have. You are soo strong–I don't know anyone so strong. God does such amazing things and works through such amazing people. You are loved all over this world, Katie.

  • Anonymous

    Dear KatieIt's Katie in Liverpool England, a faithful reader who has the same heart as yours, as usual I read with interest, admiration and praise. I pray for you and your family as you continue on your journey which is so life changing for so many, I hope things become clearer, remember there are prayers for you from all over the world, I think you are amazing! xx

  • Christopher and Jacqueline

    Praying for you, sister. I was reading a poem the other day and your post reminded me of it: "Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater." But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy. Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced. When the Treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall."Praying that God be near you.

  • Resting in the Wings of Grace hope you are encouraged by this song! Praying for you and the journey that your family takes every day. Walking one step at a time with the One who has said "Every place that the sould of your foot treads upon, I have given you." Blessings!!!

  • lindsey

    Praying for you all. God is gracious and will show you His will, He will supply your needs and heal hurts. Be sure and know His peace in your heart and feel His arms embrace as He cares for and looks upon you with amazement at all you are in Him.

  • Anna

    Katie, I am left speechless by your steadfast faith and unwavering love for the Lord. I know you probably get this all the time, but you just inspire me and cause me to want to emanate Jesus to the people around me. Thank you so much for being who you are and fulfilling the Lord's purpose for you. I am so thankful for beautiful people like yourself. Anna

  • Julia

    I am praying for you. Wisdom, grace, an outpouring of love for those who are not lovely, gentleness, provision and rest.

  • ~Isabel

    God has a way of putting people in our path…but maybe not for us, but for the people who he puts in our path.Breath deep, trust and love…which are the things that you do the very best, my friend.

  • Mom Of Many

    I can't imagine how hard it would be to see little Jane.I will be praying for you and your girl.

  • Matthew

    Thank for constantly sharing your thoughts, struggles, and victories with us! Thank you for the reminder that what we have we need to give and that God is constantly there. Watching, guiding, loving….Philippians 1:2-6

  • Susan

    Dearest Katie,I have never met you but you and your family are in my prayers every single day.Your faith is beautiful and real and it is so inspiring.You make your Savior proud.Blessings and love to you,Susan

  • Nicole

    Thank you! I treasure this post! The Holy Spirit has spoken through you to me and I'm so Thankful! Let my Heart be Broken by the Things that Break the Heart of God!

  • Momto3

    I am praying so hard for your family. Although I don't know you, I am so grateful for your life and the fact that you take the time to share God's whispers to your heart and your journey with the blog world (because you are an encouragement to me). God speaks to me every time I read your blog, and reminds me that in the midst of pain, sorrow, and suffering we have a DEEP JOY because of HIM. Thank you for allowing God to speak through you and use you. I will continue to pray for you and your family, that God will work and use and teach and comfort and love on you all as you walk through this time in your lives. One day, my family hopes to visit Amazima. Grace and Peace to you.

  • Amber

    Katie…I am a stranger. But I am also your sister in Christ.I am praying for your sweet heart. and for Jane and Nancy and all your girls.He is faithful.Hugs & PRayers,AmberK

  • Callie

    I found myself nodding in agreement when I got to the "However, I do know what to do about it" paragraph. As someone who's been around adoption and foster care as long as I can remember, I know what a hard thing this is, and I truly believe you are doing exactly what God wants you to do. All you can do is what you know to be good and true, and you are doing just that. Last night I wrote a post entitled, "a post in which I ramble about birth families, brokenness, and beautiful" ( about our recent visit with my little sister's birth mother and siblings. Great minds think alike, I guess. ;-) Praying for you, your girls, and Nancy all the time!

  • Anonymous

    Hi :) My name is Meghan and I just wanted to let you know that I'm praying for you. I LOVE to read your posts and see what the Lord does through you. And I LOVE to see the pictures of those sweet little faces :)

  • Growing in Grace, Leaping with Faith

    I know we don't know each other but I am praying for you my sweet sister. You are an amazing example of who Christ is in joy and in pain. So thankful for you and your sweet family. I will be praying for each of you. His will above all else.

  • woosterweester

    I don't know how you do it Katie. Well, I mean, I know how you do it–Jesus. But I mean I know that you still have to discipline the flesh, make the hard choices, becomes less that He might become more. Thanks for continuing to be obedient and do the hard thing. It preaches all the way across the ocean back to my little home in America where the "hard" things I struggle with seem to pale in comparison to the gray area you are living in right now. You are so right…in light of eternity only a few things really matter. Praying for you this morning as I know so many others are. And though we've never met, it does my heart good to feel like I know you and excites me to think about spending forever with people like you…one day sitting at the feet of Jesus hearing all the stories from you of ashes made beautiful, victories even in seeming defeat, and of love like no other. God bless you and all your little girls today. ALL of them.

  • Jenn Nahrstadt

    this is a hard eucharisteo, but i am so thankful you have been given perspective, even if it's wonderful to have jane back in your lives, and how challenging and dying-to-self it is to have it be God's way and not yours.i'm glad you wrote this so that you can refer back to it on the hard days. you will always be glad, even if you never know the outcome, that you took God at His Word and LOVED, trusting Him for the rest.

