Finding Balance in Islam Includes the Sunnah – Don’t Reject Hadiths

Islam is not a cafeteria religion. That is a given. In Islam, you do not get to pick and choose the rules that you live by. It's a package deal. You can't say “I'm cool with the no pork thing, but I really can't live without a nightly brewski so I'll just skip that part”. You have to be willing as a Muslim to understand the permissible and the forbidden in Islam, and to move towards living a full life that is fully Islamic. It is not easy and it is not instant. Living as a Muslim is a process, w … [Read more...]

Have a Nice Day

Yesterday I went through the drive through of a local fast-food restaurant.  I gave my order at the menu board and then proceeded in an orderly fashion to the first window.  Paid.  Waited for the person in front of me to have his bag handed through to him.  And his drink.  And his extra packets of sauce.  And a few napkins.  And some ketchup.  Finally he was done and I eased up to the second window, taking care not to bonk the big metal safety poles with my side mirror.  When you're 5'2" and driv … [Read more...]

Do not apologize for sticking to your guns and having standards

My Muslim brothers and sisters, do NOT apologize for living according to Islam. I have had people try to make me feel guilty for saying "50 Shades of Grey" is smut, and that I should not judge because I had not read the book or seen the movie. If you are not Muslim and you are my Facebook friend or you follow me so that you see some of what I write, you do need to be aware that as a practicing Muslim I am pretty conservative, especially in regards to things that are considered mainstream here … [Read more...]

Okay, at least the kids are in school today

As Salaamu Alaikum and howdy everyone.Today we are getting a breather between "I can't feel my face" cold spells.  It's supposed to get up to almost forty degrees today.  Wooo!  Yesterday it was like, one degree.  The respite will be brief.  We are going to be under a winter storm warning overnight with the potential for more face-freezing temperatures and snow.  Or should I write that as "s*&w", since that word is like a cuss word now.  I think as soon as I get home from work I'll make a … [Read more...]

I can’t even. So I won’t.


I can't. I just can't anymore. WHAM. Three Muslims murdered in North Carolina. WHAM. Masjid burned in Houston. WHAM. 200 women raped in Darfur. WHAM. 50 Coptic Christians beheaded in Libya. WHAM. Palestine. WHAM. Syria and Iraq. WHAM. WHAM. WHAM. Trying to answer each and every outrage is impossible. Trying to keep up with each and every outrage is impossible. I didn't mention the racist graffiti spray painted on a masjid in Rhode Island or the murders in Denmark. I didn't mention the … [Read more...]

Between the Extremes We Stand and Speak

In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, The MercifulPeace be upon you, and the blessings of Allah and His mercy  3 young people assassinated in Chapel Hill 200 women raped in Darfur 1 young man shot and killed in Ottowa We don't have to go farther than the breaking news apps on our phones to see that humanity is under siege.  It is tempting to just give up, pull the blankets over our heads and refuse to come out.  Who wants to participate in this harsh world?  But if we give up an … [Read more...]

The Kerfluffle in the Kingdom? The Diss in the Desert? The Arabian Issue?

ISLAM SNIPPET OF THE MORNING:Women and scarves.... There was a kerfluffle involving the First Lady of the US during the recent trip she and the President made to Saudi Arabia. Mrs. Obama did not wear a scarf when she was in the Kingdom. Reaction ran the gamut from "meh" to "she disrespected our culture!" (from Muslims having the vapors) to "she took a stand for feminism" (from non-Muslims misunderstanding what feminism is). Here's the lowdown from a real-life scarf-wearing Muslim. First … [Read more...]

The Blessing of the Man who Cleaned

A Fiction Story:There once was a man who worked in a senior care facility.  He was a simple man without much education, stolid and dependable.  The care home was not the worst of its kind; it served as a dumping ground for incontinent grandmothers and irascible old fathers with failing memories.  Relatives came and went, mostly around the holidays, entering patient rooms in a flurry of forced good cheer after having sternly reminded the children not to wrinkle their noses at the smell in the … [Read more...]

Give up something forbidden for Allah’s sake

Okay, my dear Muslim brothers and sisters, I'm going to write about a topic that many of you will feel conflicted about.  It's TV.  Ah, the television, that miracle window into a wider world.  Most homes in the US have more than one TV, and oftentimes we have it on from daybreak until bedtime. Muslims watch TV.  Okay, no problem.  There's news (though usually biased against Muslims, it can be useful sometimes).  There's sports, there's food television, there are nature programs.  There are actua … [Read more...]

I Feel Like I’ve Written Something Like This Before….

Sisters! Do not turn off your brain when you become Muslim. Okay, it is time for some tough love here. First of all, let me tell you about me, just a bit. I have been Muslim for twenty-one years, by Allah's Mercy and Grace. So believe you me when I tell you I have been there, done that, seen that, shaken my head at that, clucked my tongue at that, and walked away in disgust at that. Okay? I consider myself a normal woman. I have hopes, dreams, abilities, skills, strong points, and weak points. … [Read more...]