Most people know when they are being played.
That is, they know when they aren’t being taken purely for who they are, loved as they are, appreciated as they are, delighted in as they are.
In a true loving relationship do you have an agenda? Of course not. If one person in the relationship has an agenda for the relationship the purity of the relationship is already spoiled. Even the most seemingly intimate relations will be superficial and strategic plays to further the individual’s agenda, therefore undermining the so-called intimacy.
Generally, churches that function as liturgical gatherings don’t apply here because a service is provided that you take or leave. But churches that claim to be fellowships, families or communities need to be agenda free. This is the only way they can work as fellowships, families or communities.
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