  • Bob & Judy

    … and the Father might be standing up right now to give the call to end it all. So keep on walking….Do what you know to do at this moment. Because your next moment, you may be face to face with the Father. What a bargain it will have been, if He smiles and says, "Yup. That's what I wanted you to do."(And that's real easy to say when it's not ME who has to do it….)

  • emily

    i feel like such a creep, stalking your family for years now…but i am praying, and many others here in central illinois are praying as well. thanks for your honesty.

  • emily

    i feel like such a creep, stalking your family for years now…but i am praying, and many more here in central illinois are praying as well. thanks for your honesty.

  • RaVae Erickson

    Oh Katie,My heart breaks for you. My prayers are with you and for you.I LOVE your perspective. Thank you.

  • Julia

    I rarely comment but always read and always am moved to pray for you and your family. Praying for Jane and Nancy and this situation. Keep abiding in him. It is all a gift, the hard stuff…gifts. Can't imagine your heartache. I'm learning so much through watching you walk through this journey…thank you.

  • Anonymous

    His power is made perfect in my weakness! How awesome is He! I look forward to seeing Him work in your life and in mine as well.

  • Erin

    Katie,What an incredible post. Incredible perspective. Incredible reminders…to love others with the Jesus in me. And Jesus IS enough! I appreciate you SO MUCH.

  • jstromli

    Sweet prayers to you Katie for strength and continued trust as you face unthinkable situations. Thank you for your constant witness of God's love and mercy. I pray my heart can grow as yours has!

  • Alicia Beth

    Katie, my heart goes out to you. I can only imagine all the emotions you have experienced this past week. You have to make some tough decisions and that's NEVER easy. While I certainly am not a single mom of many kids in Africa, I feel that I can relate to you. I have been desperate to know God's will like you. I have loved people that I didn't know why like you. So your thoughts are encouraging to me here in TN. Amazing how our God is the same in Africa and all over the world :)

  • Lisa and company

    Isn't it amazing how God answers our prayers in such mysterious ways sometimes. How lucky for Jane that you are centered in Christ and are willing to be there for her and her wayward birth mother.You will continue to be in my prayers. Christ is enough- His power, His healing, His grace, His love it is enough.

  • Tonya

    I love you and will continue on in prayer my sister.

  • Meli_Mama

    Father God thank You so much for Katie. Thank you for letting me glimpse into her life and be challenged to live my own more for you. As she endures these trials I pray for Your strength, Your wisdom, and Your patience. May she look back one day and see Your big picture. Until then may she rest in You. I love you Jesus! Amen.

  • Laine

    Oh Katie ever since you posted earlier that you needed prayer, we have prayed and prayed for you. We pray for you everyday, but lately more specifically than ever before.It is NO coincidence that just an hour before reading your post, I read to my children the story of the widow. WOW. Yes, HE IS ENOUGH. HE IS PROVIDER. HE IS SOVEREIGN. And Katie, you are living that out loud.I know you don't want to hear accolades or praise…so I will just say I praise GOD for YOU.In the uncertainty and the mess, He is holding on to you even tighter.

  • Anonymous

    Katie, I am new to your blog. and I want to thank you for sharing your heart and helping me know how to pray! John 15:1212 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. thank you for your example to keep His command !! praying for you, God;s perfect Will, karen

  • Lindsay

    What an encouragement to read this today. Oh Father,help us all to be faithful with "little"!

  • and 2 became 5

    His grace is certainly sufficient & you have taught me that with every single entry on this blog. I will stand in the gap & pray with you through this. He is holding you. We know that for certain.

  • and 2 became 5

    His grace is certainly sufficient & you have taught me that with every single entry on this blog. I will stand in the gap & pray with you through this. He is holding you. We know that for certain.

  • Sandy

    Katie,I wish that I could travel the distance and be right there next to you to hold you and give you a hug that says I know where you are at. I raised an adopted child…and have been through all of those things you speak of. I have been there. And know….always….that He is forever faithful!!! He will be enough and always have exactly what you need, when you need it. Love!, like you never knew you could…and in the end…it will be the difference that you never knew could happen. Love! and know that with every thing you give:", Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. It is a promise to you!!!! God IS faithful!!! prayers for you and your girls, always!!!Sandy

  • Mamabelly

    I will pray for you and your kids! I will pray for the grey to become more clear and for an answer to this problem. My heart breaks with yours and a mother's heart can only suffer to see your child hurt and confused like this. But your never ending and always strong love will show your little girl the way to God and love and trust again and I hope and pray the 14 pairs of flip flops remain.

  • lavender syrup

    So many tears…..I can't even imagine this journey and wish I could say I wanted to spend eternity with my adversary. Lord Jesus, help us to love like you!


