Hello, Miss America

America, if you granted my life a value, what would it be? As a black man, am I as valuable as a white man? [Read more…]

Tolerance Isn’t the Answer

Tolerance. We toss the word around like a bouncy ball in a playground and offer it up as our penance for prejudice, hatred, and violence. Tolerance. We read about it in stylish op-eds and festoon our tweets with its hashtag. Tolerance. We grasp our newfound antidote to narrow-mindedness and accept anything and everything as true. [Read More…]

Currency Exchange: Building Relational Capital Will Get You Everywhere

Each relationship in our lives has an account much like a bank account. Every interaction with another person can be looked at as a transaction. Where am I going with this? Why am I using such a cut and dry analogy to describe one of the most crucial aspects of the human experience? While I [Read More…]

Transparency: A Powerful Color

Professional actors spend their lives practicing facial expressions, voice influxes, and every other minute detail that goes into becoming a character. They do this because pretending to be something you are not, or concealing something you are, is not easy. Those watching can quickly tell when an actor has “fallen out” of character. To keep [Read More…]

Immerse Yourself

Spain, 2001. We were newlywed, Wendy and I, and fresh out of college. I had just signed a contract to play professional basketball in Córdoba, the southernmost part along the Spanish coast. Wendy, basketball, and Europe – sounds like the perfect concoction, right? But, looking back, I was still in that college mindset, perfectly content [Read More…]

Fences

We bear our beliefs like banners: Republican or Democrat. Pro-life or pro-choice. Black Lives Matter or Blue Lives Matter. Feminist, socialist, libertarian, traditionalist. We scream at each other and over each other and louder and louder and louder and- Aren’t you tired? Diversity in perhaps its most divisive form is diversity of thought. When we [Read More…]

In Close Proximity

If my childhood home was the United Nations, then that would have made me the British diplomat. Let me explain. Growing up, I’d make friends with people from all walks of life – affluent, lower income, athlete, musician, black, white, and everyone in between. They never interacted with each other, though, unless I’d bring them [Read More…]

My Work Here is Done

There are few things more satisfying to me than the hard-earned exhale of “my work here is done.” As Americans, we are bred in a culture that seeks the sweet smell of victory. We love to set our sights on a task and accomplish it. We pursue the life of the achiever; it is an [Read More…]

Where to Begin?

If you have children, you’ll know what I mean when I say kids, especially your own, teach you about yourself. I have a talking mirror who follows me around – my son. He is one of the most wonderful gifts God has ever entrusted me, and he is a reflection of me (in more than [Read More…]

Scandal of Leadership

“I applied my heart to what I observed and learned a lesson from what I saw” (Pro. 24:32). We are observing many tragic leadership decisions in our time. The author of this proverb urges us to apply our hearts to what we observe and to learn a lesson from it. Though this blog post was [Read More…]