Ramadhan Book Club: Our Stories, Our Lives

Our Stories, Our Lives is an anthology of a diverse group of women in Bradford, England, offering a glimpse into their lives and their issues with reconciling their Muslim identities with being British. With the media’s daily onslaught on the image of Muslims and assumptions about so-called conflicting alliances (Islam and the West), a “proud British Muslim” would sound like an oxymoron to many. But it isn’t, and talking to many Muslims in Britain will tell you just that.

Image via Amazon.com.

Image via Amazon.com.

The book–edited by Wahida Shaffi–is based on an oral history project called OurLives (also coordinated by Shaffi) and presents stories of 20 women between the ages 14 to 80, and their thoughts on being female and Muslim in Britain. Perhaps what makes it more interesting is that all stories are told against a geographical backdrop that has been historically colored by immigration and racial tensions. As the epicenter of the Rushdie affair in the 1980s, Bradford became a shorthand for the fragile relationship the country has with its Muslim population that will last for decades.

Though as inspiring as most positive portrayals of Muslim women in the media, this is not the Muslim Women Power List that has been making its publicity rounds the last few months. Rather, these are women a lot like your mother, grandmother, daughter, and friends. Their stories are so deeply personal that you sometimes think you’re reading a private journal dripping with confessions and secrets. Far removed from the overarching debates about the hijab and burqa that seek to define Muslim womanhood are real women who struggle with their faith while balancing their careers and private life.

The most touching story in the book is Syima Merali’s dilemma of choosing between having to serve alcohol in her restaurant or suffer financially. Wearing the hijab and selling alcohol became a testing time for Merali, made more difficult by castigation that her earnings are haram. The compromise she makes  echoes the many difficult compromises practicing Muslims make in a secular, predominantly non-Muslim country.

Another piece I found inspiring is Elana Davis’ “Music ‘n’ Motherhood”, in which she talks candidly about raising three sons the Islamic way single-handedly and teaching street dancing in college. As a young convert who wears her Islamic identity proudly, Davis’ represents a face of Islam in Britain that now exists on the margins of history: Black Muslims have been in Britain since the 16th century and black conversion to Islam has been a growing phenomenon in the last two decades. Also a hijabi, does Davis find her street dancing and love for hip hop in contradiction with her religious identity? No, she says.

“Someone told me actually that I shouldn’t wear my scarf because I teach dance. I think if you listen to what everybody’s got to say, you will get confused, as at the end of the day, I became a Muslim for myself. I’ll learn myself, and if I do something wrong, that is something that I’m going to have to deal with, with God – nobody else”

There are several stories of unflinching patriotism from women who came to Britain to find a land of opportunity and freedom to dress and express their religious and cultural identities however they please. Some found their British identity a refuge from the personal limitations placed by tradition and ancestral culture. While most British Muslims are expected to be two-dimensional characters defined by ethnicity and religion, women like Sensei Mumtaz Khan, whose job as a ju-jujitsu teacher appears to trump her Islamic and Afghan identities. For Khan, ju-jitsu forms a core component of her life as she remains, contentiously, a cultural Muslim.

Our Stories, Our Lives allows the voices of Muslim women to be heard rather than be silenced and spoken for (often through the mouthpiece of the media and community leaders, who are always men). But the ever-expanding body of research and books on British Muslims shows that much more is needed to feed the political and public interest in an extremely visible but misunderstood religious minority. It also indicates that there is little informal communication bridging different ethnic and religious groups here, and no end to the mystification of Muslim women in sight.

Muslimah Media Watch would like to thank The Policy Press for generously giving us Our Stories, Our Lives for review.

The Fight of the Century: Chesler vs. Wolf

This was originally published at my personal site.

Phyllis Chesler and Naomi Wolf have gotten themselves into a battle royale over…the veil.

And everyone seems to be concerned what two privileged non-Muslim white ladies think about this subject. Funny, considering Chesler picks fights all the time, and no one seemed to be interested in an actual debate she had with Dorchen Leidholdt a few months ago about Islam and women that was actually informed and somewhat rational (on Dorchen’s end, anyway).

What’s most interesting about this “debate” is that neither women have qualifications that make their opinions hold weight. Phyllis “Feminist Hawk” Chelser is a notorious Islamophobe, and Naomi’s experience with the veil came from putting on Pakistani clothing (“shalwar kameez”) in Morocco. Uh-huh.

Furthermore, neither of them seem particularly interested in what actual Muslim women who wear any type of hijab think. Natalia Antonova put it best:

The publicity must be pretty good for both Wolf and Chesler right about now … but if I was a Muslim woman watching all of this, I’d probably feel as though I was in a room full of people who were telling me to be quiet when the adults are talking.