    Katie,Just started reading a few weeks ago and I love your heart. I can only imagine the frustration you feel, praying that God gives you the grace we often lack in our own hearts. Thank you for being an inspiration! Much love from Ohio. -Jolie

  • Anonymous

    Katie – you don't know me but I read your blog. My heart breaks for you and your Jane in this situation. I am praying for you all, even Nancy. I learn so much from your posts about God. Thank you for opening up and sharing your life with us all. Love – April in GA

  • Anonymous

    Katie,I really can't tell you how much of an inspiration you are to me, but wish I had the words to. Your grace amid trials which I can't begin to understand is beautiful. You love like Jesus and it is refreshing, uplifting, and in my humble opinion, the greatest testimony to your girls of Christ. You are teaching them, and us, who He is, not only by words, but by acting like Him in radical ways oft overlooked due to societal norms. I pray you have the strength to deal with this most unique and challenging situation and that you and your girls continue to live in the most amazing "silver lining" that is the love of Christ. I pray the Lord protects your heart and the hearts of your littles, that you may love Jane and Nancy with reckless abandon while remaining protected from repeated heartache. I love you and your girls. Keep seeking Him! Many Blessings,Beth

  • Debbie

    Dearest Katie–I am praying for your family still. Ever since Uganda–I know He has His mighty hand and outstretched arm on your family. I am praying that He continues to lead you through this gray area of adoption with His black and white words of the gospel. After all, adoption IS plan "A"–His plan. I am proud of you as you struggle to obey and find that He is truly enough. "For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison."… 2 Corin. 4:17 Thank you for always pointing to Christ!!! This is His story and you are a very important piece of the story. I love you sister. Because He lives—Debbie

  • Anonymous

    Katie, be assured that there are many more praying than the sixty who commented. Here's one more (plus wife and child) who love you and pray regularly for you all.For the eyes of the LORD range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.2 Chronicles 16:9God sees you, sees your commitment and obedience, and so he strengthens! Praise God for his promise – my prayer answered long before it was ever prayed!Blessings from Mike, Racheal & AfricaLondon, UK

  • Fuad

    Thank you!May He continue to bless you and your beautiful family.

  • Erin

    Raw and real. At the throne of our King, you are finding mercy and grace to help in your time of need. He has answered your pleading to bring Jane home to you. As you said, she did not come in the way you prayed, but she is there. Your cries were heard. He has intervened and has set the lonely in a family once again!

  • allie :^)

    i just cannot tell you how much you inspire. you who are so young, but have so much wisdom. you who are bold and daring and living out one of the truest lives of anyone i know. you certainly have the hugest heart of anyone i know. and this post was particularly marvelous and particularly inspired me. :) thank you katie, for shining so bright in a world that is oftentimes very gray. :) i love you! bunches and bunches! thank you for taking in these beautiful girls, for sharing your home and heart with them and also with us through this blog. WOW! ;)

  • LovingMyGirls

    I really needed to read this tonight. Thank you so much for sharing. This rings so true and so deep and with such conviction in my soul that I just can't begin to express in words how it's touched me. I am so glad I stumbled across your blog those few months ago. Not only is the Lord using you in Uganda to show the his love…he's using you in Maine too! God bless you and your little ones (and all the strings attached! hehe).

  • Brenda

    I know that it has to be extremely difficult!Ican't even imagine…but know that you are loved, and prayed for. That there are people all over that are crying with you and for you as they lift you up and ask our Holy Father to take care of you and your family. May He give you the strength and the wisdom that you must have to carry out this tough task of mercy! And just as He is merciful to us…we are to be merciful to others. In His Love…Brenda

  • amanda

    Praying for you in this situation and grace over your household… from a sister in Alaska.

  • Molly Bierens

    Praying for peace, wisdom and understanding for you. I really admire you and what you are doing for all of your children!

  • Anonymous

    I don't know you except from what I've seen on your blog, but I would give up all kinds of things to just spend a week with your family. You amaze me. Your faith is so great. I see Jesus in you. Missions have been on my heart for a long time, and I plan on taking a year off after I graduate from high school next year. A lot of people don't understand it, and they are even more confused when they ask why and I try to explain that I want to be like Jesus. I think you are doing an incredible job at living your life as a model of His. I told my mom that I want to be you someday, or at least half as inspiring and incredible. Keep loving. Keep caring. Keep praying. Keep seeking. I'm so happy for you to be living with Jane once again, though the circumstances are less than ideal. love love love love.

  • Anonymous

    All I can say, Katie, is that you are AMAZING. You are my hero on this Earth. I truly believe that you speak to God and that he speaks back to you. I'm honored to have found your blog, your story and I let it inspire me daily in what I do, the way I treat others, and the way I raise my son, as a single mama like you. Thank you.

  • Kelly

    I anxiously await your posts, like someone waiting for a special letter to be delivered. Your words continue to touch me in so many ways. I was reading 1 Corinthians 13 this morning and as I journaled I asked God to help me show love to others, but as I wrote I realized the word used was actually 'have' not show. He's not interested in us just showing love, he wants us to really, truly HAVE love. You have such a wonderful ability to have love for others, even when it rips your heart open leaving it exposed and raw. You still love. And in doing so, you inspire others of us to do the same. I pray for you always. May God continue to bless you and your family and may He shower you with peace through this struggle.

