About Dr. Marc Gafni

Unique Self and Soul – Unique Self, Part 7

What’s the difference between Unique Self and soul? Soul means different things in the different traditions. In some of the texts and traditions, it means the spiritual quality of your separate self. As long as it means this, it is limited in time, place, and duration—so it is subject ultimately to death. It lacks the quality of the infinite. It is special, beautiful, holy, and sacred—it’s your soul—but ultimately it is an expression of separateness and subject to the contraction of … [Read more...]

Unique Self and Evolutionary We-space – Unique Self, Part 6

Unique Self is the core technology in creating an evolutionary We-space, a space beyond any individual. There are always two views of community. From the Western tradition, basically we are all separate selves. We can’t really come together, but we can give up some of our rights to be protected by the central government. No authentic communication is possible. Or—emerging out of a more continental philosophical tradition—is that the primary unit of reality is the community. Neither … [Read more...]

Why Unique Self Changes Everything – Unique Self, Part 5

Unique Self actually changes everything in almost every field, discipline, endeavor, and arena of human experience. For example: 1. If you want to identify your vocation, if you identify it from a Unique Self place, it’s entirely different than simply asking, “What am I good at?” You begin to approach the vocation issue in a different way. You’re not hunting for a job. You’re finding your way of bringing your Unique Gifts into the world. 2. Relationships. Who do I want to be … [Read more...]

Why Unique Self Matters – Unique Self, Part 4

Why does Unique Self matter so much? At the most basic level, Unique Self matters because without it, life for the individual becomes virtually irrelevant. A few years ago, I was giving a TEDx talk in Las Vegas and met a man who has since become a close friend, Eben Pagan. I met him and his delightful partner, and it was a Unique Self encounter. There was a flash of recognition. At some point, Wyatt Woodsmall—one of the great inventors of NLP—and Dave Logan, who is a wonderful … [Read more...]

Reclaiming Obligation – Unique Self, Part 3

Relating back to our last post, "What does it mean to answer the call?" To answer the call is to live a values-driven life, a purpose-driven life. It’s to incarnate the values of your life in the unique and gorgeous way that you are able to, that only you are able to do. To do so is to fulfill your Unique Obligation. When we hear the word “obligation” in our post-postmodern context, we cringe. It makes us contract. We feel like we spent so many years in therapy getting beyond the … [Read more...]

Answering the Call – Unique Self, Part 2

What does it mean to answer the call? To answer the call is to respond to the call that lives in you, as you, and through you, of your Unique Self. The unique individualized expression of essence that is you calls you, invites you to find your vocation—the claiming of your unique voice in the world. To find a voice that is yours, not imitative, you have to inhabit your Unique Perspective. Your Unique Perspective is your particularized way of looking at the world, the angle at which you … [Read more...]

Core Teaching of Unique Self – Unique Self, Part 1

Now we're going to explore the core teachings of Unique Self Enlightenment in a 12-part series made in 2012. Each video (see bottom of the page) has a partial transcript which I'm including with each post. Let’s talk about the core teaching of Unique Self. Unique Self is the understanding that you are at the level of essence – not merely at the level of social, psychological, and cultural conditioning – you are ultimately unique, you are an infinitely unique expression of All-That-Is, … [Read more...]

How to Accomplish Democratization of Enlightenment? Part 2

Continued from Part 1... The second part of the “how” is then to do the practices, to actually make some form of wisdom practice or spiritual practice or consciousness practice an essential part of my life. It could be a form of meditation, a form of sacred dance, a form of introspection or contemplation, the study of sacred text, the engagement in significant nature mysticism, or prayer to engage the personal face of essence (what we might call the second face of God, the personal face … [Read more...]

How to Accomplish Democratization of Enlightenment? Part 1

How do we accomplish the democratization of enlightenment? The answer to the “how” question is twofold. One is intention, the other is practice. Intention means I intend towards my enlightenment. My intention is not merely to obey the rules. My intention is not merely to satisfy my egoic need to be part of the whole. My intention is not merely to be in alignment with the law. My intention is to realize the true nature of my identity and to have my goodness, my virtue, my love, my … [Read more...]

What Do We Mean? Part 2

...Continued from Part 1 Enlightenment in its original core is a premodern idea that exists in all the great traditions. Uniqueness is a modern and postmodern idea – a modern idea in terms of the affirmation of the infinite dignity of the individual; a postmodern idea in terms of a realization that every human being has a unique perspective. More than that – democracy is a realization of enlightenment, of Western enlightenment. It’s the realization of a higher structure of consciousness … [Read more...]


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