Never Good Enough

I never smoked, I never drank, I never did drugs. I never went out alone. I didn’t hang out with bad friends, actually I had no friends to hang out with. I wore dresses only. I did not flirt. I never had sex. In fact, my husband was the first man I ever held hands with, much less kissed. I was at home most of the time. I helped dress younger siblings, I changed diapers, I cleaned, I helped siblings with home school. I cooked most of the dinners for my family.Sometimes I worked so much around the home during the day, I had a hard time keeping up with my own schoolwork. I wasn’t the perfect teen. I was depressed for several years. I didn’t always have the best attitude, I tended to procr … [Read more...]

Escaping the corporal punishment mentality

Early in childhood I thought everyone spanked their kids. I was spanked for disobedience, laziness, backtalk, bad attitude. I was used to it. I was not spanked every day, probably several times in any given week. But with all the kids in my family, multiple spankings were given out every day in my home. When I was in charge I was taught to spank my siblings for disobedience, to maintain control. When I was a "mothers helper" at age ten for a woman having a tough pregnancy, I watched her kids all day while she directed from the couch. Her seven year old son talked back at some point during the day and I remember his mother writing it down to tell his father. When his father got home from … [Read more...]

Fast Food Conversation

So this weekend we pull up to the drive-thru after a long afternoon of swimming in the public pool, damp sleepy children in the back of the car.Fast food worker (FFW): Can I take your order?Hubby: Yeah I’d like the big sandwich meal, andFFW (interrupting): Would you like to jumbo your order?Hubby: Um, no thank you. Make my drink a coke andFFW (interrupting): So that’s one regular sized big sandwich meal, Would that be all?Hubby: No, I need a chicken nugget andFFW (interrupting): The meal, the 4 piece, or the 6 piece?Hubby: The 4 piece please andFFW(interrupting): So that's one regular sized big sandwich meal with a coke and a 4 piece chicken nugget. Would that be all?Hubby: Um, no that’s not … [Read more...]

Christianity and Discrimination

I love what the Catholic Church teaches on Sexuality, I have never found any teaching so compassionate and yet true to what I have found in the bible as well as Church History and the way human bodies have been fashioned. And yet, I know that the mentality of hate exists within the Catholic Church as well as the Protestant Church.It frustrates me that despite the incredible teachings on paper there is still so much discrimination against fellow humans. Christians accuse homosexuals of turning a sin into an identity, but we do the very same thing when we mistreat them based on that sin. How come practically every other sin is "between you and God" but as soon as it is found out a person … [Read more...]

Small moments that matter

I took my girls to the Dentist for their first routine check up. That sounds simple, but it was a bit more complicated than that. The appointment was for Ms Action, but I knew that she is a little reticent to try new things, so I planned on letting Ms Drama tag along for a little peer pressure. For days before the appointment we talked about it. Mommy went to Dentist, and opened her mouth really big and wide, and the nice Dentist brushed her teeth with a little brush and flossed them with a little string. It didn’t hurt, but it felt a little funny sometimes. YOU get to go to the Dentist too, and you will get to sit in the big chair and open YOUR mouth big and wide so the Dentist can count Y … [Read more...]

Books on Discipline

As I've changed the way I parent I've struggled to feel equipped to discipline my children without resorting back to the punishment mentality I was raised with. I written about some of the books I've read in this last year, but hadn't found anything that I felt was truly helpful in re-training my mind, and giving me new tools to use in my approach to gentle parenting. In the last 3 months, I feel as though I've discovered the jackpot of encouraging books through my library system. Here are the titles and what I thought of them in case you want to check them out too. Feel free to ask any questions about any of the books and I will try to answer them as best I can!The Encouraging ParentI … [Read more...]

Who is God? And if He’s there, what does He want from me?

Sometimes Christianity makes no sense to me. God, made the world, and for some reason granted humans capacity to think. Then He decided to categorize an extensive bunch of stuff as sin, and He was so disgusted by all humans committing sins (since it is pretty much inescapable) that He decided to send us all to eternal punishment after we die. But He didn’t like the idea of everyone burning in Hell, so He created a way for a few of us to escape. He sent His son, Himself, to die for our sins. To be sacrificed in our place, to pay for the stuff that He had decided wasn’t acceptable. But this doesn’t automatically rescue everyone, only people that decide to believe it all and live their lives acc … [Read more...]