Why Blame Satan For Suicide?

blame satan for suicide cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward

I was saddened yesterday by the news of a young pastor’s suicide. The entire story is very tragic. I was silenced in the face of such terrible news. I can’t imagine what his family and friends are going through. Horrible!

I read Jennifer LeClaire’s opinion in Charisma News, “Why Are So Many Pastors Committing Suicide?”. LeClaire honestly shares her own past struggle with depression, so she can genuinely identify with so many who struggle similarly. She is also concerned about the fate of pastors and has gathered statistics that reveal pastors live difficult lives often burdened with very deep struggles that few know or understand. I know this to be true from experience. The following statement is the core of her post:

“Many of the harmful actions we take originate from the seed of a thought Satan whispers to our souls.”

LeClaire chose to focus on the personal aspect of what goes on in the mind of a suicide. But I suggest this understanding of the demonic no longer suffices. In fact, I fear that promoting this superstitious belief will not only prevent some people from seeking professional help but even provide a culture within which self-harming thoughts and actions are stimulated. As well, her paradigm focuses on the problem as individual rather than communal. I believe in many suicide cases the social problem is the context within which the personal one is exacerbated. I would like to explore this social aspect as sensitively as possible.

Disclaimer: I am not a professional in the mental health field. Even though I’ve dealt with a lot of suicides and their families and friends over the years, I am not an expert. I’ve only been involved with pastoral counseling and the study of theology. So I humbly offer my meagre perspective to hopefully add more to the conversation around this increasing problem. I also want to say that in no way am I blaming the family and friends of suicides. Often suicide occurs to the shock of her loving and supportive families and friends. It makes no sense why some decide to end their lives. So the focus of this post is to offer a social perspective that I hope will make healthier communities within which the option of suicide may be less attractive.

In the story of the Gerasene demoniac in Mark 5, I discern three stages in the sad story that develops around this man:

  1. Stigmatization: The first stage in the demoniacs journey away from healthy living was that he was marked by something that was different about him. Was he struggling with mental illness? Many scholars suggest that many of the ailments in the bible were blamed on demons. In a culture where these things were considered scary and therefore demonic, the next step was to project these onto the victim: he’s scary and therefore demonic. It’s the same today when someone is considered “not normal” for whatever reason. Sometimes the stigma isn’t even a real one but one that is projected onto them by others. They are stigmatized, marked as different. What often happens in a church is that a person falls and is marked with the label “failure” or “sinner”. This sets the stage for the next step.
  2. Dehumanization: When someone is considered “not normal”, they are somehow less than human. Heartless or bewildered people around the person can exalt themselves over him and look down on him as less than fully human. The demoniac is described as a wild animal. People around the stigmatized person says things like, “She’s different.” “He’s weird.” “I can’t believe she did that!” “What got into him?” “That was so out of character!” “She’s not herself!” “He’s a monster!” The language betrays the belief that somehow this person is controlled by an inhuman quality. He is no longer a healthy and desired member of society and this sets him up as a candidate for exile. In the church these are members who have sinned or are believed to be sinners and are considered a threat to the community.
  3. Ostracization: Once a person is considered less than whole, an unhealthy member of the community and perhaps even a danger to it, then the next step is to ostracize him. We see this in the church when the stigmatized person is not allowed in, is invited to leave, forced to leave, excommunicated or made to feel that he has no other choice but to leave. The demoniac was removed from society and living in a graveyard, symbolizing that he was living in the land of the dead rather than the living. Here, self-harm was his daily practice. Many feel that they are already dead inside and suppose they might as well be dead outside. They’ve been marked with a stigma, be it sin or quirk or difference or oddity or illness, and are considered less than human and no longer belong. He is ostracized and banned to outer darkness where he’s lost everything he valued about his life and all that remains to depart this world is his body.

Here are some examples:

  • Sarah at high school becomes the focus of the queen bee who is a bully. Sarah is marked as the one to be teased by the other girls. She’s less than the other girls and is not allowed in the clique. She lives in terror every day she gets on the bus or goes to school or shops at the mall.
  • John, a college student in a conservative town, is found sleeping with another young man and photographs are posted on Facebook. His family is shocked and non-supportive. The other students call him a faggot and eventually make it impossible for him to stay in school. He leaves friendless and humiliated.
  • Jane works in accounting. She is brilliant with numbers. She also suffers with Turrets. Her co-workers laugh about her ticks behind her back. She knows. Her boss recognizes Jane’s talent but also wants to be cool with the other employees, so he laughs along with them. She is never invited to their parties. She is bypassed for promotions. She lives alone.
  • The senior pastor finds a Playboy magazine in his assistant pastor’s desk. Luke is fired and kicked out of the church. The reason is announced publicly at church and published in the local newspaper. His wife leaves him and also takes the kids because she leaps to the crazy but damaging conclusion that if he is addicted to porn he is probably a pedophile too. The judge agrees. He gets a minimum wage job and lives alone in a basement apartment.

