Discipline Vs. Punishment

I used to think that Discipline = Punishment. I grew up in a house that spanked, and although I didn't like it I figured there wasn't any other way to maintain order. I read all the books that said that every child needed to be spanked, and not only that, but that the bible commanded us to do it. With my oldest child I dutifully tried to follow the guidelines I had read about in the Michael Pearl or Ezzo books. Spank consistently for every offence. Never spank in anger. Don't use your hand because your hands should be used for loving. Plus the Pearls promised in their book that if you started early, by the time they were 6 or so they wouldn't even misbehave anymore and then you wouldn't have … [Read more...]

7 Quick Takes #3 (Or random facts about me)

       1.I love music. I think it can change the entire mood of the day to have peaceful or joyful music on in the background. I try to remember that when the day isn't going so well, putting in a CD can make a big difference.       2.I love scrap-booking because I want to have memories of my children saved in an organized way, but between having a baby and trying to start an exercise routine and now the holidays, I haven't done anything in that department for at least 8 months.       3.Not getting to said scrapbooking bothers me a lot and I feel depressed about it quite frequently. Whats even worse is … [Read more...]

Small Successes #4

For more small successes punch the button above! 1. Vaccuumed behind the couch, stove and fridge for the first time in a year. (Wow that was intense) It was way easier than I thought it would be, I have no idea why I put it off for so long. I feel great about it!! I also washed every single dish (my most hated chore) that I had allowed to pile up on my counter, including the muffin pans and the cookie pans. My counter was completely clean for a whole half hour! 2. We went a little crazy this week with "fun time" and we painted, did playdough, made pies and got to finish Christmas shopping.3. Mornings have been going way better around here. Having french toast or muffins already made in the … [Read more...]


*Sigh*I love the quiet of the house after the girls are in bed. Its almost deafening, but its pleasant after the ruckus of the day.Last night my house was perfect, tonight there are dishes on the counter and rice scattered under the table from dinner. Every child's book we own is piled on the couch from bedtime reading. The laundry is all clean, but in a huge pile waiting to be folded. And instead of doing any of it I am on the computer.Life is crazy and wonderful and exhausting all at the same time. I'm excited because the Christmas present for the girls came today. I ordered this online and I LOVE it. Such great pictures, easy to remember stories. Ms. Action will be "reading" it from … [Read more...]

Lessons learned from an almost 3-year-old

One afternoon this last weekend I decided to run to the store and get some of my Christmas shopping done. Leaving the sleeping 1 year old (Ms. Drama) and the baby in my hubby's care, I went out into the freezing cold, and since my almost 3 year old (Ms. Action) refuses to nap, I took her with me to the store. We have to park all the way at the end of the parking lot (how can every space be full?) and run to the building squealing "its cold!" the whole way. Once we are inside we stop to take off our mittens, hats and scarves and put them in our very own pockets (pockets are thrilling to a 3 year old). I feel almost like a normal mom walking through the store with just one toddler, it's a … [Read more...]

7 Quick Takes #2

       1. I am renewing my efforts to wash every-ones hands when we get home from going ANYWHERE. I missed twice and now all the babies have runny noses. I really think it was helping!          2. I got a box of presents sent from my Grandparents. It made me cry when I got it in the mail, it cost them $26 to mail 3 little homemade nightgowns and a Pink Panther DVD and a Cookbook all the way up here. We had told everyone not to get us presents since postage and customs is ridiculous, but Grandpa didn't listen. It made me feel so good to get a box from family that I am re-thinking our "no-present" policy, … [Read more...]

Small Successes #3

To read other small successes punch the button above.1. I tackled and conquered Mount Laundry in my basement, finally we have clothing to wear again. I'm hoping to stay on top of it from here on out, counting on the kids not getting sick of course.2. Menu planned and grocery shopped for the next 2 weeks, and managed to get the items needed (while staying within my budget) for meals that didn't require beans! Whew! We needed a break from those.3. This doesn't count as an actual success yet (unless admitting I have a problem is a success), but I am hoping that someone will be able to help me make it one. If you want to contribute check this out and leave your suggestions. … [Read more...]