Give up something forbidden for Allah’s sake

Okay, my dear Muslim brothers and sisters, I'm going to write about a topic that many of you will feel conflicted about.  It's TV.  Ah, the television, that miracle window into a wider world.  Most homes in the US have more than one TV, and oftentimes we have it on from daybreak until bedtime. Muslims watch TV.  Okay, no problem.  There's news (though usually biased against Muslims, it can be useful sometimes).  There's sports, there's food television, there are nature programs.  There are actua … [Read more...]

I Feel Like I’ve Written Something Like This Before….

Sisters! Do not turn off your brain when you become Muslim. Okay, it is time for some tough love here. First of all, let me tell you about me, just a bit. I have been Muslim for twenty-one years, by Allah's Mercy and Grace. So believe you me when I tell you I have been there, done that, seen that, shaken my head at that, clucked my tongue at that, and walked away in disgust at that. Okay? I consider myself a normal woman. I have hopes, dreams, abilities, skills, strong points, and weak points. … [Read more...]

How can a white chick from the suburbs honor the memory of Trayvon and Michael?

This is a hard post for me to write.  I"m a white American.  My heritage here in the US goes back all the way to Revolutionary times, with ancestors arriving mostly from the British Isles.  I'm white, pale, pasty, European, don't-stand-in-front-of-the-fridge-when-taking-a-picture-white.  I live in the suburbs of a typical American town with my husband, five kids, six chickens, and a cat who is currently sleeping off a food coma on the sofa.  I live a modest life, but compared to many of my fell … [Read more...]

Praise God and Pass the Ammunition

Dear Gaza, I'm sorry.  I apologize on behalf of the United States of America.  First of all, that moniker is not accurate.  In a nation of over 300 million people, you can be assured that we rarely agree on anything.  We are certainly not united on the issue of Israel's holocaust in Gaza.  Yes, holocaust.  I am co-opting that word and using it for something other than the Nazi holocaust against the Jews of Europe.  Because what's happening in Gaza is a holocaust, an ethnic cleansing, a genocid … [Read more...]

No, I am not changing my Facebook profile picture to show solidarity with Gaza

This Ramadan has been subdued for me, to say the least. The offensive in Gaza, with all the requisite pictures of dead babies and videos of explosions scrolling across my feed, has invaded my mind to such an extent that it affects how I go about my day. In the broad sense, there is nothing wrong with that, because if we Muslims are not horrified and saddened by the plight of our brothers and sisters, then we really are missing the point of Ramadan. But it is really more than my brain can handle. … [Read more...]

Why does the menstruating woman not pray or fast? A personal and practical possible answer

As Salaamu Alaikum. I have had some Muslim friends asking questions about certain rules and regulations in Islam. Specifically, it was asked "Why don't we women pray or fast during our menses?".Now, the short answer to that is "God said so". It is agreed upon by all the scholars that the teachings in the Qur'an and in the Sunnah (the way of Prophet Muhammad, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) indicate that women are not to pray or to fast when they are on their menstrual cycle. We … [Read more...]

A Muslim on Memorial Day

 As with many other non-Muslim holidays, many Muslims look upon Memorial Day with mixed feelings. Of course, it's not just us; a lot of Americans have mixed feelings, wanting to honor those who have died in service to the country, but conflicted because so many of those deaths were unnecessary because the wars or conflicts were misguided and mis-fought. When American soldiers, sailors, or Marines have gone to countries where Muslims are the majority and have shot them, bombed them, … [Read more...]

The Four Major Modes of Mixed Marriages

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Okay.  Not being one to shy from controversy, I'm back to write about marriage again!  Yay!I got a LOT of response on my Facebook wall over the status update regarding marrying men who come from a very different culture.  I would say it was about 80% "You go girl!" and 20% "You are backbiting!".  It is a very emotional topic and one of the most important topics in our Ummah here in the West.  We have the luxury of not being under threat of war or starvation, so we can worry about things like … [Read more...]

If you are a Westerner about to marry a “traditional” Muslim – from a Facebook post

So, this happened on my wall the other day.  I have mostly been posting on Facebook instead of using my blog because I have been suffering worse than usual from brain fog and stress, and it's easier for me to slap a few sentences together rather than having to come up with actual coherent paragraphs, but some days I just have a topic in me and it pops out.  Here it is, as it was when I posted it as a status update.  InshaAllah I'll write an follow-up here on my blog in a bit:Oh, before I … [Read more...]

The Duck War on Dynasty Christmas With a Side of Dead Famous People

Howdy!  Yeah, it's been a while since I've posted.  Quite a while.  Shame on me.  Shame on my brain, more like.  In times of stress it shuts down all non-essential services and leaves me with the ability to make pancakes, tie shoes, write in short paragraphs, and ignore the fact that I forgot to put money in the kids' school lunch accounts.  Damn brain. I'm still emerging from the brain fog, but man, there has been SO much going on.  People dying, famous and infamous people making shocking prono … [Read more...]


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