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  • Little Magpie

    Whoops! Sorry Libby Anne, I read the comments policy after already having made several comments. I may have erred on the “needless vulgarity” … depending on how one defines it. The, um, 4-letter curse word which is actually religious in origin rather than having to do with bodily functions probably slipped out, and while it’s pretty mild by my standards, no doubt yours are different.. so sorry if any of my language thus far has crossed your personal line of “bad language.”

    Keep up the good work, you awesome woman you.

  • HeathMike

    Libby Anne, excellent, well-articulated points you made with this post. Respectful toward your fellow-human beings, etc. Must be Satan’s influence! ; )

  • Jacob Hugart

    Just came across another blog post you may find interesting; as I didn’t want to associate it to a particular blog entry of yours, I’ll post it here:

    • Libby Anne

      Yes, I saw that! I thought it was a pretty decent article. :)

  • Guest

    Thank you for this. I really appreciated how you laid out your evolution from pro-life to pro-choice in such great detail and with so much evidence. And realizing you were duped. That’s never easy to admit.
    I can see myself using this article in full or part to counter arguments down the road.
    I think my favorite part was where you realized that the “life” you were trying to save was wholly relying on the woman’s life who was carrying it, and that that life mattered as well as/as much as/more so than the aforementioned “life” (zygote/fetus).

  • Brittany Bowman

    Hi! My name is Brittany and I am writing a research paper for my college English class on reproductive rights. Your blog (which is brilliant, by the way) has so much information, but there were a few questions I still would like to ask you. I don’t know if you would be interested, but is there anyway I could conduct a short interview with you? It would be so beneficial for my paper as you are incredibly knowledgeable about these topics!

    • Libby Anne

      You can email me questions. My email is under my about tab.

  • Dave Whitesell

    I don’t know if what I just typed just a few minutes ago went through or not so I will repeat it. In a nutshell. Your post was a little wordy but I read enough to know that I agree with you and am happy that you saw the light. Contraception is the answer. On the topic of abortion, I wrote a paper for an ethics class outlining my position on the issue. It has been my experience that almost all women feel that men have absolutely no say on the subject but I beg to differ. When I find it I will send it to you. Thank you and hope to see more interesting work from you.

  • Camcat

    I read the entire post on your involvement in the pro-choice movement and, later, about your evolving your own ideas of right and wrong as a young adult. I am impressed that you wrestled with some very emotional issues and developed your own philosophy in spite of the heavy indoctrination of your youth. I had almost the opposite upbringing from yours–my parents were civil rights activists in Georgia as young adults in the 50s and 60s and my father, an OB/GYN, was much involved with Planned Parenthood. I started taking birth control pills before my 17th birthday. I never felt that I was “pro-abortion”, though, and still get frustrated with the objection to education and contraception by ‘pro-lifers’ that you refer to. It is only in the last decade that my own philosophy has gelled into the bumper-sticker slogan, “WORKING TOGETHER TO MAKE ABORTION OBSOLETE!”. I find it really wonderful and amazing that you and I, coming from opposite ends of the spectrum, and being decades apart in age (I am 60) have come to almost the exact same conclusion. People (I include MEN in this category) are not going to stop having sex because some other people think they should, and unprotected sex results in pregnancy, most often unwanted–and for very good, logical reasons. Your article is straightforward, well thought out and clearly written. I especially appreciate the connection to ‘Obama-care’ and a reduced abortion rate, which I had not thought about before. Keep up the good work. It is the young, converted feminists like yourself that will keep the movement alive as we old timers slow down and get a bit fuzzy minded. I thank you from the bottom of my heart, Cammie Watson

  • lili

    So with abortion it will be ok to abort 6-7-8 month old fetuses?

  • Thomas Andersson

    Love this article and will spread it, it all makes perfect sense. My only objection is one number and that’s the average abortions in Western Europe. In Sweden with a long and safe abortion history (it’s not an issue and the programs suggested are in place) that number is 21/1000 (but dropping).

  • Anonymous

    I would love to see your input regarding what is going on in Texas regarding abortion.

  • Maxie

    Just happened onto your Blog and appreciated your sharing your journey on this subject, This is the very first time I have ever commented on a Blog. I am hesitant to involve myself, because of the meaness that can be thrown and one….just giving a viewpoint. Thanks.

