… “A Brit named Laurie Penny was crossing Sixth Avenue in Manhattan and looking the wrong way. A taxi was headed directly toward her when, lo and behold, heartthrob Ryan Gosling came to her rescue, grabbing Penny and pulling her out of the way. It was a classic “man saves woman” story. Who doesn’t love that?
Apparently, Penny. A self-described feminist, Penny was insulted by the media’s response. “I really do object to being framed as the ditzy damsel in distress in this story,” she wrote online. “I do not mean any disrespect to Ryan Gosling, who is an excellent actor and, by all accounts, a personable and decent chap. . . . But as a feminist, a writer, and a gentlewoman of fortune, I refuse to be cast in any sort of boring supporting female role.”
Talk about ingrate.
This is why women claim chivalry is dead. Because they themselves condemn it to death.
Do not be surprised, dear feminist, when a man pushes you out of his way to save himself from a sinking cruise ship. Or stands by useless while you get mugged at gunpoint, which happened to me in college.
I like the way Emily Stimpson summed it up;
“…smart cultures have done more than simply tell boys it’s not okay to hit girls. They’ve also promoted chivalry—specific actions designed to form men in the habit of gentlemanly behavior. The idea is that if you’re schooled since boyhood to use your strength to help and honor women, once you grow up you’ll be less inclined to use that strength to harm or demean them, as well as more inclined to protect them from men whose mamas didn’t raise ‘em quite so right.”
So please don’t take it as a personal slight about your physical capabilities next time a door is held open for you or you are shoved from the path of a speeding car. You cannot have it both ways, dear feminists, and complain about the demise of chivalry while scoffing at chivalrous men. Basically, quite crying that you think all men are assholes when you’ve given them permission to treat you that way by demanding to be their equal and sacrificing your femininity.
Chivalrous men make the world a nicer place – a safer place too.