The Passing of Brother Mokhit Hossein

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah.I didn't know Mokhit Hossein.  I never met him. I  talked to him on the phone a couple of times.  Usually I keep it pretty short.  No, brother, my husband is not home, let me give you his cell phone number....  But Br. Mokhit was a bit talkative so he would always ask about the family and keep me on the line a couple of minutes.  I would hang up the phone with a smile on my face thinking of how he must talk … [Read more...]

Hmm, No time to write, so I’ll make this quick

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI'm feeling guilty for not writing anything the last several days.  I can just about manage a quick status update on FB, but a longer, more thoughtful missive is beyond my ability at the moment.  His Majesty Zaid has been demanding constant attendance.  He's mashAllah very active, busy learning to crawl, and also appears to be headed for a future in any career that involves yelling at the top of your voice - yodeling? … [Read more...]

Do I Love My Country?

Bismillahi Rahmni RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahDo I love my country?  Today is Veterans Day, so I guess it's as good a day as any to contemplate this question.  So, do I love my country?  Well, I'd have to say no, but before you come after me with flaming torches and pitchforks, screaming "Love it or leave it!", let me explain:I'm an American.  I was born in France to a German mother and an American soldier dad who was stationed overseas.  I grew up here in a town … [Read more...]

When a Gallon of Milk Means “I Love You”

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahLast night was movie night in our house.  We were camped on on the bed, hubby on one side, me on the other, baby in between, my oldest son teetering on the far edge while his brothers and sister came and went.  They were more interested in fighting space battles with plastic light sabers than watching a shoot-em-up bang-bang movie on TV.The movie was pure action adventure, with an unlikely hero pitted against a stereotypically evil … [Read more...]

How Do You Do It? Uh, I Don’t….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI got a message from a friend on Facebook.  "MashAllah, how do you do it?  Take care of the kids, the house, everything?"  Well, much as I would love to bask in the plaudits of my loving friends, I have to set the record straight.  To the question of "How do you do it?", my answer is "I don't". See, what you see on Facebook or my blog or elsewhere is a snapshot of my life.  A very, very brief snapshot, and only the … [Read more...]

When is a Miracle Not a Miracle?

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI read a lot, probably way too many news websites.  I read articles about major disasters such as floods, fires, plane crashes,  and other mayhem.  Oftentimes, there is one person who survived, and the media makes the most of it.  The survival is labeled "a miracle" and people are in wonderment that one has been spared.  Then I think about the flip side.  If the survival of one person in a plane crash that kills … [Read more...]

Hmm, Thursday, What to Write on a Thursday….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahGood Thursday everyone!  Happy Yawm al Jumuah-Eve!  :).  I've been pretty busy and also a bit unfocused the last several days.  Allah knows there's plenty in the news to comment on, from a toxic spill in Hungary to bullying to firefighters letting a house burn down.  No slow news days lately, with plenty of chaos and lots of "Beware: graphic content" videos.I have been hearing a lot lately about the state of our … [Read more...]

Better Get This Said Before I Go Off On A Screed….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI looked at what I've written over the last few days and I am thinking to myself, whoa, not exactly looking uplifting and inspiring there.  I guess when you're dealing with a complex topic like the relationship between men and women, you can get very down on everyone.  I mean, look no further than the pages of your local newspaper and you can see evidence of the dysfunction of the family.  And I don't get asked for advice when … [Read more...]

You Aren’t Evil, You’re Weak (part deux)….

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahYesterday I wrote a rather, uh, forceful post about marriage and how sometimes the men are not doing their part to make an Islamic home.  Well, I  don't want to be accused of man-bashing, because that is certainly not my intent.  We women are just as flawed as our brothers, so sometimes we need a good kick in the pants as well.  I'll be happy to oblige (and I'll be kicking  myself as well, don't worry).Okay, first and … [Read more...]

You Aren’t Evil, You’re Weak…

Bismillahi Rahmani RahimSalaam Alaikum wa RahmatullahI am getting soooo tired of reading blogs, status updates, and e-mails from women complaining about their husbands.  It makes me so sad to see families split up when there are children involved.  I could write a long post about how to not marry an idiot (that goes for men and women), but there are so many couples out there who already got married and are on the brink of divorce, or who are separated, so let me say a word about the … [Read more...]