Saturday Evening Post #7

Every month Elizabeth Esther invites us to share the latest and greatest from our blogs. Run over to her site and read all the other great entries and maybe share one of your own post from the last month.It's always tough to pick just one to share, but this month was worse than usual!I wrote my most popular post ever, Excessive Modesty makes me feel objectified. I talked about the changes in our family since we stopped spanking one year ago. I wrote about the judgment and discrimination in the christian community that weighs heavy on my heart.  And I shared my arsenal of gentle discipline blogs and websites.The one I decided to share at for the Saturday Evening Post is my post … [Read more...]

I’d love to post but…

My in-laws are coming over today. And I still have to air out the house, clean the bathrooms, catch up on laundry, clean my kitchen and vacuum everything (and I do mean everything! The girls were eating cake in their bedroom yesterday). Not to mention clean all the bedding that has been sitting in storage for months. So the 3 posts that are almost finished, are just going to have to sit in my documents folder until next week. Thank you so much for the emails and comments, they mean so much to me, and I will definitely be getting back to you.In the meantime, I'd appreciate your thoughts and prayers this weekend, since we never know how well family visits will go these days. It all … [Read more...]

I love you, I like you.

“Why don’t you ever say ‘I love you’?” My hubby and I were snuggling on our bed one night when he asked the question. At first I was indignant! “Of course I love you, what are you talking about?” He answered.“I know you love me Honey, but you don’t say those words to me. You say it once in awhile, like after I tell you that I love you, but I don’t really remember you saying to me on your own.”I thought about it for a moment, wracking my brain.“Well, I don’t just love you. I like you.”He laughed. “That’s true! Now that you mention it, you say ‘I like you’ all the time. But what’s wrong with ‘I love you’?”He was right, I didn’t say “I love you” very much. What was wrong with me? What was wrong … [Read more...]

My favorite part of the day

My baby is one year old. I can tell by how she can run around the house now, and tries to get involved in her sisters games. Her huge blue eyes rimmed with long curly black lashes can convince me to do anything. Her hair curls all over her head and grows into a strange looking little “tail” at the nape of her neck. I love how she leans toward me with a huge grin on her face, daring me to chase her. She can drink out of a sippy cup now, and I think she prefers it to her bottle. Of course she prefers nursing over the cup or bottle (or most solid foods for that matter). She cannot sit still when she nurses, she wiggles all over my lap, does headstands and sticks her little bottom in the air, and … [Read more...]

Quick Takes #25: Home Alone edition

So this week I have been without my hubby since he was away for work. I've been pushing my introvert self out of the box a little bit and leaving the house! These are some of the adventures I've had with the girls this week.1. While waiting in line at the Dollar Store checkout, Ms Drama was whining loudly in the wagon because she wanted to hold the package of candy bracelets we were buying. The older woman in line behind us pointed at the happy Ms Pooky on the opposite end of the wagon and said in a slightly accented voice "she is the best one." Not sure how to respond to that, I replied "She's a happy one! Everything is an adventure when your 1 year old." The older woman shook her … [Read more...]

Never Good Enough

I never smoked, I never drank, I never did drugs. I never went out alone. I didn’t hang out with bad friends, actually I had no friends to hang out with. I wore dresses only. I did not flirt. I never had sex. In fact, my husband was the first man I ever held hands with, much less kissed. I was at home most of the time. I helped dress younger siblings, I changed diapers, I cleaned, I helped siblings with home school. I cooked most of the dinners for my family.Sometimes I worked so much around the home during the day, I had a hard time keeping up with my own schoolwork. I wasn’t the perfect teen. I was depressed for several years. I didn’t always have the best attitude, I tended to procr … [Read more...]

Escaping the corporal punishment mentality

Early in childhood I thought everyone spanked their kids. I was spanked for disobedience, laziness, backtalk, bad attitude. I was used to it. I was not spanked every day, probably several times in any given week. But with all the kids in my family, multiple spankings were given out every day in my home. When I was in charge I was taught to spank my siblings for disobedience, to maintain control. When I was a "mothers helper" at age ten for a woman having a tough pregnancy, I watched her kids all day while she directed from the couch. Her seven year old son talked back at some point during the day and I remember his mother writing it down to tell his father. When his father got home from … [Read more...]