From Resistance to Respect: A Conversation With Jonathan Youssef

Jonathan Youssef, 28, often preaches at Church of the Apostles.

When listening to Jonathan Youssef preach a passionate sermon at Church of the Apostles or hearing him share energized ministry updates on the radio from around the world, one assumes he has always wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps.  The son of influential pastor and author Dr. Michael Youssef, Jonathan, 28, now plays an increasingly significant role in his father’s pastoral ministry at the evangelical Anglican megachurch in Atlanta, and serves as International Director for Leading The Way, Youssef’s radio and television ministry.

But Jonathan did not always envision a role in the ministry.  In fact, from a young age he was very resistant to the idea of becoming a pastor.  Dr. Youssef recalls how when Jonathan was a child, he would sit in the office and watch him work on his sermons amongst towering stacks of books.  “If this is what you have to do to be a pastor, I never want to do it,” Jonathan would say. “It’s like having a ton of homework.”

Jonathan did not want to be a preacher when he was younger.

Jonathan’s resistance to ministry involvement – and to his father – continued in his teen years.  “As a kid and early teen, I was disrespectful to my father. I used to make fun of some of the things he would say and the way he would say them,” Jonathan shared candidly.  “I know he has forgiven me, but I wish I could go back and tell the younger version of myself how foolish it is to do that.”

Jonathan is quick to point out his mistakes and he uses his past struggles to challenge others to respect their fathers.  “God has delivered me from my negative attitudes, and I tell other sons to avoid this at all costs because it is not edifying and it only destroys,” he said.  “I wish every son could have the relationship that I have with my father now.  I love and respect him and learn so much from his example.”

Jonathan met with believers in Bangalore, India in 2010.

As the scope and impact of Dr. Youssef’s ministry has grown, so has Jonathan’s strategic role.  Today, Leading The Way’s television and radio programs are broadcast in more than 20 languages, covering over 190 countries, and Jonathan works closely with his father to carry out his vision of “helping God’s Kingdom to grow,” often representing him at events and meetings around the world.  “It has been most rewarding for me to sit under my father’s leadership and watch how he operates and comes to decisions,” said Jonathan. “It is also very humbling to travel around the world on behalf of the ministry and meet people who have been impacted by his efforts, even in the most remote regions.  When people realize I am Dr. Youssef’s son, they usually give me a big smile and a hug, because they feel a closer connection immediately.”

Jonathan and his father now share a strong relationship and work together closely in ministry.

Jonathan’s leadership at Church of the Apostles has increased as well, and he acknowledges that while his sermons draw from his father’s preaching style he is still trying to find his own voice.  “I think I have emulated a lot of my father’s techniques when it comes to preaching, and I am still new to it, so I will eventually develop my own style,” he said, adding that he is currently a student at Reformed Theological Seminary.  “It is truly my heart that I express when preaching, and as I strive to be genuine with people my own personality will naturally come out.”

As we approach Father’s Day, I asked Jonathan five questions about his relationship with his father:

RM:  What is the most important lesson you have learned from your dad?

JY:  I have learned a lot of lessons from dad, but the most important lesson is how to be a true Christian or follower of Christ. It’s not about what you bring to the table, but rather the condition of your heart.

RM:  What is one thing you think people would be surprised to learn about Dr. Youssef?

JY:  People would be surprised to learn that dad is very much an introvert and as a boy he was extremely shy and used to hide from people. It took real determination for him to get over that, and today dad is a pretty transparent person and really has nothing to hide.

RM:  Has it been tough to step out of your dad’s shadow in the ministry?

JY:  People will always see me in my father’s shadow, and that is fine with me, as it is a great shadow to be in. I was just reading in the Bible about Elijah and Elisha, and their relationship as mentor and mentee. I am just trying to learn as much as I can from my dad right now.

RM:  Can you share any memorable reactions from encounters when people have realized you are Michael Youssef’s son?

JY:  One time that stands out is from when I was having my house sprayed by a pest-control company, and the technician said my name was familiar. He said there was a pastor he listened to on the radio with the last name “Youssef,” and he was pretty sure he had a son named Jonathan, and that he had heard him preach on the radio too. I did not tell him that was me; instead, I wanted to hear his opinion before revealing my identity.  He said he loved the ministry and the preaching style.  I laughed and told him who I was, and we are good friends now.  I’m not sure what I would have said if he told me, “Jonathan Youssef is a lousy preacher!”

RM:  What encouragement or advice can you offer fathers and sons as we approach Father’s Day?

