Bedtime Conversation

The kids were having a bit of a hard time settling down tonight, and after some protesting on their part I said goodnight and left the room. After I shut the door, this is what I overheard from the hallway.2 year old: No want to go to bed!3 year old: Everyone has to go to bed. Mommy and Daddy have to go to bed too.Silence3 year old continues: Don't worry, in the morning we go to the store and get some food.2 year old: Go to store!3 year old: Yep, and we will pay some money and get rice cakes and cucumbers and cookies.2 year old: A bug will bite me. (This random statement probably illustrates that I am not doing as well as I hoped hiding my fear of bugs.)3 year old: Yeah, the ants will … [Read more...]

7 Quick Takes: Or 7 Ways to increase your chance of getting laid, even when you have kids

Any one of these tips if used on a given day have helped me to stop making excuses and actually get laid! These are not necessarily in order of most or least effective.1. Kiss himAnd I don't mean the quick peck before he leaves for work. (But those are nice too!) I mean really kiss him. Like when you were dating and trying not to do "other stuff". You'd be surprised where a good make-out session can lead you. Maybe the kids are awake and you really only have the chance for a good kiss, then make the most of it! If nothing else it can connect you for now, and maybe inspire something for later.2. Don't say noThis may seem like a silly one, but when your husband propositions you, … [Read more...]

I don’t have to justify myself

It started when I wrote this post on why people shouldn’t have to justify themselves to me. Then I read this amazing article written by a woman who has a child with Downs syndrome, in it she talks about how people ask her if she ever got the pre-natal test that would have informed her of her baby’s condition, and she asks why she has to justify his existence.It got me thinking, how often have I felt the need to justify my own children’s existence, when people ask if one of my closely spaced kids was a “mistake”. No one should ever have to justify their child’s existence. And that led to me thinking about just how often I attempt to justify my thoughts, my opinions, my experiences, myself … [Read more...]

I Quit Spanking

We stopped spanking a year ago this month. And I would never go back. I had read the Christian parenting books like "To train up a Child" and "Raising Godly Tomatoes" and tried to the best of my ability to follow what they taught. I spanked consistently. I tried to stay cool calm and collected, and to not spank in anger. I used a wooden spoon so my kids would not associate my hands with pain, and I was careful to limit my swats and never leave a mark on my children. It didn’t work. And looking back I can hardly believe that I fell for the reasoning for spanking when I grew up being spanked myself, and I remember how it made me feel. I can hardly believe the things that I u … [Read more...]

Saturday Evening Post #6

The first Saturday of the month Elizabeth Esther invites us to share the latest and greatest from our blog. Hop over to meet more bloggers, and maybe add your own entry.Once again, I always find it incredibly hard to pick just one. Even on months where I don't think I really wrote that much, I always end up with way to many posts I'd like to share. :)But since we have to stick with just one, I'm going to share my post "I want to be Confident". Because it was one of the most popular posts of the month. It highlights a moment in time with 3 kids under the age of 4. And I struggle with some real questions about family pressure and decision making. … [Read more...]

Quick Takes #24

1.Have you heard of the exercise where you as a spouse are supposed to read 1 Corinthians 13 replacing the word "love" with your name? Like "John is patient, john is kind etc.." I was recently thinking, what if we read the passage replacing the word love with God? After God is love. It's actually pretty amazing to wonder if this really is who God is! God is patient, God is kind. God is not jealous, God is not pompous, God is not inflated, God is not rude, God does not seek his own interests, God is not quick-tempered, God does not brood over injury, God does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. God bears all … [Read more...]

Excessive Modesty makes me feel objectified

This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. I have memories of playing at the park in similar attire. I didn’t grow up in a Mennonite family, but we emulated them in our modesty s … [Read more...]