young ladies can’t do that

young ladies can't do that cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward
“Young Ladies Can’t Do That” by nakedpastor David Hayward

Lisa and I decided early… well… it wasn’t a decision, it’s just the way we are… that we wanted to provide an environment where our children could grow up independent, courageous and wise. Themselves.

We have three children. Our first two are boys. Men now. But I want to talk about our third. Our third child is a girl, now one of these young ladies in the cartoon. I clearly remember her early days when she began to verbally challenge us. Instead of responding with the traditional and easy “You will think and do as we say because we’re your parents” routine, we interpreted those embryonic expressions of defiance as opportunities for discussion, dialog and even debate. Yes, it’s exhausting. Yes, it’s messy. Exercising the mind and spirit is hard work. But the reward is we have a courageous and confident daughter who thinks for herself. She’s pulled up a chair to the big people’s table.

So I encourage people to defy the attitude expressed in this cartoon. If you are in an intellectually stifling place, get out! Don’t let anyone control you. There are places where you can think and express yourself in your own way… where you can explore and exercise your independence, freedom and intellect.

Have you seen the recent story of the FEMEN protesters drenching an Archbishop with water? FEMEN is a topless feminist group I’ve been following for a while. They arrive in the wake of Pussy Riot, two of whom are still in a remote Russian prison. This does not surprise me. We may not all agree with their tactics. But this is what happens when people, like women and members of the LGBTQ community, are stigmatized, marginalized and silenced. They won’t have it. And they shouldn’t!

Christianity, and it’s church, has a notorious tendency to do this. But I also perceive and encourage its better impulse to liberate all people to full equality.

I was interviewed yesterday by Revangelical. You might want to check it out. It’s short.

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  • Adam Julians

    That link talking about the marriage with Rob Bell freaking your friend out has me smiling :).

  • Kris

    Excellent cartoon, Dave.

    I wish people would understand that incidents like those with FEMEN happen b/c people feel marginalized. They feel they have nothing to lose and have little hope for real change. Any group that feels this way is going to do what they have to in order to be heard. Not that I agree with all tactics, but I understand the frustration.

  • It’s absolutely astounding that this has not gone viral.

  • Al Cruise

    Maybe this is a bit of topic, but I would like someone to show me an example where keeping women under strict submission to men as helped advance their society.

  • There seems to be a little distance to travel from thinking for yourself to pouring water on a bishop or archbishop or whomever while topless.
    (Though I can say that about Europe: being topless means nothing. Maybe in Russia it does, as Putin gave the women a thumbs-up when they confronted him, which infuriated them… )

    The think also strikes one as somewhat anti-intellectual (as we are talking about “thinking”) seeing that it was interrupting a debate.

    Is there a stunt-value in it? Maybe.

    Do we want our own young women “stunting”. Do you and I want our own daughters doing this? — If they asked our opinion, of course, since we would not dream of influencing them.

  • I caught that last jab brigitte. Who ever said that allowing people to think for themselves prevented influence from occurring? Cheap shot.

  • Adam Julians

    Stunting yeah perhaps the young ladies in question could remain clothed and take some inspiration from another group campaigning for justice. Perhaps being dressed as wonderwoman would not illicit the same thumbs up form Putin.