In unhealthy relationships, the tactics used to keep you are not the same as those used to get you.
It’s the old bait and switch!
This happens not only in business: “What are all these hidden costs? You never told me about those!”
It happens in romantic relationships: “I can’t believe it! He was so loving. But as soon as we got married he changed into this monster!”Sadly, it also happens with churches: “The church was awesome until I became a full member. Then suddenly all these expectations were dumped on me and I felt trapped and used!”
Sometimes it’s not malicious. Sometimes it’s just, “Now that I know you’re committed I’m going to be vulnerable and show you my dark side.” But sometimes it is malicious, as in, “Now that I know you are mine you will serve me forever or else!”
The common expression, “I didn’t sign up for this!” is common for a reason.
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