I’d say that’s about right.

Friday Links — September 11, 2009

  • Nesrine Malik weighs in on the Saudi guardianship campaign.
  • A Muslim woman loses her life over tensions in Gujarat, India. May Allah give her peace.
  • The Austin American-Statesman interviews Shaila Abdullah about her book Saffron Dreams.
  • The Dawn profiles a woman whose husband has been in Guantanamo Bay for the last seven years.

The French (Dis)Connection: on the role of Media and Politics in the Burqa Ban

Aged patronizing feminists, young veiled victims (of Islamist threat), and endangered laïcité éternelle (everlasting secularism): those were the main ingredients of a huge media bubble blown into people’s minds in France this summer.

It all started with the sketch of a proposition bill: André Gérin, a left-wing deputy and mayor asked in June the French Parliament to create an Enquiry Commission into the wearing of burqa. His text, co-signed by 58 other deputies, aimed to define legally the length of fabric compatible with the French Republic constitution. Gérin, instead of either tackling the collapse of his own party, or caring for the 700,000 unemployed in expectation for this year (Insee, June 2009), is pitting his political strength against a much more decisive issue: how to prevent the 367 women wearing a burqa–among 3.7 millions of Muslims based in France–to “invade” the public space.

This project of mere exclusion is presented though as a “Republican fight” in favor of the “enlightened Islam” (Le Point, 19 June 2009). Gérin depicted himself as a secularist savior, knowing Islam better than the Muslims themselves as he brings them (“them” being French nationals, too) the lights of civilization.

Even though he is supposed to be a communist, Gérin apparently never heard about the “Dialectic of Enlightenment”, conceptualized by the German philosopher Theodor Adorno. According to Adorno, the Enlightenment, which started as a rational project of liberation, ended up in a myth: “The Enlightenment has always aimed at liberating men from fear and establishing their sovereignty. Yet the fully enlightened earth radiates disaster triumphant.”

The triumph of Enlightenment disaster in the French Republic is getting worse as it is reinforced by a deeply rooted Orientalist bias towards Islam and inheritance of its colonial past.

A few days later, during a congress, President Nicolas Sarkozy confirmed the communist deputy’s concern. He said the burqa represented a view that was “different from the Republic’s view on women’s dignity” (LCP, 22 June 2009). It might be useful at that point to remember that the “Republic’s view on women’s dignity” is the sequel of what gave French women the right to vote in 1945, after all the other countries of Europe and Turkey (whose inclusion in the European Union is rejected by most of the French politicians in the name of a Turkish democratic deficit).

More importantly, this “burqa alert” media bubble is offering again an opportunity for the whole political spectrum to find an agreement: this time over what could and should be shown of the Muslim women’s body. This unanimity has been echoed and reinforced by self-proclaimed experts, either of Islam or feminism, displaying publicly their recurrent prejudices against the minority of Muslim women in France who wear a burqa.

Among them, Elisabeth Badinter was the most vehement and visible on television (France 2 – Mots-Croisés, 29 June 2009). Badinter is an accomplished business woman in the media industry, but she prefers portraying herself as a philosopher and feminist, keeping her lucrative and not less influent activities far away from the public sphere.

She wrote a short but very aggressive article in Le Nouvel Observateur (9 July 2009) entitled: “To those who voluntarily wear a burqa”. The enlightened philosopher speaks to the savages with veils:

“Why don’t you move to Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan where nobody would ask to see your face, where your daughters would be veiled too and where your husband would be polygamous and repudiate you whenever he wants?”

That’s Elisabeth Badinter’s vision of Saudi Arabia and Afghanistan, as a kind of monstruous and homogenous land in which she can allow her Islamophobic fantasies to soar.

In this patronizing and haughty letter, Badinter unwillingly makes a decisive point: the way she is addressing those women, not as the poor victims of some sexist men with beards, but as autonomous subjects, implicitly acknowledges the fact that they are actually making a choice of their own. And this is, in the last instance, the truth of the word “feminism”, whether feminists like it or not.

The media bubble has not burst yet. It looks more like an almost-extinguished chimney fire now: as far as the political debate in the Assembly has not started, mainstream journalists would keep up the combustion, caring for this little flame and feed it if necessary, in case they probably don’t find something more exotic to report about.

But some are explicitly pushing the anti-burqa agenda. Those strong supporters of une laïcité à la française are oblivious of the historical background of such a concept (cf. Elizabeth Shakman Hurd, the Politics of Secularism in International Relations, Princeton University Press, 2007) and the witch-hunt they unjustly instigate is at the end far away from the rationality they allegedly defend.

