One thing that ADF-style ritual is very big on is sacrifice. During the course of a ritual, I give sacrifices of barley and oats to the Earth Mother, I give incense to the fire, silver to the well, and enjoy anointing the tree with oil. I give sacrifices to the three Kindred (the Ancestors, Nature Spirits, and the Gods). In short, I give something for everyone that is invited to share in the sacredness of ritual space and time.
It tends to make a girl count all the offerings before the ritual starts at least 7 times to be sure they are all there. Nothing destroys the flow of ritual more then to have to run off to go get a sacrifice that was forgotten to be placed out to start with. There is a good reason for all this giving of physical and creative energy, and that reason is because it is polite to do, and part of being a good host.
During ritual, I invite the Kindred to share my house and space, and like any good host, it is my job to make my guests feel welcome and comfortable. Just as I would offer human guests a drink and something to snack on, I offer sacrifices to the kindred during ritual. This is what is meant by hospitality. We have asked these very powerful spirits into our lives, it is good to show that we care that they have indeed come to participate in our ritual. We provide for wants and needs as best we can, just as the Kindred do for us in our everyday lives. I also try to give the best I can afford without my husband getting too irate, because what I give shows how much I care about the relationship. Cheap and tatty gifts are looked at askance by our human gift recipients, so should we expect different form the Kindred? The manner in which I offer it is also something to consider. A costly gift is great, but wouldn’t be too pleasant to get if it was thrown in my face like a fast ball going over home base. My attitude in how I give my sacrifice is just as important as the gift itself.