  • Rachel

    Oh Katie, my heart hurts for you. Yet I entrust you and your precious family to the One Who holds the world in the palm of His hand. I am praying for you… may you continue to find Christ as your greatest Treasure and Pleasure so that in this short life which He has given us as a gift, you may carry out His love tomorrow and the next day, to those precious children. You are a source of inspiration and hope to so many. Your faithfulness is a gift to those sweet girls, and also to those who treasure you in their hearts and lift you up in prayer all over the world. You are living out the Gospel, Katie. May the Lord continue to sustain you with His great love in these difficult days. My love and prayers are with you…

  • lafalda

    katie, my heart hurts for you. i will continue to pray for your family. you are such an encouragement to me. your faith is much wider-reaching than you even know. God bless you.

  • rachaelmogle

    Katie,You don't know me but I pray for you every day. I hope one day we'll get to meet, and that I will have a family that I can mix with yours – if not on earth, then definitely in heaven. Thanks be to Jesus who gives us all good, wonderful things.

  • “Are These Kids All Yours?”

    PRAYING my friend. As foster parents….totally get the heart ripping out effect. PRAYING HARD that you are lifted up!!!!!

  • Anonymous

    Katie, Prayers always, for you and your family. God has placed Nancy & Jane there for a reason and at the very least while she is there you know she is being taken care of. Your love and faith and obedience to God will leave a lasting impression on all that surround you.Sending love from Indiana!Aunt V.

  • Sarah

    amen sister. and He promises that there will be joy in that obedience…it may be slow to come at first, but when it comes, what joy! praying Nancy and Jane and for the grace to keep obeying. blessings – sarah

  • Lindsay

    I know there are so many broken hearts in this situation… but I am praying for sweet Jane and the confusion and hurt she must be going through. God bless you and your precious girls.

  • Carmen O.

    I don't know you, but you are my sister in Christ. This very situation was laid on my heart for you, and so I've been praying every day when you come to mind. One day we shall see each other face to face, where He will wipe away all tears and confusion. But until then, we see spirit-to-spirit at the place where we fall before him on our knees in prayer. Blessing to you and your family – Carmen

  • Tom Roth

    Heartbreaking and humbling. I would not even try to "give advice", instead I send love and prayer. For HE is the only answer and even though words of support are not enough – prayer and Jesus are offered, as if they are "what I can do from here"…when in reality – Jesus and prayer are the most I could ever offer.Daily you open your doors and your heart: in Mark Ch. 14 The Parable of the Great Banquet is shared…when I read of all you are doing this parable keeps coming to mind. Keep inviting :)

  • Sheri O

    Wow! I've learned so much from you and your incredibly deep faith. Please know that even when you can't see what His plan is – you have touched me and deepened my faith. I'm praying for you and ALL your girls!

  • Botterfly Girl

    Your commitment to the Lord is so inspiring. Stay strong and He will provide, God is always enough.Thank you for sharing part of your life with us. I'll keep your family in my prayers.

  • Kristy

    you dont know me. i just started following your story about 4 months ago. im deeply moved by what God is doing in and around you. thanks for letting us in on it. you are truly living out the gospel. thank you.

  • Sandy

    You don't know me, but I've been praying for you for over a year now & today I storm the gates of heaven for you & your precious family again…so thankful we have a Daddy who Knows & Provides…especially in the gray.

  • Wisconsin Farmgirls

    Amen and amen!"Be still.." Resting in your God is the best place to be, no matter what drives you there.Exodus 14:13-14Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.”Psalm 37:7Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.Psalm 46:10He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”Thank you for continuing to post about your journey. Since I'm removed from your situation it takes your posts to remind me that you are still hurting. Psalm 81:10"I am the LORD thy God which brought thee out of the land of Egypt: open thy mouth wide, and I will fill it."

  • Anonymous

    Katie, I am praying for you. I love and admire you, and your family. I want you to have Jane back. I think she belongs with you. That poor sweet child. God bless her little confused heart.

  • Shauna

    I notice your clock…it says 6:48am. You are just waking up with your family, and I am just settling down for the night. You have a day ahead of you, and i want you to know that have whispered prayers for you and yours tonight.

  • Erika Chapman

    You don't know me Katie but almost daily you are in my prayers and thoughts. You inspire me when my day as a mom of 3 boys gets long. We are adopting from Uganda and when I get tired of the waiting or frustrated with the paperwork I go to your blog and look at your pictures and remember that if you can do what you are called to do then I can certainly do what He has called me to do. I am praying for you Katie and your beautiful girls. I hope some day to meet you and serve alongside you at least for a day. Thank you for your obedience…it challenges and inspires me to love more:)

  • Jen

    Weeping with you for what I know that tricky balance of birth mom and forever mom is like….that trying so hard to love like Jesus and being pushed away…that fear of the unknown and what will become of things balanced with that trust in our sovereign God. That frustration of two steps forward, one back and the undoing of whats been done. Praying for you. Hurting with you. Dancing in heaven with you someday. All my unity.

  • Irene

    I love this…"Where strangers become family"…so it is with God.Praying for you and your beautiful girls!