JY:  Fathers – do not force your sons to be people they are not; instead, encourage them in the areas they are gifted in. If your son is not good at baseball, don’t force him to do it. My dad was always good at encouraging all my siblings in our strengths, and we each had different strengths and weaknesses. Love your children and show them how to be Christ-followers, and love your wife so your children will know what a healthy marriage looks like. Always pray for your children; you cannot protect them from everything, but God can… so leave the heavy lifting to Him, because they are His and He has merely entrusted them to you for a time.

Sons – be obedient. If you are disrespectful to your earthly father, you will be disrespectful to your Heavenly Father. Listen to your parents’ advice, as they have been around longer than you.  Even though you may think you have it all figured out, trust me, you don’t. Never be afraid to go to your dad for help; he will not turn you away… he probably wants to help you. I promise you, having a strong, loving, healthy relationship with your father will put you at a huge advantage in life. You will have greater self-esteem, better relationships with others, and will probably be more successful. The statistics are there to prove it!

A version of this column was featured in the Christian Post.

Check out the rest of our Father’s Day series on the Faith & Family Channel:

Life With Father: A Conversation With Nathan Zacharias

Dynamic Duo: A Conversation With Jordan Sekulow

Growing Up Junior: A Conversation With George Hiller, Jr.

  • Cyril Ludlow

    Brings back memories of my seven sons and how they showed respect to my wife and me. Thought of a pastor who has two daughters whom I will send to having them change the gender of the interviewee. They presently appear not to be serving the Lord but hopefully this may impact them. Thank you.

  • sylestine

    Thanks for this inspiring message.I have learnt something as a parent and i request you kindly to pray for me so that i may have patience with children when correcting them. Thanks and be BLESSED!.

  • Belinda Elliott

    Lovely message. There is love and respect for his father!

  • Richard Schivley

    Thank you, for an article that is very timely for me. My, one, and only son, who is going to be 19, in July, has really been in his own world for the past year or so. He is 19, going on, 40! My wife, sister and friends have told me, “He will grow out of it”. I love my son and pray that God will, always, keep him in His care. I feel like I have a responsibility to pass down things my father shared with me, as a child and young man. Great advise and counsel. Cherished even more now, that I’m a father and mentor. “Mark my words” and “Just as sure as God made little green apples”, my father’s words have resonated through out my life and in particular at “special” events, or milestones within my life.
    How grateful I am to know that my son’s attitudes and actions are, “normal”, and he will grow out of them one day. As for me? The sooner the better. Until then I give it to Jesus and God Almighty, to see us through. Thank you, Jonathan, for this article and hearing it from a son’s perspective. God Bless the Youssef’s and Apostles and Leading The Way!

  • http://www.mythirtyone.comJun62 June Perera

    This truly was an enlightening interview with a son about his father. It wonderful that Jonathan chose to follow in the footsteps of Michael Youcef, his father. into the ministry for there is a real need today for ministers who are devoted to getting the truth of Gof’s Word into the hearts of people around the world. Thank you for sharing.

  • Arun Kumar

    Its wonderful!!!

  • Gloria Conrad

    Excellent article. Having lived in Roswell, GA for 38 years, I am a longtime follower of Dr. Youssef; in fact I knew several members of his church in the early days of ministry there.
    It is a joy to see the progress ofyour ministry and to be a part of it from a distance. However, I was surprised today to see an ad at the bottom of the right side of the page following “Archives” and “Categories”. The ad showed a picture and the wording was “I’m Robert Comstock and I’m a Mormon.” At the bottom it said “watch my video.” I feel like you probably are not aware of it and that is why I’m sending this message. May the Lord continue to bless you and yours abundantly and thank you for teaching the Gospel to the world.

  • http://777oneradio.webs.com Jerry Herrera

    Very well said by your son and Happy Fathers Day! :)

  • Richard Johnson

    Im thankful for my father that is in heaven rejoying with Jesus today . He die of liver cancer in 2000 .I learn from a man that worked hard at church and his job .He was a church leader sunday school supertent for East Side Church Of Nazarene in Southeast Missouri . See what your son is doing is a blessing to me reaching out being like his father by the way your a God sent person. One that want to give people from the word of God what people need to hear My God bless you over and over for your good works.

  • Fred Younkins

    Thanks be to God that You, Jonathan, have this wonderful relationship with your father.

  • Larry Bowers

    What I just read was a wonderful testemony of the way a relationship between a father and son can change for the good by the Grace of our Havenly Father!

  • Mike and Carol Moran

    God is Good!!! Thank you Michael and Jonathan. Happy Fathers Day!!!

  • http://Facebook/aol Jeffrey Allen

    I can relate Johnathn,i barely respected my Father because I knew he wanted the best for me.However at that time I didntt want the best for myself.Things worked out wonderful and now my Grandfather and Father will always live in my heart reguardless. But not before JESUS he spanked me. Bless you and your family always.