There is a day in which we must die. Die to our self-focus, our opinions, preferences, tastes, and will. We must die to the world and its approval or critique, and die to the approval, blame or shame of even of our family and friends. We must look at our lives as one with God and one in God. When we can truly die so that we may live the freedom life that God has designed for us, we can then show ourselves approved to God alone.
Do you see dying to self a positive thing?
It is important to realize that dying does not take away from the brilliance of who you are, but that it eliminates the stuff that hinders the life you were meant to live.
What is stopping you from surrendering to oneness with God and being established in Him?