  • athingwithfeathers

    Thank you so much for having the courage to speak up and acknowledge the truth about the antiwoman lies. These people fear modernity, fear women’s sexuality and agency.
    I grew up with an emotionally damaged mother who was incapable of showing her daughters love because of her own internalized misogyny, she was Catholic.
    I was raped the first time when I was eight. My sexual abuse continued until I was 12. After that I was able to fend off my male family members. My mother blamed me for the abuse (obviously, if I weren’t a girl it wouldn’t have happened). Although she never touched me, I think of her behavior as a part of my sexual abuse.
    When my sister got pregnant at 15, my mother insisted she have the baby because’”It would teach her a lesson.’”
    The dismissal of the sexual violence in women’s lives by these anti-abortion groups is criminal and evil. There’s a great quote by John Barth, ‘The Sotweed Factor’, ‘”Men invent morals on the one hand and rape on the other,”‘that often springs to mind when listening to the woman haters.
    I wish we could transfigure these guys into a woman for awhile and let them see how the other half lives.

    • AnneBB

      Feathers: This is powerful and true. the scapegoating of women and girls for the sexual behavior of everyone is overwhelming and terribly harmful.

  • Herb

    Interesting, lovely piece that I will pass on to others. It leaves me with one question: “Why do you refer to the anti-abortion movement as ‘pro-life’?” It’s a clever marketing ploy on their part as it makes the rest of us pro-death.
    If either political party rebranded itself as the “True American” party, I don’t believe newspapers would then refer to its members as “True Americans”. Yet everyone on both sides uses the label “pro-life”. Let’s be clear in our language. Cal them “ant-choice” or “anti-abortion” but please, not “pro-life”.
    Again, thank you for a well-written, informative piece.

    • Donmallow

      I think she used the term pro-life in her article because that’s the term the movement/people involved use. They use the term pro-life because they (supposedly) believe in saving the lives of unborn fertilized eggs which they consider to be living beings (Not to say that they are lying about that being their goal. I’d give them the benefit of the doubt like the author said and believe that they’re simply misinformed about the numbers and research.) I understand where you’re coming from because I’m sure that some of them are in it for reasons other than being anti-murder-of-unborn-babies, but I think she’s choosing to believe the majority really believe in opposition to abortion for the purpose of saving unborn life. I think she uses the term because the movement generally uses that term because of their reasoning for their methods. It’s a matter of respect for the (hopefully) good intentions of the majority of the party. Much in the same way that it is respectful to call a transgendered person by their preferred gender rather than by the sex that they were born with. I hope and believe that this is what she was going for and why she used the term. (Also, it could partly be because she was raised using that term for the particular set of beliefs she was raised to believe in.)

  • Graciela

    I’m a pro-life person who’s estranged from the pro-life movement for a number of the reasons you cite in your article. I have only one objection to what you wrote, namely your claim that pro-lifers are hypocrites for not fundraising to reduce the number of zygotes that die naturally. “Pro-life” doesn’t have to mean fighting all events of death in all its forms. Sometimes death is inevitable, sometimes it’s time to let go. This is true both before and after birth. On the other hand, I oppose tearing a dying child or adult to shreds, and I oppose doing this to the unborn as well. The goal is not to save every pre-born individual from any type of death. The goal is to show respect for the living both before and after birth, but not killing them.

    • Graciela

      Sorry, typo in my last line above: “but not killing them” should be “by not killing them.”

    • Beutelratti

      How about having respect for living, breathing women? How about giving them the right to full bodily autonomy? You know who has the right to bodily autonomy? Corpses. If you prohibit abortion you are taking away a right from women that even corpses have and you are also giving zygotes/embryos/fetuses rights that no, and absolutely no human being has. Namely the right to use someone else’s body against their will. That is the opposite of life-affirming.
      So really, it is your choice to not have an abortion and every pro-choicer will support your choice, because it is just that. Your choice. But don’t you think for a second that anyone here considers you being pro-life if you do not even grant women rights that corpses can call their own.

  • Ruth Ellen Larson-Hummel

    I have always said what you have put so well into a researched article. I’m an RN with over 45 years of immediate experience on all sides of this issue. When I see the pro-life group in front of our local PP, I have gone right up and asked for a donation to provide birth control education and/or donations to care for the unwanted children in our foster care system. Never, ever, has any pro-life person given support (at least in front of their peers) that helps the results of unplanned pregnancies. Through education for women and men before an unwanted pregnancy happens, this very private decision for a woman (and maybe the man) can be brought out into the open, avoiding political points to persons who will never be involved with the real life of the participants. Keep the politicians out. Bring education in.