I came across this post, “What Kind of Guy Culture Tells Us To Be and Why Ryan Gosling Isn’t That Great”. He suggests that we are receiving our role-models on how to be a man from the Hangover movies (too fun-loving), from the hit song “Blurred Lines” (too sexually confident), and from Ryan Gosling’s character in “The Notebook” (too passionate).
Personally, if my daughter met a guy like Noah in The Notebook who loved her passionately and stayed with her to the end of her days, I’d be happy.
But not according to Grant Skeldon. He claims a man should passionately pursue Christ first. He reveals his hand when he says:
“If we have a skewed image of what it means to be a man, it affects everything: our family, our friends, our future, our legacy. A man’s ability to lead a woman spiritually is completely dependent on his ability to follow Jesus.”
And there you have it. The best man is the one who has the ability to lead a woman spiritually. But I suggest this is the problem with much Christian practical theology today: it separates serving God from serving the person. It sees these two things as distinct and divided. This ultimately leads to the polarizing prioritization of serving God over serving others. Instead, I believe that all love comes from the same place. There is not one kind of love for God and another for my wife. They are one in the same.
This is what keeps false and destructive notions of male dominance and feminine weakness away from human interaction and healthy relationships.