My Thoughts on Raising Children

I have two young children, one in preschool and one only just walking. I write quite a bit about parenting here on my blog, and have divided the main subject range of my parenting posts into three topical sections.

Positive Parenting

Positive parenting focuses on raising children to be capable, independent, compassionate adults rather than on instilling obedience and compliance. Positive parenting sees children as individuals with needs of their own and focuses on cooperation and mutual respect between the parent and child. Positive parenting rejects corporal punishment and tends to minimize punishment in general, seeking instead to encourage good behavior and foster the child’s self-determination and understanding of natural consequences.

For more, see my positive parenting page.

“To Train Up A Child”

Michael and Debi Pearl’s discipline manual, To Train Up A Child, is popular in Christian homeschool circles. The Pearls advocate spanking children with a piece of PVC piping and emphasize that parents must break their children’s wills and render their children utterly submissive. Even a bad attitude is considered disobedience in need of punishment in Pearl circles. For many families, the Pearls’ teachings become more than just a discipline method, but rather an entire lifestyle. I was raised on the Pearls, but I have come to see their methods as destructive and abusive.

For more, see my page on Michael and Debi Pearl’s child training methods. 

Parenting without God

After growing up in a Christian home and becoming an atheist as a young adult, figuring out how to raise my children without God has been a bit of a challenge. My children are still young, so this is something I’m still learning. As my children grow, I plan to share my adventures in parenting without God here on my blog. Perhaps you may find this part of my parenting journey of interest.

For more, see my page on raising children as a nonbeliever.

  • karen

    Hi I stumbled on your blog yesterday while researching homeschooling. I became quite intigriuedby your story. I am a christian homeschool mom and respected your insights. It brakes my heart how legalism and your upbringing push The Lord out of your life. That is man not God. Since you seem like a very educated girl, may I suggest you let your children decide if God is who He says HE is. I pray that you will love in with Jesus and not who you think He is. Blessings to you, Karen