  • Allyson

    I am so encouraged every time I hear you pour out your heart. I pray for you and for your girls often. You have many that pray for you that you don't even know. We went to the same high school with you but I didn't know you personally… despite that, your story has greatly impacted me, as it has many others. I often find myself sharing your story in conversation. It's funny how when we are planted directly center in the will of God, our response isn't wow, she's an amazing person (which I think you are :) ) But rather, wow, God is so good. We enjoy his grace and extend his glory. Your heart is so big and your attitude toward Nancy and your love for Jane are both moving. You, and your household, are in my thoughts and prayers. Always, Allyson

  • Jen

    As it says at the top of your blog. On earth as it is in Heaven. That is my prayer for you. I have never posted before but your posts touch my heart deeply. I know that our God is faithful and when you ask He will provide the answer for you. In the meantime my heart is heavy for you and those that you love. May you reach a place of peace and I pray that Nancy will come to know and love the Lord and in doing that come to love you.

  • Susan A

    Hi Katie, we are praying that good will come out of this situation with Nancy and Jane. May His blessings flow through.

  • Anonymous

    BEAUTIFUL-ALL OF IT! Praising Jesus and asking for continued redemption and an abundant outpouring of grace to exceed your needs!!!!!

  • LoLo

    Thank you so much for the reminder that when we 'think' we don't have enough, God is faithful! Praying for you, your aching heart, and for your family!

  • Penny

    Katie,The immediate answer you have given Jane and Nancy is indeed the unconditional love Jesus gives us moment by moment and day by day. You received them exactly how Jesus received us in our brokenness. Your acceptance of Nancy and Jane is shouting this and they are hearing you, feeling Jesus love deeply and it is painful for them, especially Nancy. A wounded and distraught woman who needs love, acceptance and has never had it! You, Katie are giving her a taste of eternal love and eternal life! Through your pain and Nancy's pain love is being birthed. Love this world does not know nor can ever know apart from a supernatural God breaking through. She came to you because she knows you love her and would welcome her in. She sees a difference in you, Katie. Jesus reaching out to her in her pain! This is the first step for Nancy receiving God's love. She cannot run from it, she may seem to be resisting it. As you know, God is working His love through you! Press on dear sister, press on! Praying with you that His Love breaks through even more today and the next until His love envelopes her whole being! And then she is able to become all she was meant to be in Christ. Jesus, we pray Nancy will be able to comprehend the breadth and length and height and depth of your love, which surpasses all knowledge and that Nancy may be filled up with all the fullness of You, Jesus, today. Oh Savior, save her from herself and emblazon your love into her heart, and let it flow Jesus, like a river through her entire body! Give her what she is starving for, you, Jesus! Amen

  • Mary Ann

    Dear Katie, I have never written you, but I pray for you often. Thank you for sharing your heart. Thank you for your constant encouragement & example to live life surrendered and obedient to Jesus. I am so grateful & privileged to be serving our gracious King beside you here in Long Island, NY. We also have an open & revolving door and this weekend we will have 7 people from Watoto Choir (Uganda) with us and I wondered just this morning how I will feed them, how I will care, how etc… Only by His grace, only in His strength, only as He provides, only as He enables us to love… 16 yrs ago, God entrusted me with 3 children who I did not birth but as God would have it, they are totally part of my heart. They too had a birth mother that was unable to care, so I know the very difficult dilemna… The lessons they have learned as we have opened our home to others has been huge. I have many more gray hairs, but oh, I have seen God's faithfulness and incredible love time and time again. He loves us so. Praying for you to have wisdom Katie. Wisdom is a hearing heart, understanding follows. I love that God wants us to hear more than we want to listen. Can you imagine? Praying you know more of God's goodness & mercy as He leads and surrounds you today.with much love,Mary Ann

  • Anonymous

    Praying for you Katie and all your girls. Your words always touch my heart and it is my honor to pray for you and your sweet family. Hugs!Shatawn

  • shoshanna

    Praying – God promises to give beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, praise for a spirit of heavyness. May God bring beauty out of this for you, for Jane. . .

  • shoshanna

    Praying – God promises beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, praise for a spirit of heavyness. May he bring beauty out of this for you, for Jane. . .you are all in my prayers.

  • Whitney and Daniel Bunker

    Thank you for choosing to be obedient and be the example of unconditional love. I needed that reminder with someone who I am struggling with in my life right now. Paying for God's perfect will over you and your family.

  • Kristen

    I will be praying for you as you work through this process!

  • hh

    Katie, I am joining with the other sisters and brothers of the Body of Christ to intercede and see the miracles God will do. When we pray He hears us and it is done! (1 John 5:14)I thank God that He is teaching His church to "love one another as Christ has loved you" through your example of obedience. When it seems it is impossible for the human heart to submit, the Holy Spirit's provision of abundant grace makes His will a reality.May His deep love and abundant grace continue to sustain you!love, hh

  • Anonymous

    Katie. I am a non believer but you inspire me every time I read your wonderful blog. I cry tears and think of the beautiful people you are among and helping. You are a wonderful person and a credit to mankind. Thank you for sharing your blog with me. I have read your whole blog……………..amazing. Your are never far from my thoughts.

  • Jacki

    Your example is both honest and exemplary. Thanks for such vivid pictures of your life there, and how those families that come to you are being loved and touched for the sake of the Lord.