Again, I want to be a support to the families and friends of those who commit suicide. At the same time I want to help create safe communities where the horrible social practices of stigmatization, dehumanization and ostracization are not employed. Like my cartoon suggests, our social constructs and behaviors may act like demonic powers that can prepare a person for self-harm and suicide. There are many little deaths that happen before the final one… like the death of dignity, the death of emotion, spirit and hope, and the death of our social networks. My hope is that if we stopped practicing these, suicide might be less of a viable option for some.

Like Jesus did in the gospel story of the demoniac, can we appreciate a diversity of people with all our different struggles? Can we treat all people as fully human with dignity and respect? Can we embrace everyone in our communities? Can we create safe communities within which suicide, the desire to radically leave the community, becomes less of a desired option?

I believe so.

About David Hayward

David Hayward runs the blog nakedpastor as a graffiti artist on the walls of religion where he critiques religion… specifically Christianity and the church. He also runs the online community The Lasting Supper where people can help themselves discover, explore and live in spiritual freedom.

  • Cecilia Davidson

    I cannot even begin to start on how religion was made for those who were damaged by life, but now it’s become a culture of “If you’re not perfect, fuck off.”

  • http://religiouscomics.net/ Jeff P

    I’ve always viewed suicide as having three contributing factors
    1. unfortunate (and untreated) brain chemistry of the individual
    2. Some trigger or event that made this day different than the days before.
    3. possible backdrop of an intolerable social situation
    I’m sure things can definitely get exasperated when certain negative aspects of religion come into play. Ideas of demonic procession, of being not worthy, less than human… especially if the religious beliefs discourage seeking medical help…

  • Al Cruise

    After 40 years of street ministry I have found that in most Church’s especially the affluent ones, the leadership is usually totally inept in knowing how to handle the real life problems people encounter. For anyone going through difficult times, you are going to be better served by people in the secular world or people operating apart from their Church.

  • http://morfadulas.com/ Dyfed Wyn Roberts

    The stigmatisation process is so tough to deal with and almost impossible to stop.

  • klhayes

    This topic reminds me of an author on spirituality, Karen Armstrong. She talks
    about how we need to externalize evil when in fact the evil WE do to
    ourselves and one another are very human. Satan is a way to do
    externalize the evil.

    I cannot imagine life being so bad that I would want to end things, but I can understand how events in some people’s lives can push them to that point. And I am aware that it is possible that I could be pushed to that point.

  • Mark

    Once, the youth director, who was also the computer network guy, discovered porn on the senior minister’s computer. The board of trustees had a talk with the minister, and with the denomination officials, and I believe got the minister some counseling. The wife didn’t leave. Perhaps Satan wanted a little more time to corrupt the minister. Or maybe he had a soft spot in – does Satan have a heart? – for the wife and family, and didn’t want them out on the street. Or maybe he just wanted to plant the seed in someone’s head to rat out the denomination for keeping broken people in the ministry. Satan’s a weird guy. We’ve done a good job of creating him in our image.

  • http://youtube.com/user/BowmanFarm Brian Bowman

    “The death of the spirit is the price of progress.”

    ~Eric Voegelin (1999) Modernity Without Restraint. University of Missouri, p.195.

  • Melody

    Interesting. It feels like things are often externalized in religion with Satan being responsible for the bad and God for the good. But where does that leave people and their responsibility?

  • klhayes

    It goes deeper than taking responsibility. Someone struggling with mental illness cannot be held to the same standards. It’s about accepting we all have the potential to do very good AND very bad things. When a person does something bad, fails at something, suffers from a physical or mental problem that is not their fault, we need to be able to say “that could be me.”

  • Melody

    I guess I just responded to the first part of your previous comment. I wasn’t referring to suicide, but more in general: how, for instance, disease or wars are blamed on the devil and saintly deeds by people always have to come from God. If you look at it like that it seems as if there is no wiggle room for humankind to make their own decisions, both good and bad. (which I don’t agree with) It was a rethorical question because if everything is externalized then there is no responsibility.

    I totally agree with your second comment.

  • pitaya

    As someone who has considered suicide in the past, I have to say that many of these comments are spot-on. I was attending an evangelical church where the pastor fervently pursued (for lack of a better word) my husband and me until we became members and were baptized. But no sooner did we become members and sure enough it was nearly impossible to contact him (he always had time to attend basketball games or go clothes shopping, but never to listen to his parishioners). We were going through a VERY rough time, and he just disappeared off the map. And we weren’t the only ones that this happened to, unfortunately. There was a substantial turnover of members in that church, with many not lasting even 6 months before a new batch would come in. The big problem is: if this is your first or only experience of church, how quickly you can lose faith in the the church community and Christianity as a whole. I am STILL trying to recover from that experience, because it has made me bitter. When bad things have happened since then, I never considered turning to God, or to a church.


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