Mother’s Day Gifts, or Why I Never Get What I Want

My kids all have “Gift Giving” as their language of love.I do not.They love birthday gifts and Christmas gifts, special treats during the week, little surprises on a shopping trip.  And as they’ve gotten older, they also like giving gifts.  So as my birthday and Mother’s Day came 2 weeks apart, “What do you want?” became an ongoing refrain.“Obedience.”Many eye rolls.  “No!  What do you really want?”“I really want obedience.”More huffs, puffs and shaking of heads, “No, what … [Read more...]

Dear Hallmark, Can We Please Have Our Sunday Back?

Ok, it is confession time… I don’t love Mother’s day. Before you think I need years of therapy, hear me out. Is it because I miss my mom who died too young?  Probably so.  But, I think it also has to do with the intense – yet highly imperfect – love I have for my own kids. Come to think of it – it’s probably a combination of both.So, I compose some version of the same letter in my head every Mother’s Day: Dear Hallmark, Could we please have our Sunday back? See, on the very day when so many … [Read more...]

Extraordinary Miracles and Ordinary Wednesdays

Losing a child is every mother’s biggest fear. It’s a fear that Laura Clark faced on February 27, 2002, when her two-month-old son Wesley was found in his crib, not breathing. Despite emergency workers' every effort, he died of SIDS at 1:06 that afternoon.Laura and her husband, Colby, were devastated, but throughout it all they felt God’s grace and love. They were utterly humbled a year later when, despite the odds, Laura delivered a healthy baby girl on February 27, 2003, at 1:06 p.m., exact … [Read more...]

Chocolate=Lies, Sex=Truth

What does it mean when you desire a hot fudge sundae more than sex with your loving, gorgeous, faithful, and servant-hearted husband?When I was still nursing my 2nd child, I attended a women’s conference with the goal of talking to friends about nurturing my marriage while having zero sex drive.  One friend, a former missionary in Africa, said, “That’s why polygamy always made sense to me.  If one wife is nursing and has no sex drive, the husband can go to another!”I attended the tail end … [Read more...]

Today is Star Wars Day… May the Fourth be with you!

Yes, today is May 4th... and you know what that means?  It's "Star Wars Day!" For Jedi fans around the world, it's a day to celebrate Luke Skywalker, Darth Vader, C-3PO, R2-D2, and all the other Lucas creations we've come to love.What makes today even more special is that this month marks the 35th anniversary of the release of Star Wars, and fans seem as excited as ever about that galaxy far, far away.So WHY May 4th?The Telegraph (U.K.) explains:May 4th is dubbed “Star Wars Da … [Read more...]

Best Advice I Ever Got

“Please don’t have her ask me to start a college ministry,” I prayed as I met with my pastor Meli to talk about what I’d be doing for my senior year practicum 25 years ago.Meli outlined the internship involving visiting the sick and dying, co-teaching two Sunday school classes, attending staff meetings and retreats and shadowing her through her day.And I kept praying she wouldn’t ask me to start a college ministry.  I had already watched 3 attempts crash and burn, including one where she … [Read more...]

How To Create a Prodigal 101

 1.  First, students, remember to major on minors:  Make no differentiation between social guffaws and moral absolutes.  In fact, invert your response if possible--For commandment-breaking acts, throw up your hands and say, Oh, she didn't actually mean to lie.  And, for matters of indifference,  go bat-crud-crazy: HOW DARE YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE WITHOUT SHOES, and so on and so forth.2.  Concern yourself with externals like 'modesty' over internals like 'a growing resentment that wi … [Read more...]

Elderly Man Reacts to Hearing Music from his Era

This really touched me, and should be an encouragement to you musicians. Read more on the Faith and Family ChannelA Poignant Moment for MeThe Joy of Pretty ThingsWhat It Was Like to Co-Write Bristol Palin's MemoirA Military Wife's Letter to her Local Church … [Read more...]