Someone to Watch Over Me: On the Saudi Guardianship Campaign

When a woman says, “My guardian knows what’s best for me,” what should we do?

Earlier this month, blogger Eman Al Nafjan posted her feelings about a new campaign in Saudi Arabia. The campaign, which began last month, is called “My guardian knows what’s best for me” and aims to gather one million signatures in support of the kingdom’s status quo in regard to women’s guardianship laws. According to Al Nafjan, two Saudi princesses who support this campaign have started their own websites devoted to the issue.You can find both websites here and here (both are in Arabic).

A quick look to both sites shows that they are similar to each other. For example, in one of the sites, a link called “Our Strategic Goal” reveals that the campaign’s aim is “To promote for the culture of stewardship from an Islamic perspective.” The aim mentioned on the other site is to “Clarify the concept of the legitimate right of the mandate ‘of public and private’ to all members of society ‘men and women.’” [sic]

Al Nafjan quoted and translated from Dr. Elham Manea’s piece that replied to such act:

Some Saudi women have decided to express themselves.

They wanted to take a stand against human rights activists calling for Saudi Arabia to give women some (not all) of the rights that are enjoyed by their Arab counterparts in neighboring countries. So they came out with a new campaign titled “My Guardian Knows What’s Best for Me”.

Do we blame them? All they wanted was to fix a problem they know nothing of, and thus made it worse.  It would be strange to expect anything else from them. You cannot miss what you’ve never had.

Most of them belong to the Saudi aristocrats. Their leader is a princess. Their hands are velvet. They live in palaces and villas. How could we blame them for not knowing the reality of average Saudi women?

While Dr. Manea explained that a princess’ life (on which she based this whole campaign) is different from a normal Saudi woman’s life, I don’t see someone’s life as a reason, explanation, or even an excuse for her to judge or decide how other people should live.

If a woman wants someone to be her guardian and wants him to take care of her, her life and her choices, that’s fine by me, as long it’s her own choice and as long as she’s not asking me or any other woman to do the same!

They believe in something and they are expressing it. Believing in freedom of opinion, I wouldn’t have had reservations against the campaign if it weren’t for how they refused and rejected those who disagree with them.

On the first site, under the title goal, you can read:

“We reject all the cultural patterns which are inconsistent with our own culture.” [sic]

And on the other site:

“We reject all the ignorant or malicious demands, launched by the advocates of liberation and the westernization of the tenets of Islam and Arab identity, such as calling for the abolition of the role of guardians and patrons from our lives as Muslims, fueling feelings of getting out on religion and community values, sometimes in the pretext of doctrinal innovation, and for social and economic development at other times, while trying to instill unacceptable and flawed misconceptions and calling it anti-discrimination against women, such as: mixing, adornments, absolute equality, and many other demands that cannot be accepted by the mind of any Muslim prudent to this religion and those who follow it.” [sic]

She even goes as far as demanding punishment for those who think differently:

“We hope that the punishment of all who dare to provoke discord between the people, or promoting the quality of ignorance and corruption: “procedural or intellectual.” [sic]

Why do we only perceive our life style as the only right way of living? Who on this earth has the right to force his way, his choices and his morals on other people as rules?

Women empowerment will not be achieved neither by Saudi princesses quoting some verses from Qur’an on their online campaigns, nor by human rights activists who sometimes also slip into the same mistake of prejudice when they meet any woman whose life style is different from theirs.

Empowerment is the freedom to choose. Bring up your daughter to believe in herself and her potentials, educate her, and then let her lead her own life and make her own choices. If you bring up your daughter as a fragile creature that’s liable to fracture and who is unable to protect herself, she’ll grow up into a woman who’s just that: a fragile creature unable to protect herself.

Give her the liberty to choose her life, and stop judging her if that choice doesn’t resemble yours.

For other viewpoints on the guardianship campaign, read the opinions of Sabria Jawhar and Nesrine Malik.

Erasing the Dichotomy: Positive Portrayals of Latina Muslims

Melinda wrote a while ago about negative media representation of Latina Muslim women.  She described a lot of the common one-dimensional assumptions attributed to Latina women who become Muslim, such as the idea that:

in Latino culture, men are macho jerks and women are sex objects. In Islam, they are covered up and immediately respected. The author retells the woman’s decision to leave Catholicism for Islam, her experience putting on hijab, and the sad reactions of her family. If the journalist tries to dig a little deeper, there may be some theological reasons for choosing Islam, but they’re usually an afterthought. Some articles will note that Latina women like the strict gender roles of Islam because that’s what they’re used to.

Latina women and Latino culture in are often reduced to only the most simplistic stereotypes, and Islam being reduced to a similarly simplistic solution to Latina women’s problems.

