the old bait and switch and spiritual abuse

In unhealthy relationships, the tactics used to keep you are not the same as those used to get you.

It’s the old bait and switch!

This happens not only in business: “What are all these hidden costs? You never told me about those!”

It happens in romantic relationships: “I can’t believe it! He was so loving. But as soon as we got married he changed into this monster!”

Sadly, it also happens with churches: “The church was awesome until I became a full member. Then suddenly all these expectations were dumped on me and I felt trapped and used!”

Sometimes it’s not malicious. Sometimes it’s just, “Now that I know you’re committed I’m going to be vulnerable and show you my dark side.” But sometimes it is malicious, as in, “Now that I know you are mine you will serve me forever or else!”

The common expression, “I didn’t sign up for this!” is common for a reason.

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