  • M.K.

    I'm so happy to see here SO many comments and expressions of love, prayer and support for you, sister in Christ, and for the loving work you're doing there. May God richly bless you. May He continue to fill your heart with love. May He give you the joy and hope of Heaven in your heart, when this Earth seems too heavy. God bless you!

  • Jenifer

    Katie,I am once again speechless. I LOVE your heart so much. You are wise beyond your years and good beyond all measure. You don't need help in your attitude or your perspective, you have all you need. Your spirit is eternally filled by the Holy Spirit, that is apparent. Keep faithful as you always do…you are a BEAUTIFUL example to this broken world. Love you. Jenifer

  • Cindy Hannah

    Wow…what an emotional roller coaster, and what deep workings with Jesus in the process. I pray for His peace for you, and for His voice to minister to you with exactly what you need for that moment.

  • From a full heart…

    Amazing. Absolutely amazing. I am just one more to this beautiful long list of those praying. And I am inspired and humbled as well. I know the Lord will direct each decision you make, and rejoice that sweet Jane is in your arms today.

  • Leslie Ober

    My heart is hurting right along with yours. :( And as we all lift you and your beautiful family up before the Lord, may you experience unimaginable peace and joy in the midst of the yuck. Fix your eyes on Him. Wait on Him. And you are absolutely right…He is faithful. :)

  • yellowgirl

    hi katie…praying for you as always and i wait expectantly for your posts. i recommend your blog to many that i know are walking this journey of missions/adoption as well. remember that nancy is watching you, learning from you, thinking about what's going on. no heart is too hard for Jesus to soften and change. when you adopt a child, you adopt their family as well, for better or worse…i'll be praying that nancy will not only change, but that she will be an agent of change in your home- God sends us sandpaper/diamonds.blessings abundant!

  • speedyjjg

    Katie, I feel so blessed when I read your blog. I can see Jesus shining through you and I know you will have a special place in heaven. Thank you for taking care of the orphan. Each time you come to my mind I whisper a prayer for you.

  • Butterfly Kisses

    I cry every time I read your posts. It's funny to not know you personally and yet to love you as my sister in the Lord sooo much. I pray for you unceasingly, especially as I pray through my own years of dark depression. When I can not feel hope for myself, I pray it for you and for others who share my passion for the Lord. Your references to Jer 29:11 and 2Cor 12:8-10 have flooded my heart and mind lately. I want to encourage you as our pastor reminded us today: "It's only when I engage in meeting the deepest needs of others that my deepest needs will be met (in Jesus)! Let the feeding of the 5000 flood your heart with promise and hope (Mark 6:39-44). Blessings–dianne :)

  • Robin Dodd Photography

    Katie,i love your blog so much, I thank you for sharing everything so openly here with us.. I am inspired by you…

  • anna

    Oh, I am praying for you – I knew in my heart from your last post that you must be talking about something to do with Jane – and I pray that God will give you the strength to get through!

  • Anonymous

    When Nancy gives her heart to God we are going to yell with such triumph that all the earth will be shaken. Until then, you have what strength my prayer can lend to support this hard and Godly work of yours.Erica

  • Anonymous

    Praying for you and your girls, Katie!

  • Christy

    Praying for you! It is so hard to have children leave after you have cared for them. So very hard! Praying that God will show you what to do and that He will give you His peace!

  • Gina in Spain

    OH Katie, this must be so heartbreaking for you and so hard….esp. having to relinquish Jane´s care to a mother you know is not looking out for her. I admire your bravery and generosity in taking her in along with Jane….Hugs and we will all pray for you…P.S. I got my picture and letter from my sponsored child last week! So excited..her name is Rebecca Kisakye..I already sent her a letter! Thank you for letting me part of this journey!

  • Rachel

    Enjoy having your sweet Jane back in your home. Praying God will soften her heart and let her see His love shining through you and your girls. Praying she sees what it means to be a mother and care well for her precious girl. Praying for peace and patience for you.Hugs and PrayersRachel in Franklin TN

  • Anonymous

    KatieI am so encouraged by your honesty and love of what God loves. I just wanted to encourage you with a story from my family. My dad was sent to live with a Christian woman from the time he was 18 months to four years old, while his mother was doing God knows what (drinking, hanging out with men at bars etc.) His "foster mother" gave my dad the love and affection that he so badly needed during such formative years. His mother came back for him when she remarried and he lived with her until he was 18 and witnessed all kinds of evil in his home. Making a long story short, my dad accepted Christ when he was in the military and can recall whispering presence of Christ in his life from the time he was living with his "foster mother" Her love made it possible for him to hope for more, to hope for and eventually accept his heavenly Father. To God be the glory!

  • Anonymous

    In constant prayer for you and your daughters. Words can't express the love and burden I feel for you and your family. This is something only the Lord could have done. Keep shining as bright as you are. Jackie-Houston TX

  • Anonymous

    Dear sister in Christ,While we have not met here on earth, I have read your words for some time now and have prayed through tears for you much of the time. My prayer in this time is that God will take the brokeness, the pain, the hurt, the struggle, the cries…and He will make of it a beautiful tapestry in His time. I pray that the knowing of that will make the waiting bearable. I pray that in the waiting for the beauty, you will find the beauty that is there waiting for you.Much love in Christ, Kristin

  • Shelby

    A friend just referred me to your blog. I just want you to know you are in my prayers.

