In which I ruin the sanctity of marriage.

If it were 1958, I would be ruining the sanctity of marriage.

Look at us, breaking Deuteronomy 22:9!

See, I am white. Abe, on the other hand, is half-Chinese. And just 54 years ago, 96% percent (NINETY SIX PERCENT) of Americans would have thought that Abe and I wanted to literally crush them with our interracial steamroller.

Much of this was based on religious beliefs. In fact, in 1959, when Richard and Mildred Loving, an interracial couple, were arrested and charged with a felony, a judge ruled:

Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents…The fact that he separated the races show that he did not intend for the races to mix.

Interracial marriage was illegal in many states (the number was as high as 41 in 1960) in the U.S. until 1967, when such laws were finally deemed unconstitutional. And you know what? 75% of Americans still disapproved of interracial marriage.

But that didn’t matter. The majority didn’t get to decide on the rights of the minority. Because, as the supreme court stated:

Marriage is one of the “basic civil rights of man,”

Many churches didn’t like this. Some churches still don’t like this (the Christian school that I grew up in “highly discouraged” interracial marriage). But that didn’t matter either. The churches didn’t get to decide on the rights of people either.

So, I get to marry my partner once we have the money and the means to do so, and that’s awesome.

Even if the majority of people still disagreed with interracial marriage, they don’t get to interfere because that is my right.

Even if the majority of churches still disagreed with interracial marriage, they don’t get to interfere because that is my right.

Now, come on, America. It’s not 1967 anymore. Let’s get with the program.

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  • As someone who has dated outside of my race more often than not, I completely agree – I’m always amazed at the resistance. I love my ex, who is still my best friend, because of who he is and yes I think he’s hot, but it’s never come down to me putting a label on him as not white. Marriage equality for all!

  • Love this post. I have to say no matter what I feel about certain choices religiously, I don’t see how our government can get away with denying certain people a basic civil right based on gender or sexual preference. Guess what churches? You don’t have to perform marriage ceremonies on ANYONE you don’t want to. But the United States does not follow the same rules. More and more I find myself saying, Marriage equality for all!

  • My mind boggles at how backwards the US can be about some things. Never in all my life have I ever heard such a rethoric across the pond in England or in France coming from the church or anywhere else.
    I can’t even get my head around the justification for being against interracial marriages “Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents…” That’s the most ludicrous thing I’ve ever read. I’m so sorry you live in a place where biggoted ideas like these are so prevalent.

    • Sarah Moon

      yeah, thankfully THOSE ideas are no longer so prevalent. We still haven’t changed our thinking about homosexual relationships, unfortunately. :/

  • Ha! I so have the Gayroller 2000 t-shirt. It’s one of my very favorites.

    It kind of baffles me that people are unable (unwilling?) to see the parallels between interracial marriage and marriage equality for the LGBT community. It’s. The. Same. Thing. As you said, the majority doesn’t get to decide the rights of the minority.

    Enjoy destroying marriage! It’s fun!

    • ah! I want a gayroller 2000 shirt. haha. amazing.

  • In 1986, this document was given to a BJU student to explain why interracial dating and marriage was evil. The last paragraph of the brochure says that the origins of interracial dating/marriage is literally Satanic. 1986. 1986!!

  • John Case

    That BJU document shows how a group of people wanting to make a Biblical point will cherry pick scriptures that they think work in favor in that point of view. I admit to only scanning this paper and not reading every word, but in their reference to “a pure lineage for the Messiah,” I see no explanation of Rahab or Ruth.
    The earlier comment mentioning the connection to GLBT marriages is so spot on. I admit to being opposed to the idea when I first heard about it some 20 or 30 years ago, but any honest intellectual consideration of the subject brings into view the connection between these issues. And one has to see that faith communities have no business stepping into the decisions that are made by individuals outside their community. Paul even stated that outright! The idea of a “culture war” is ludicrous.

  • Guadalupe

    Of course, this argument falls flat because it is totally fallacious. It assumes that sexual orientation is analogous to race. Can you give me any reason whatsoever that I should believe that is true?

    • Well, first of all, both are socially constructed phenomena.

      But, that’s not really my point. I’m not drawing parallels between sexual orientation and race but between interracial and same sex MARRIAGE. Both were once thought of (almost unanimously) as immoral. Both were forbidden by the government. Both were forbidden by most churches based on the Bible. Only one has been deemed a right for all Americans, regardless of what the church/Bible/public says, yet both *should* be a right–not one that is voted on by the public or negotiated by churches, but one that is protected by the government and given to all consenting adults.

      • Oooooh….okay. XD

        Apparently, I missed the point of this post completely; I thought you were just ranting at, say, old racist Aunt Gertrude or something..

        This makes much, much more sense. 🙂

        • haha! yeah I think a couple others missed the point as well. I should have been more clear! 😛

          • LoL no worries! We’ve all done it at one point or another. 😉

            If you’re interested, I just posted about gay marriage on my main WP blog this morning. The whole issue, quite frankly, confuses me too.

    • John Case

      Yes, the marriage issue is the only one that I, too, was addressing.

  • I’m confused; did someone say to you that you two getting married was a bad thing or something? O_o

    Prejudice in America these days really has nothing on the prejudice in modern-day China. At least here, people care somewhat about hurting each other’s feelings. In China, not so much.

    In the 1950s, there was a lot going on with wars and such. It was probably more to do with fighting Communists who wanted to take over the world and less to do with whether or not they genuinely liked the color of a person. (This doesn’t make prejudice RIGHT by any means; don’t misunderstand me on that point! 🙂 )