cartoon: praise and pricks

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David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • JD

    So true of every human interaction.

  • Jamie Arpin-Ricci

    I just had this very conversation recently. I had to ask a few people to remember that, while I am not perfect and do need correction, it gets a bit discouraging when the only affirmation I hear is, “You’re doing a great job, but…”.

  • Angelica

    And why do we focus so much on the pricks instead of the praise?

  • nakedpastor

    praise is fragile. criticism isn’t.

  • Brianmpei

    And there are sooo many pricks!

  • Barb

    Saw the title “Praise and Pricks” and thought the cartoon would be of something else – same message!:) It is sad that people do take Pricks to heart. It was the end to my ministry, sad to say that I failed to rely on God’s messages, but let the “pricks” take hold.

  • nakedpastor

    haha. thanks barb.

  • Trey

    You can’t ignore the pricks or act like you’re not affected by them…that’s just burying your head in the sand. They’re going to get to you. It’s just when they do, you have to start over again.

  • nakedpastor

    yes trey, we must always move forward. or stand.

  • Lynn

    Praise is definitely necessary, but you can learn a lot from your critics. Their criticism may be totally wrong, may be totally right, or may be partially right.

  • Doug Sloan

    As a rule of thumb, a prick is not trying to inflate your ego or offer constructive criticism. A prick is trying to deflate you.

    The best response to a prick is to not accept what they say. Feign lack of understanding – “I don’t understand what you are trying to say. Please explain it better or in a different way.” Most pricks will be detered by this initial lack of “understanding”. If the prick is persistent, keep asking questions – this also gives you time to gather your wits and analyze the prick’s comments. At some point, to the harshest pricks, you might find it best to respond with “I understand your comment and completely reject it. I find that it has no validity and do not find it persuasive.”

    Most important, smile through all of this – it drives them nuts.

  • Sheryl

    Weapon of Mass Instruction, John Gatto

  • Ellen Haroutunian

    free book – woo!

  • Josh Foreman

    I’ve seen this happen SO many times.