  • kim temple

    2 things I have heard my mother say a million times: If He brings you to it, He will carry you through it! And — He will never give you more than you can endure. Praying you will be able to see a glimmer of difference that I have confidence that you are making in Nancy. I love your heart for others! Keep constant – it will be what Jane remembers! Blessings to you and yours!

  • ASH

    I just prayed that you would find joy in that next measure of strength and grace…in the next step. So thankful for His grace to us all through you, for His grace to you through your 14 beautiful blessings.

  • Kristin

    Praying that you are a light in their lives and that she comes to know Him through your love, compassion and grace.

  • shepherdsgrace

    Love conquers all!This love promise is highest of all!We rest in His love, may He pour it out in greater and greater measure in you…His beautiful work is being accompliced!

  • Michelle A

    Praying that God would fill your cup to overflowing to enable you to do what He is asking by the power of the Holy Spirit. May God bless you as you walk this painful path. Only He knows what the future holds and the legacy your actions and love will leave.

  • Sandi

    katie,i'm so amazed at your love and compassion. want you to know, although we've never met, i pray for you pretty much daily and think of you and your girls often. nancy is so blessed that you love her (your)daughter and she knew exactly where to go when she needed help! that is the kingdom of god, you're walking it girl!

  • Anonymous

    Katie, We have never met and probably never will until That Day. Words cannot express my heart as I read of what you are doing.I too want to change the world (yes, you and Jesus are changing the world!). My spirit cries out "YES LORD"! As I read your blog, I cannot help but think of some of the writings of Mother Theresa – I'm serious here.You have come to understand at an early age what it means to take care of orphans and widows and bringing hope to the hopeless.I pray that I can do the same.Bless you young lady.Kenny SachtBoise, Idaho

  • Anonymous

    I was driving to work this morning and praying for you and Jane kept popping in the forefront of my prayers. So I checked your blog first thing when I got to work and sure enough, there was Jane. God is with you, He is in all these little details. You are teaching us what it is to truly love, even when we find it almost impossible to even like someone. So neat that because we are sisters in Christ, He led me to pray for you in Missouri, someone I've never met but cheer on everyday in my heart.

  • Stacey

    Praying for you….

  • Mandi

    Katie,Your posts are always so inspirational. I always learn so much about God through you, and you constantly remind me to live fully for Him and follow Him completely in my life. I'm praying for you and your girls and Nancy and for her salvation! Don't give up, "God works for the good of those who love Him" (can't remember where this verse is). Prayers for you coming from Minnesota! :)

  • auntie rose

    This song "Blessings" has blessed me tremendously and i wanted to share it with you. for you.I love you.Rose

  • Liberty

    Hi Katie, My husband and I just got back from a mission trip to Salt Lake City with a group of 15 5th and 6th graders from our church in Nampa, ID. Our 10 year old daughter was one of the students blessed through this experience. On the last night of the trip, one of the hosting pastors was teaching the kids about how God will give them all they need to become whomever they dream of becoming. The pastor then proceeded to ask each of the kids what they wanted to grow up to be. Our daughter was the last to answer and tears welled up in my eyes as she responded, "There is this lady named Katie in Africa who has adopted 14 daughters. I think God wants me to be like her." You are inspiring and touching so many through what God has called to do. My husband and I are definitely inspired to once again embark upon the adoption journey.We pray for you, your ministry, and your 14 daughters (including Jane). Liberty

  • Until the whole world hears♥

    you have a beautiful heart! i love reading your blogs! ♥

  • Rachel

    Wow, Katie. I just keep thinking of 70×7. It's not easy to forgive and least of all to forget, but you are right. We just obey and Trust Him for every day. Thank you for your example of this.

  • Anonymous

    Praying, dear Katie…

  • Anonymous

    Katie, thank you again for sharing your heart. You are prayed for often. It is a priviledge to have met your beautiful family. God has brought Nancy closer to Jesus by bringing her to your home. Your life is Jesus, and I am thankful that He loves us all enough, even Nancy, to use you to draw us all to His throne, to His feet. I know it must be absoltuley exhausting. He wastes nothing. One kind smile from you and you are passing on more of Him. Thank you, Katie. God bless you. There will be more prayers from the Jones family. It seems God always has something amazing in store for your family. I look forward to this testimony.With love,Tracey

  • Jocelyn

    THANK YOU… for sharing your heart, for sharing God's truth, for continually being faithful and trusting. This was the post I needed to read.. haven't read blogs for a week and then tonight as I am packing up the things of a child I have cared for a loved with all my heart for the past year and a half, waiting for a ruling that she will return to her biological family on Tuesday- I come here and tears stream down my face reading God-inspired words. I am so praying for your heart, for your energy and for your joy… to remain strong, rooted in love and mercy that can ONLY be given from our Father. it is amazing when you feel you do not ahve the strength or the will to take one more step, give one more smile, give one more act of grace and God wonderfully says "but I can". Praying for the decisions you are facing, for the wisdom to know what is best and for the strength to shine Jesus in these incredibly difficult circumstances. God has given you an amazing heart and He is strengthening you moment by moment as you stay connected to Him and His truths.

