Ali Family Autism Truths #19 – The Unattainable Truth

D lying in bed_resized

April 19, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #19I've seen my fair share of hijab (headscarf) "fat suit" stories - you know, the ones where a woman decides she'll wear a hijab for a month to see what it feels like to be a Muslim woman. (The 2015 version of the woman who dons a "fat suit" to feel what it's like to be overweight.) The first one or two such articles I read impressed me. I mean it was a nice idea - wear a hijab for a period of time, gain some insight in how it feels to … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #18 – Sometimes the Truth Hurts

My hand on D's head in a rare moment of quiet cuddling.

April 18, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #18We are winding down our Saturday, me sitting on my bed banging this post out, and D chilling and winding down on the chaise lounge in my room, twirling his beads on an especially long piece of plastic. I'll be asking him to relinquish his beads soon, as the final lapse toward sleepy time will be hard to come by if he keeps stimulating himself with the beads.Between two soccer games for A and H, starting early this morning, an … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #17 – Brotherly Love

D lying on top of and hugging his little brother, H.

April 17, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #17His brief seven years on this earth is littered with the best exchanges with his big brother, D.Driving home from school the other day:D bhai, do you know that you have a mustache? He says to his 14-year-old brother.Ya! His brother answers back. I stifle my laughter as I drive the car.Or, a few months earlier:Mamma, will you come downstairs with me? (He wants to play on the X-Box and hates going into the basement … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #16 – Siblings Who Roll with It

D and his sister, A.

April 16, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #16My daughter came home after school today and told me she had changed her mind after talking to her friends. Of course. After talking to her friends.There is some after-school spring festival happening tomorrow, and I asked her twice earlier in the week if she wanted to go, because a yes answer would require some planning from me -- you know, picking the boys up, who would watch them, would I take them all with me, lots of kids, … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #15 – Am I Getting it Right?

D and Mamma close up_resized

April 15, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #15The truth of it is, it's very hard to tell a true story when the one who is the central person in that tale has no say in the matter.Is it fair, then, to share D's story when he cannot share it himself?Am I getting it right?Am I writing things he would want to have written or shared?Am I guarding his privacy the way it should be guarded, while sharing enough to be honest about his -- and our -- autism journey? I think I … [Read more...]

Autism Awareness Truths #14 – (Dis)Respect the Stim

D spinning his beads. It's magical.

April 14, 2015 - Autism Awareness Month, Ali Family Autism Truths #14Perseveration, according to, is a "continuation of something (as repetition of a word) usually to an exceptional degree or beyond a desired point." According to good old Wikipedia, "in psychology and psychiatry, perseveration is the repetition of a particular response, such as a word, phrase, or gesture, despite the absence or cessation of a stimulus, usually caused by brain injury or other organic d … [Read more...]

Ali Family Autism Truths #13 – To Witness A Miracle


April 13, 2015, Autism Awareness Month, Autism Truths #13When D was seven years old, he proved to me that miracles do indeed happen. I saw it with my own eyes in a way that was clearly obvious, like a bright beam of light being shown down on him.After several attempts to toilet train D as a toddler, I was growing a bit desperate with the idea that it would never happen. His school and after-school therapy program didn't want me to try a particular toilet-training method until he had … [Read more...]