Good Decisions Come From Experience…

…and experience comes from bad decisions – that’s the small print under “Decisions” in the poster above. 

Timely for me because I’ve been mulling a biggish opportunity and even after all these years of Zen practice, I tend to do the process that I’ve done for years. 

Namely, getting stuck in my capacity to come up with equally good reasons for both “yes” and “no.”

And as an old chess player, I try to see four or five moves out. Life, however, is infinitely more complex and less predictable than chess so swirling around in all of that has limited utility.

In the midst of it, a good friend reminded me to take one step at a time.

Oh, yeah! Forgot about that for a while there.

Anyway, the worst-case scenario is that whatever I choose will look like a bad decision down the road and then it might be the basis for a good decision.

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  • Monk in the world

    Lots of dharma stuff to speak about when it comes to making choices…picking and choosing…step off the flag pole…easy for me to say..

  • Harry

    What the hell's the matter with you, didn't you have a midlife crisis and buy a motorbike like normal people?I reckon the great 'Poptart or Scrambled Eggs?' debate rages to new heights of philosophical elegance over at your place.Live dangerously before it's too late! MWAAHAAHAAHAAHAAHAHAHAHA….Regards,H.

  • Dosho Port

    Oh, man, did I have a midlife crisis! but didn't even buy a red pickup like is usually done in the US. Thank you both!

  • Mike Haitch

    Dosho,I've found that rational decision-making can be misleading because you cannot really know who you will be tomorrow or what the future holds for a particular path. Rational decision-making doesn't reveal your misperceptions or omissions.These days I sometimes wait until I feel a decision ha made itself. Sometimes I use something like the I Ching as a mirror in which to explore reflections. Sometimes I draw a mandala to explore things.Generally though I feel that few decisions are final or perfect and trying to guess what is best for the future is chasing ghosts.Recently I've needed to make a big decision. I've no idea if it is the best one. I've no idea how I will fulfil it. I've no idea what Futures will fail to manifest through choosing it. Instead it's a case that one direction feels more likely to help me be the person that is more fully me rather than the limited me that exists today. Strangely in this future there may also be a damn fox that just will not die!

  • ji bo’s blog

    when coming to forkin road,stop – have tea.

  • Larry

    Through my experience I have found that not very many care what one does with ones life, and this may be a good thing. Suck it up and move on.

  • Salinya

    Hello!I've been told that experience is a good teacher, but experiences of others is as good as well. I've just started practicing meditation and mindfulness, and I although I always find my mind wandering off to other things, I always remember that my teacher before me has experienced it, and she promised me that with proper practice and daily meditation, it will get easier to focus. What matters is that you keep trying, even if you get lost in the middle part. :)

  • Larry Anderson

    Hey Dosho Fox,Making big decisions has never been very easy for me, so I can empathize, even though I don't know your details.The word "decision" itself comes from the same root as scissors and to cut. Every decision means you cut away other possibilities in favor of the one you choose, for better and/or worse. We can't usually know 100% ahead of time that what we decide is right until time passes and it is too late to un-decide.It is somewhat paradoxical, like exercising one's freedom, in that when we choose to use it in a certain way, we are losing it to other possible ways we "coulda-shoulda-woulda" used it. We are always free not to use our freedom, but even then there is know guarantee that is the right choice. Alan Watts used to say with a big belly laugh, "You're damn if you do and damned if you don't!" Yet obviously some choices do turn out to be better than others, relatively speaking.Sorry, I've been of no help!!! May you live happily ever after as well as before and most certainly NOW.Decidedly Your Old Friend,Lars Coyote!

  • Dosho Port

    Thank you, old Coyote! Didn't know about the scissors business but that sure says it. Wishing you the same truly rarely happiness. :-)

  • Larry Anderson

    Thanx back at cha, Wild Fox-san!!! ;)