  • BeautifulMess

    Dear Katie,It is so beautiful, beautiful, beautiful to see how God shines in your life and in your love. I feel my heart ache to hear about your daughter, but at the same time I know that He feels every pain, every moment. Our God lost His children as well, to a world and an entity that doesn't love them, doesn't really want them. And He too suffers through seeing us fall and become deeply wounded. I know it sounds weird to say this, but your struggles are beautiful as well because you are seeing, are feeling, a part of the heart of God that many of us do not see or feel. Our God is so relational. He has deep hurts, and He too desires to be understood, to be known by us. He's been taking me through Jeremiah and the prophets lately, where He gives His heart's cry for His love…He tells Hosea to marry a whore because it symbolizes so much of what He feels.You are a friend of God. You see His heart even in the midst of your pain, and this…this depth of relationship with Him is beautiful. You have a constant Friend and Lover who knows exactly how you feel…and you also know to some extent how He feels. And the more we understand Him, the more we see Him, therein lies true Beauty.It is a joy to pray for you, to lift you up, sister! BeautifulMess

  • Enjoy Country Living

    Thank the Good Lord You have Jane in your home again and with your help Nancy will come to know Our God and our Savior. She may be there now because he is calling her and you are the answer. Love her and Jane and watch a seed planted _Grow!This is an amazing post and I will be praying for you , your family, Jane and Nancy. I've just watched some of your videos on You-Tube and I cried. You again have touched my heart and soul. God Bless you Katie. Looking forward to meeting you some day. Big Hugs!!!

  • Jody & Melissa

    You inspire me in so many ways. You are an incredible woman. I feel honored to read your blog & thus share a tiny part of your life. He is faithful & unchanged. Praying for you from Canada. *m

  • Mostly Mom to 3

    Dear Katie, I don't know that I have ever commented on your blog, but you touch my heart and tears roll down my cheeks each time I read a post. Your words touch me deeply and God uses your words to touch my life. What you said in this post is so amazing and so what I needed to hear for my own life. Thank you for allowing God to use you! Yes, life is hard – even in the sweet comfort of the USA. I can't even imagine what you go through, but I do pray for you. You have such an amazing heart and it shows – God's love flows through you and you allow yourself to be a vessel for Him. I wish I had half the faith you have. I'm a work in progress – trying to cling to His promises and truly believe it in my heart and not just my head. I have printed out many of your posts so in my dark days I can re-read them and they once again bring me hope. I just want you to know how many lives (not just in Uganda) you are touching!!! Thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Keep abiding in Him and as you already know He is enough. :)Karlynda

  • PastorMac’s Ann

    praying, dearest Katie. praying.

  • Bree

    Praying with and for you and these sweet ones…Bree

  • http://www, www,

    This is amazing!! Thank you for your realness and honesty and thank you for loving with your life and witnessing to the rest of us of God's faithfulness and love.

  • Teri

    Thank you for always sharing your heart in such an honest and raw way. God spoke directly to me and answered my prayers through this most recent post so I can't think you enough for writing what he leads you to write. We have opportunity to bring child into our home for summer and maybe longer but we were worried what if we lack $, time, energy, etc but now it is abundantly clear, all we need is faith and obedience and we will be good to go!!!!! Thank you for your words, HIS words to us!

  • Anonymous

    I have always loved reading your posts, but lately they are so painful to me and reading them is like ripping a scab off of an unhealed wound. Your life with and without your Jane and her mama parallels my story of working with birthmoms as I foster their children. Right now my Gracie is still here with me, the only mama she has ever known; but it may be soon that she goes to the very young, unstable girl who gave birth to her and is using time extension after extension to barely meet the minimum requirements to get her baby back. This young mother hasn't really wanted my help, she hasn't changed her lifestyle, yet her rights are being protected at the expense of her baby's rights. I am one who is pleased to come alongside mamas as they work their way to stability and reunify with their children whom have lived in my family. In general, I favor children being reunified with their parents. But this situation is different – it is a sad illustration of selfishness and self-centeredness. At the expense of little Gracie. So, keep writing your heart, Katie, and I will keep reading, empathizing with you because my heart knows your agony and your choice to be obedient. Your choice to go back and do it all again because it is an honor to be Christ to this world.

  • Katya

    Hi,I've been reading your blog since the beginning of my freshman year of college. You are such an inspiration to me, my name is Katya [Russian for Katie]. I was adopted from Tula, Russia at the age of 5 with my brother who was 8. You are doing an amazing thing adopting these children, I can't even imagine even though I have been adopted. I'm so blessed to be in this country, and I still take for granted the things that I have despite my past. I love the Lord now, this has been a recent and miraculous change. My brokenness from being adopted has been healed because of God.Your life and story are in my prayers, especially those beautiful children that you have graciously decided to take care of.