binders full of women cartoon

binder full of women cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward

As soon as Romney used the phrase “binders full of women” in the debate the other night, someone bought the domain name bindersfullofwomen.com. Funny. In the same debate he talked about allowing women to have flexible working hours so they could get home to cook supper.

Language is so important. It isn’t just a tool of communication. If one listens carefully and hears between the lines, you can discern the underlying attitudes. Speech analysis is a fascinating field because it confirms an ancient biblical proverb, “Out of the fullness of the heart the mouth speaks.”

I encourage people to use their ability to discern what’s actually being communicated in their church situations and not gloss things over with glorified expectations or wishful thinking or inordinate submission to authority. How you are viewed and treated is readily evident if you look for it.

Even by looking at your own words you can detect what’s really going on deep inside yourself.

About David Hayward

David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • BW

    Oh, yes, my ears perked up when I heard that comment. Living in Salt Lake City, I know exactly how women are looked upon by the LDS church. So Romney is only speaking what he believes is a “woman’s place”. My female LDS friends are discouraged from working, but they are “allowed” to work if the family needs the financial support.

  • debbiedarline

    I appreciate your gentle encouragement for us to look carefully at how we are viewed and treated in church settings. “Even by looking at your own words you can detect what’s really going on deep inside yourself.” Once something becomes familiar it is amazingly hard to see it clearly anymore.

  • Ang

    I realized when I left the church and found out what it ‘really was’ that I had a whole language of nauseating words I’m having to detox myself of.

  • Danny

    Is it normal to feel like I cannot pray or absorb scripture because of the way people have used it against me? I feel like it’s tainted.

  • http://www.prayerpunk.com PrayerPunk

    That is understandable Danny. I live in a very Southern Baptist part of the country and the way they acted, honestly, made the Bible and Christians utterly repulsive. My advice is to pray. Not in a way anything like the sort of praying that hurt you. Contemplative prayer, meditation, the rosery, spiritual awareness, yoga. Just spend time with God one way or another and He will heal you. It may take years before you can open a Bible again, and who cares? Just don’t give up on your relationship with God. That’s my two cents anyway.

  • Ang

    Yes, yes, yes. Faith is awesome when you take the church out of it….

  • BW

    Good points and advice PrayerPunk.

  • http://theoldadam.com/ Steve Martin

    I agree. Language is important. When Obama said that “the deaths of 4 Americans isn’t optimal” (on the John Stewart Show) he opened a window into the heart of man who cares little for the suffering families of the deceased.

    But he is a Democrat and pretty much can say anything and get away with it.

  • mar

    Danny, when the Bible has been used as a weapon against us, it is perfectly normal to feel allergic for awhile … maybe a long while. The Bible isn’t a mediator … you can hear.

  • mar

    An example of a powerful word which demonstrates a power inequality … the little three-letter word “let” … as in, “my husband lets me (fill-in-the-blank) or, as kathy escobar so articulately states it, “my church lets women lead” … as long as “let” is in the sentence, there is a power issue …

    http://kathyescobar.com/2012/09/10/we-let-women-lead/

  • BW

    Oh, predictable Steve. You know you have to look at what was said before and after just like you do with the buybull…but then fundies like you only do that when it’s convenient to your cause.

  • Caryn LeMur

    “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth does speak.” May I offer the following:

    - To someone that composes music, this is the major key or the melodic theme that repeats within the symphony;

    - To someone that paints, this is the color undertones beneath the composition that give it light or darkness;

    - To someone that lives within the desert, this is the unescapable dust and sand that permeates even the signs of life.

    This is how we know a speaker’s heart – not by his or her choice of a single word, but by the dominant key, the repeating theme, the undertones, or the continuous ‘background’ that is the fabric of their vocal composition.

    When I listen to my own internal ‘coaching’ – the scripts I play over and over in my mind – what do I hear? and how do I change those scripts? How do I protect this deepest part of me, so that it gains the theme, ‘To you, my Jesus, that will keep me from falling and present me before your glorious presence without fault and with great joy’?

    The music-within is good to ponder. May the Holy Spirit give to each person the answers they need.

    Much love in Christ always and unconditionally; Caryn

  • Sa Say

    Hmmm…having not heard the Romney quote (I refuse to listen to those people), and having just run across this comic, I thought the little girl was referring to bras. Shows you were my mind is today. (for you men, that would be in a “sick-and-tired-of-bras” sort of place!)


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