Photo via Brooklyn Rail by Lyndsey Matthew.

Photo via Brooklyn Rail by Lyndsey Matthew.

A recent article in the Brooklyn Rail about Latina/Latino Muslims presents a much more nuanced picture of the members of one Union City, New Jersey mosque with a growing Muslim population.  Although focused on the Latino Muslim community at large and not specifically on the women, the article does give us glimpses of the lives of a few Latina Muslim women, and some of their experiences with juggling those identities in the United States.

The first mention of Muslim women does involve the word “hijab,” which is no big surprise, and the first detailed description of a Muslim woman also focuses heavily on clothing:

Before Fatimah Vargas discovered Islam in the years before 9/11 she said she “did not know the difference between a Muslim and a Hindu.” Born into a Dominican family in New Jersey with the name Marleny, Vargas was a single mother by the time she turned 18. A group of former Pakistani co-workers provided her first exposure to Islam. “Their character amazed me,” she recalls, because they did not look at the scantily clad women going to the beach during the hot New York summers. Eventually she checked out a copy of the Qur’an at the public library and read it in secret in the middle of the night. When she read the first few lines she said she knew immediately, “This is it.”

When she told her brother, “He was very upset,” she said. Her mother noticed a change in her daughter when Vargas started dressing more conservatively but did not initially understand why. “I used to dress very inappropriate—to say the least,” Vargas said. These days she conceals her hair behind a hijab and the only skin she shows is her delicate hands and face. Eventually she told her parents about her conversion. “That was horrible,” she remembers. Her parents had preconceived misconceptions about Islam and her mother warned that if she converted she would become a terrorist and marry Osama bin Laden. “I couldn’t hurt a roach, how could I kill a human?” Vargas protested. When she married her husband, a Puerto Rican Muslim, she did not get her parents’ approval. [...]

When September 11 occurred, Vargas knew that it wouldn’t help others accept her new religion. She struggled to convince others that being Muslim was something very different than being a terrorist. These days, her parents have accepted her choice to be Muslim, which she thinks is the best thing that could have ever happened. They are actively involved in her life now, as she and her husband rear their three children, ages 9, 8, and 4, as Muslims.

Later profiles of women, however, go into more detail about other elements of their lives.  Faiza Ocasio is a Latina woman who became Muslim and whose children and grandchildren have been raised with strong ties to their Puerto Rican cultural heritage and to their Islamic faith.  The article goes into more detail about Ocasio’s daughter, Sultana, who was raised Muslim:

Many of Sultana’s childhood classmates and friends called their dads “abby,” a slang term for father in Arabic. One time she tried calling her father this. “You call me papi,” he shot back, reminding Sultana that his family did not need to change who they were as Puerto Ricans because they were Muslim too.

Though Sultana felt different from her black counterparts in grammar school, she encountered a whole new sense of not belonging when she joined the Muslim Student Association at Baruch College, from which she graduated with a degree in political science and sociology in 2008. There she went through a culture shock interacting directly with Arab and Pakistani classmates who were often more reserved than her “more colorful” Latino friends. Many of her peers assumed she was Egyptian “until I opened my mouth,” she said. She had to adjust once more to being a minority within a minority. [...]

Many West Africans “transform” themselves, Sultana said, to symbolize their adherence to the faith, dressing in traditional Arabic dress. They’re adopting cultural traits, not religious ones though, Sultana pointed out. It is important to her family to separate religion from culture. They do not need to be one and the same. “Being Puerto Rican is important to me, but not as important as being Muslim,” Sultana said.

Today Sultana works in the Bronx for the Muslim Women’s Institute for Research and Development, coordinating ESL classes. The Institute also runs a halal food pantry open to the entire community, in addition to many other services. Working in social services runs in the family. Her mother used to be a social worker in the Islamic Family Services before she became a teacher.

Sultana also has experienced bewilderment from non-Muslim Latinos about her religion. When some Puerto Rican immigrants find out that Sultana is both Puerto Rican and Muslim, they ask her, “Why in the world are you Muslim?” she said. They find her choice radical, but she tells them, “I like this—this is something I feel is right.”

I liked this description of some of the many ways that Sultana does and doesn’t identify with both her religious and cultural communities.  Unlike the kinds of stories mentioned in Melinda’s piece that I linked to at the beginning of this post, Sultana Ocasio’s experiences suggest that, rather than swooping in and saving Latina women from the oppressive elements of their culture, Islam can exist alongside a vibrant Latino culture, and that even when negotiating the two identities can be complicated at times, neither one replaces or cancels out the other.

http://muslimahmediawatch.org/2008/04/no-mas-por-favor-stereotypes-of-latina-muslims-2/